accused of benefit fraud

[sweetie pie]

Im worried sick iv been accused of benefit fraud in jan i attended an interview under caution where i was told that i had a partner staying with me this is where it gets complicated i do not stay with a partner but i am having an affair with a married man he stays with his wife who claims that he does not as she is comitting benefit fraud. His wife has mental health issues and does not want him to go to work she destroyed all his documents for work (he is self employed) so i allowed him so send work only documents to my address this is the evidence that the dwp is using against me.

I have heard nothing from the dwp about the outcome of my interview but yesterday i received a letter about deductions for arrears of council tax that are being taken from my income support at the end of the letter it said they cannot pay any council tax arrears from april 17 as i no longer get income support from that date im so confused and really upset after the interview under caution i was suicidal and cant bear to go through this again.

I dont know what to do if i am not going to get any money i have a disabled 16 year old who s health is not good i am his carer and another two children. My so called partner does not stay the night with me the last time he stayed was in september for 2 nights as him and his wife had a row.His wife has tried to run myself and my son over while i pushed his wheelchair on a zebra crossing. Please can someone give me advice.

[Zara33]

Have Income support sent you a letter yet telling you that they have stopped your payments?

 

When was the last time Income support went into your bank or post office account?

[sweetie pie]

the last time income support was paid was 12 march i have not received any letters except from the one yesterday which says i am not getting income support after the 17 april but it gives no reason

[ST24Mondeo]

Where you not told at the icu that if the dwp decided you have commited benefit fraud that they could stop your money because you were no longer entitled to income support.

 

 

You need to contact income support to see if your benefit has been stopped because they have decided you are no longer entitled to income support because you have a partner living with you.

 

 

I would have thought they would need more evidence than a couple of work letters to stop your money maybe i am wrong.

 

The Dwp usually have a lot more information than a couple of letters when they ask you for a iuc.I would not think a couple of letters would count as living together as husband and wife.

 

That is not proof that any man is paying your bills or buying your shopping or cutting your grass normal things that a couple do that live together.

 

You can appeal a decision if it has been made to stop your benefit but you really need to find out the reason it has been stopped.

 

Good Luck

[sweetie pie]

thanks for your reply during the iuc i was told by the end of the week that one of us would not have our benefits (myself and the wife) and they had more evidence to say that he lived with me because he got his national insurance tax and taxi badge sent to my address.

I contacted income support about the letter i received and they told me to to disregard it they dont know why it s been sent out and couldnt bring up a copy of the letter they had sent to me and as far as they know after the 17 april my claim is still live.

So here i am waiting and worrying about whats going to happen next:sad:

[surreyguy]

I have some advice for you...................... DONT HAVE AFFAIRS WITH A MARRIED MAN !

 

Its people like you the world could do without !

 

Sweetiepie? yeah right ...... id imagine theres nothing "sweet" about you!

[Like-Im-Being-Ripped-Off]

I have some advice for you...................... DONT HAVE AFFAIRS WITH A MARRIED MAN !

 

Its people like you the world could do without !

 

Sweetiepie? yeah right ...... id imagine theres nothing "sweet" about you!

 

Surreyguy

That's not very nice:x

They want advice not being dissed like that.

[jackieandwayne]

Surreyguy that's not very nice.

 

Sweetiepie needed advice about a particular situation and had to tell us the circumstances to get the right advice.

 

I see you are quite a new poster, so please don;t start doing this sort of thing - its what those trolls do on here, and also its very hurtful to the poster.

[sweetie pie]

I have some advice for you...................... DONT HAVE AFFAIRS WITH A MARRIED MAN !

 

Its people like you the world could do without !

 

Sweetiepie? yeah right ...... id imagine theres nothing "sweet" about you!

you are welcome to your opinion but i would not dare make asumptions on any part of your life so i think you should keep your opinion to yourself i only asked for advice and your advice was not helpfull it was downright arrogant.

[loopinlouie]

I have some advice for you...................... DONT HAVE AFFAIRS WITH A MARRIED MAN !

 

Its people like you the world could do without !

 

Sweetiepie? yeah right ...... id imagine theres nothing "sweet" about you!

 

I lost my husband to another woman, but I wouldnt dream of being so rude to others, who are we to judge what went on, she is just asking for help. What the hell has your opinions of peoples personal lives got to do with helping on this thread.

 

You are the type of person who needs a zip on their mouth or fingers in this case. Nowt helpful to say, shut up.

