Harassment Warning

[baffledandconfused]

Hi, need a bit of advice here because this situation is making my life a misery.

 

Had a massive bust up with a friend, started online and the friendship went downhill very quickly. 

 

They started to harass me online on their employers social media page and I complained to their employer about the unprofessional behaviour of their employee and they agreed with me and said they'd sort it out promising it wouldn't happen again

 

this argument carried on between the two of us and the next thing I know is I've got a phone call from the Police giving me a warning for Harassment! (22nd August)

 

I've been told not to cease contact with them - which I have abided by

 

Not happy with this at all, as I never started this, I went and put a counter allegation in against them for which I have a crime reference number.

 

This was on August 23rd and the report had to transferred to another police force to investigate. Nothing seems to have happened at all 

 

on September 6th, I got a phone call threatening violence against me, damage to my house and defamatory leaflets to be delivered to my neighbours saying I'm a paedophile

 

I reported this to the Police as well and got yet another crime number and again nothing has happened and I have been unable to stay at home at night for fear of someone turning up.

 

Last Wednesday, I'd had enough of living in fear - its most unfair in my opinion that I've got the harassment warning but its perfectly acceptable to continue to be harassed and threatened by the other party!

 

I contacted the police again and found my initial crime report hadn't been sent anywhere and the second had been sent to the wrong police force

 

They took some information from me and again I'm promised someone will call me back - but its now Sunday and nothing and I'm petrified about being in my own home now.

 

As the only person that has actually attempted to do anything is her employer - is it okay to contact her employer again and state that you've tried to sort this out but i'm continuing to be harassed and threatened by your employee - is there anything you can do?

 

will this break the conditions of my warning to cease all contact?

 

I need to do something as this is now unfair to myself, its made my life a misery for nearly two weeks now while the other party can happily go galavanting around causing misery to my life and I'm unable to do anything.

 

a complaint has gone in to the police forces concerned

 

any help appreciated

 

 

 

[BankFodder]

I think it would be wrong to make any contact with the employer or anybody else relating to this person.

Keep all your contacts through the police and also keep a very careful and detailed log of everything that happens.

Keep the police updated

 

 

[baffledandconfused]

The police don't seem to do anything, just let them get away with threatening me.

It's affecting me so much I've had to start to look for places to move to now. 

It's going to cost me a fortune because I'm halfway through my rental agreement but I can't live in fear so it's my only choice.

[stu007]

Hi

 

I have to agree do not contact their Employer again as that could back fire on you as these other action were after you informed there employer.

 

Keep a record of absolutely everything that is happening. (the attached Incident Log may be of use to you)

 

If your Local Police Station is open it may be a good idea to go into them and discuss this matter in person and the threats made with the crime reference numbers and any evidence you have.

 

If any of these threats are by phone call have you thought of getting a recording device to record the phone calls whether its Landline or mobile phone.

 

Incident Log - Landscape.pdf

[Bazooka Boo]

Just to add my little bit of advice, and reiterate what has been said above, you MUST document everything PLEASE!

 

After every single interaction with this bully, report it to the police, and they will log it.

 

Keep a diary of events, and even a journal of how you are feeling, moving out of the area may not stop the harassment, I moved from one end of the country to the other and STILL ended up being stalked/harassed and ended up getting two police forces involved to stamp on the issue'

 

Always carry your mobile phone so you can video or photo events, keep any emails they may have been stupid enough to send, and open up a different email address, but keep your old one, photograph or copy any letters they send.

 

And you could purchase a small camera which you can either wear or carry in your pocket, I've used these ones for years, discreet and simple to use

Mini DV Pro

 

Or check on Amazon, plenty on there too and won't break the bank, it won't stop the bullying, but it will give you footage to show the Police if needed.

[baffledandconfused]

Thank you everyone for your advice.

It is appreciated 

[baffledandconfused]

Okay, so last night my video doorbell was smashed off my front door and I've tried to report this to the police to add to the crime report but I can't. 

West midlands police told me it's nothing to do with them and to speak to metropolitan police and I went to the metropolitan police who said they can't add to the crime report as it's been sent to the west midlands police.

So I can't report it.

I'm thinking going through employer now is only option as I can't even report the incident to the police as neither force accept responsibility 

[Bazooka Boo]

So, you're saying that your harasser came to your house and damaged the video doorbell off your front door?

 

You don't want to add it to the previous crime report, you want to report a crime to the police station whose authority you reside in.

 

So if this happened in the West Mids area then you report the crime to them.

[stu007]

Hi

 

I am afraid if you go to this persons employer abut your video doorbell being damaged you are going to look like the person harassing that individual as this incident is nothing to do with there Employer so DO NOT Contact there Employer.

 

Has the Video Doorbell picked up any footage before it was damages? (my own video doorbell covers a considerable area from the front to sides so it would capture the individual trying to damage it)

 

If you cant prove it was this individual that damaged this video doorbell you must still report this to your local police and inform them of the crime references you have if they fail to log this as you have mentioned trying to fob you off you demand to speak to the inspector in charge to report a crime.

 

I will say it again the video doorbell incident is nothing to do with this individuals Employer so please DO NOT Contact there Employer as it could then taken that you are harassing then via there Employer that has nothing to do with there Employer.