More Blood On Their Hands.

[berrylover]

Daniella, I also feel like you do. This woman must have been driven to insanity to kill her child. I have three children, and have been suicidal at times because of debts, and my ex husband's actions but what stopped me was my children.

 

However if this lady thought that there was no other option but suicide, and she had no assurances that her son would be looked after I can understand why she thought killing him too would be better. That doesn't mean that I approve of what she did, far from it, but this woman was under enormous pressure.

 

I hate not being able to give my girls all the things I want to. I wish I could do more with them, and give them all the things that their friends have, but its just not possible and so we try to be as happy as we can with what we have.

[cirian75]

I tried to reply to the papers artical in the comments section, its not been published.

[mr.ton]

The day will come soon when the consumers will start taking the DCA's to court to get compensation for stress caused by the DCA's continual harrassment.

You can only push the public so far before they finally snap DCA's......be warned

[vint1954]

It is easy to say, but it is all about keeping things in perspective. Debt is not the major part of our lives, although it can seem so at times.

 

My daughter, now 25, remembers her childhood with great happyness, I am glad to say. She remembers great times sharing time with the family, talking at length late into the night, listening to music with me, talking about all sorts of different things and reading. Boy did she read.

 

She has never mentioned enjoying the latest toy, dvd player, tv, hifi or any other expensive goods. The fact is that our children remember the good times and not the things in life, as do we if we think back. We get wound up in having to provide the latest of everything for our children, when in fact they don't realy care long term.

 

Life has to be enjoyed, no mater what your circumstances. It's no rehersal. No bank or debt collector should be allowed to take one minuite of your time from you, so don't let them.

 

I cannot begin to comprehend the mind of that poor woman, killing her own child, but I will not judge her while not knowing all of the facts.

 

There are few things certain in life. You will be born, You will die, You will pay taxes along the way. The other bits are yours to make of them what you will and best enjoy them while you can.

 

We all go through times in life, trying to survive on pennies, but that does not define life. There is so much more if we look. Admittedly dificult to find at times.

[berrylover]

Hey hey, my comment has been posted on the site. YAY! (its by Diane, Northumberland)

[Crapstone]

Thanks, Mrs Westham and Crapstone,

 

I'll look at the website, but I doubt if I'll qualify. If you are self-employed or have your own business you seldom do, but thank you anyway for that. I did ask the Court but they said I didn't as far as their fees were concerned.

 

I've heard about 'buddy' system before and will check it out. I can cook!! I wish someone would come and look after my sadly (shamefully) neglected garden which was my pride and joy before all this started.

 

I'm truly sorry everyone for my moan this morning but when I first read about this case when it happened my first thought was that I bet it was down to debt, and reading the reports which confirmed that really made me weep.

 

I'm also very sensitive to this kind of situation as my sister and an ex-boyfriend to whom I was still close also killed themselves (though not due to debt).

 

Sorry again everyone for what now looks like a self-indulgent moan.

 

DDxxx

 

You aren't moaning Daniella, you are talking and that's what this site is for. To support each other and express opinions and facts that are relevent to the site.

 

Don't give up on the grants available just because you are self-employed. A few are open to anyone regardless of your status or situation. My OH is self-employed so I know how difficult it may seem but you don't get help unless you ask and persist.

 

Although I can't agree on the news article because only one person knows the truth and they aren't able to defend themselves here, all we can do is try to stop it happening again by being supportive and looking out for signs.

 

Perhaps we can look at getting a network up and running through the Buddy System that will offer time, effort or skills in return for the same, without an exchange of money.

 

I think a few of us know people that have committed suicide for various reasons. What can we do other than carry on living? Can't change the past but wish we could. Now I'm getting down in the dumps ..best dust meself off and move swiftly on..

 

I'm glad you are feeling a bit better today. You are hard working and sound like a great Mum whose daughter loves her very much. Don't mention cooking though..spent hours making chicken stock and I wonder..was it worth it? Pass me an OXO cube ...

[Jan4a]

When I first read DD's post it brought home to me what this site is all about - much more so than all the requests for help. I think because it was from the heart.

 

Good luck DD - I hope things get better soon.

[cirian75]

Hey hey, my comment has been posted on the site. YAY! (its by Diane, Northumberland)

 

 

Me too now, it's Simon, Warrington Cheshire

[Desperate Daniella]

Hi everyone,

 

Thank you for all your kind wishes and very good advice.

 

My daughter is actually by nature a very happy little person, and I thank God for that. It was parents' evening this week, and she is doing very well, and they said how happy and cheerful and smiley she was, so I must be doing something right.

 

Berrylover,

 

I really do think that the lack of assurances about her son's future wellbeing contributed to her decision. Imagine if any of us said to someone in our family or a close friend, "Would you look after him/her if anything happened to me?" and they wouldn't say they would. The very fact that she was asking meant she had serious concerns that they wouldn't look after him. On top of everything else. Poor thing. She was clearly insane.

 

Just a thought about suicide. When most people say, "I wish I was dead", they don't mean it. What they really mean is, "I wish I was happy."

 

DDxx

[Desperate Daniella]

And today yet another woman has been killed by a train after Lloyds pulled her family business's overdraft.

 

I remember a particularly miserable bank manager saying about 25 years ago when I had a problem: "The bank is happy to give you an umbrella while it is sunny, but when it's raining they'll take it away." Bas**rd. He thought this was the funniest thing in the world, but actually it sums them up.

 

This lady has left two small children.

 

It's on www.dailymail.co.uk

 

DDx

[F_DCAs]

More than any other bank or DCA, it's Lloyds TSB I'd like to see wiped off the face of the earth. Chiefly because of stuff like this.

 

Another one gone LTSB? Well done, you're at least equal with Westcot and Aktiv Kapital now.

[babybear39]

I loath LTSB, **** and 1st cretins equally

[F_DCAs]

Any would be nice, but LTSB in particular. If it ever happened, my smile would be so wide, you could see it from the moon.