[surreyguy]

Surreyguy that's not very nice.

 

Sweetiepie needed advice about a particular situation and had to tell us the circumstances to get the right advice.

 

I see you are quite a new poster, so please don;t start doing this sort of thing - its what those trolls do on here, and also its very hurtful to the poster.

 

 

jackieandwayne

 

i can assure you that i am not a "troll" as you put it.

 

I also use this board to gain advice.

 

Although in saying that , have any of you ever heard of FREEDOM OF SPEACH?

 

You want me to be a hypocrit and tell the OP "there there now , none of this is your fault......" when it quite obviously IS?

 

People have affairs and 100% of the time SOMEONE gets hurt....in this case it was the person who DESERVED to be hurt i.e the one who messed around with someone they shouldnt have.

 

NOW , YOU CAN SAY WHAT YOU LIKE , BUT BEFORE YOU DO I WOULD REMIND YOU THAT THIS IS A FORUM...ITS A PLACE WHERE PEOPLE USE THAT FREEDOM OF SPEACH AND WHILST IT IS NOT ALWAYS AGREED WITH BY ALL.......

 

............IT IS MY OPINION AND TO THAT I THINK YOU WILL FIND I AM ENTITLED!!!!1

 

So...id thank you to stop classing everyone who may not agree with what you say A TROLL !!!

[loopinlouie]

Sniff, sniff, something smells again.......

[surreyguy]

you are welcome to your opinion but i would not dare make asumptions on any part of your life so i think you should keep your opinion to yourself i only asked for advice and your advice was not helpfull it was downright arrogant.

 

 

Arrogant?

 

Refraining from affairs with married individuals is not ARROGANT.....More common sense wouldnt you think?

 

Nuff said!

[surreyguy]

Sniff, sniff, something smells again.......

 

 

....................i always find soap helps loopinlouie....just offering "advice"

[loopinlouie]

Dont worry sweatie pie, site team will sort out and clean up your thread xxxxx

[surreyguy]

Dont worry sweatie pie, site team will sort out and clean up your thread xxxxx

 

 

Are you trying to tell me that the site team will remove any threads on a post simply because they do not tell the OP exactly what they want to hear?

 

*IF* that were the case on these types of forums then there wouldnt be many posts left on the boards would there?

 

My post is not slanderous . racist or abusive.....it contains NO swear words and isnt offensive in any way so tell me ..... is that how this board works? If your new and decide to offer an opinion your posts get deleted?

 

I would be very surprised if that IS how it works but sure we'll see....

 

Loopinlouie...seeing as how your in one of your "im guna tell teacher on you" moods and running "reporting" me to the board guides....il just hold on to that wee pm you sent me just incase they would like to see that too shall i?

[loopinlouie]

Go ahead, I only suggested a more appropriate device to clean your mouth out with and it wasnt a toothbrush, but toilet brush:D

 

Unfortuantely it seems in this life there will always be people who troll around to add their personal views on someones life. Dcas say pay up without understanding situations change and those like you who like to kick a person when they are down.

 

Freedom of speach is good, but does that give you the right to quote the gospel on what has happened to a person? dont think so.

 

Unless you have any valid helpful advice regarding a thread, then its not on, not good cricket as they say.

[sweetie pie]

Are you trying to tell me that the site team will remove any threads on a post simply because they do not tell the OP exactly what they want to hear?

 

*IF* that were the case on these types of forums then there wouldnt be many posts left on the boards would there?

 

My post is not slanderous . racist or abusive.....it contains NO swear words and isnt offensive in any way so tell me ..... is that how this board works? If your new and decide to offer an opinion your posts get deleted?

 

I would be very surprised if that IS how it works but sure we'll see....

 

Loopinlouie...seeing as how your in one of your "im guna tell teacher on you" moods and running "reporting" me to the board guides....il just hold on to that wee pm you sent me just incase they would like to see that too shall i?

Look surryguy i came to this forum for advice not to be brought down this is not constructive if this help s the man im seeing is estranged from his wife they are in the midst of divorce not because of me they live together due to a mixture of things in their family such as mental illness drug abuse and alcohol abuse. I would rather of kept it simple by saying an affair with a married man i know i dont have to prove anything to anyone but your views are upsetting:-x

[MARTIN3030]

Ok I am acknowledging a reported post which has brought me to take a look.

First of all,whilst we can talk about freedom of speech,this does not give anyone an automatic right to post insulting or offending comments,especially if they are not posted in the spirit of helping the OP with issues they started their thread to seek help for.

Of course we all have opinions and can take different moral stances-but no one has any rights to chastise another with their own opinions when its clearly seen to be flaming and insulting to the OP.

 

For clarification of the points in question that deal with these issues I post the site rules;

 

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3.7 In the “Bear Garden” forum, more leeway is given over the use of swearing and the nature of the topics discussed. However, the restrictions in section 3.5 will still be applied.

 

3.8 Where a post is edited, the date/time/moderator will normally be shown within the post, and any clarification of the action should be made directly to the Team Member concerned. If threads/posts are removed or unapproved, an automated message will be sent via the Private Messaging system.

 

 

It is understood and accepted that forums such as these will generate emotions and differences of opinion,but we ask that members exercise restraint,and do not vent opinions which are clearly unwelcome and neither helpful to the OP in assisting with help or guidance.

 

The team are monitoring this thread,and further action will be taken as appropriate in keeping the thread with the OPs issues,should further personal remarks or insults be reported.

 

Those who are not in any position to contribute positively,should refrain from posting.

 

Thanks for understanding.

[surreyguy]

Martin

 

Thanks for taking the time to post all of the above , it must have taken time so thats appreciated mate.

 

For clarification , and NOT to fan the flames any further can i just ask for confirmation on which points my post broke the rules?

 

Thanks again.

 

guy

[sweetie pie]

Martin

 

Thanks for taking the time to post all of the above , it must have taken time so thats appreciated mate.

 

For clarification , and NOT to fan the flames any further can i just ask for confirmation on which points my post broke the rules?

 

Thanks again.

 

guy

if it helps i will tell you what you have done to upset me you

a you did not post any advice

b then you thought it would be helpfull to slag me and anyone who offered support to me

[surreyguy]

if it helps i will tell you what you have done to upset me you

a you did not post any advice

b then you thought it would be helpfull to slag me and anyone who offered support to me

 

 

Sweetiepie.

 

at point A ) You say i did not offer any advice.....PLEASE SEE MY ORIGINAL POST WHERE I STATED TO YOU "HERES SOME ADVICE....DONT DATE MARRIED ME"

 

Surely THAT is a good piece of advice or cant you realise that?

 

If you dont have married men(OR ANY OTHER INDIVIDUAL) having their post re-directed to YOUR home address when you are claiming to the DWP that you live there alone with your children , then you wont have the DWP investigating your situation......I WOULD HAVE THOUGHT EVERYONE ALREADY KNEW HOW THE DWP CATCH BENEFIT THIEVES (they check such things as post , bank accounts , utility bills etc etc etc)

 

On your point B) thats an allegation you are directing at me......i would now request that you copy and paste exactly WHERE i have slagged/abused anyone on this thread?

 

Everything i have posted is my own PERSONAL OPINION you may think your special but my OPINION is one thing you have no control over SWEATIE

[MARTIN3030]

I have some advice for you...................... DONT HAVE AFFAIRS WITH A MARRIED MAN !

 

Its people like you the world could do without !

 

Sweetiepie? yeah right ...... id imagine theres nothing "sweet" about you!

 

 

It was this post.

 

Having been a victim of affairs on at least 3 occs I know its not nice,but not my place to judge since it takes 2 to tango and no two situations are the same.

An edit of your post by yourself once it became clear that the OP was offended (and pointed out by others ) would have nipped in the bud the further posts.

 

I hope we can just move on from this and get back on the main topic.

[MARTIN3030]

And in my eyes

 

Its people like you the world could do without !

 

Sweetiepie? yeah right ...... id imagine theres nothing "sweet" about you!

 

 

These comments are probably more offending than the first !!

 

If you think these could not be seen as personally offensive then I beg to differ-and they do fall within posting criteria of site rules.

[surreyguy]

Sorry Martin but you have confused me now????

 

You posted your first post saying what you ahd to say and then again 5 MINS LATER you decide to come back and have ANOTHER go?

 

DONT THINK SO......

 

Shows how sites such as this are run...lol lets all congratulate people (NOTICE THE GENERAL TERM - NOT AIMED AT ANYONE IN PARTICUALR) having affairs left right and centre but when people with morals have their say the board guides appear and edit/delete/tell off the poster?

 

Isnt the world a crazy old place lol