Had enough of abusive ex- cancelling csa and paying kids direct into a account

[jdes26]

Had enough of my abusive ex wife

and as from today making a stand for society

set up a bank account for my children with ATM card

and they will get maintenance

can't take know more!!!!!!

[afcwben]

Had enough of my abusive ex wife

and as from today making a stand for society

set up a bank account for my children with ATM card

and they will get maintenance

can't take know more!!!!!!

 

If you are currently paying through a CSA order DO NOT cancel it, believe me their powers are draconian. I have to pay my ex through the CSA but none of the money gets to the kids. I still have to send them money for clothes etc and the CSA are not interested. It should be renamed EWSA (Ex wife support aganecy), in Scotland you can send the money direct to children over a certain age.

[jdes26]

Done it

told csa to sod off

[afcwben]

You should think very carefully, believe it or not the CSA can take away your driving licence even get you sent to prison, I am sure your kids would not want that. I would recommend you speak to your MP the more who are aware of the injustice of the CSA the better it is for the parents who genuinely care. The CSA believes the parent who is not with the kids should bear 100% of the cost

[jdes26]

I'm Afraid they don't scare me

[afcwben]

well good luck let us know how you get on

[jdes26]

Liability order received

Court Monday

Nit attending affidavit sent to court

Payings kids direct still

[afcwben]

keep us posted

[Ros1609]

You do realise you cannot cancel a CSA agreement if you aren't the resident parent don't you? There are two ways the agreement ends - the children in question reach the age of 18 or the resident parent cancels it. My ex husband has tried on numerous occasions to cancel our agreement but they always ring and write to me to check

 

I also think the 'EWSA' remarks are very offensive. We aren't all abusive or money grabbers. Some of us are just trying to keep our heads above water money wise

[jdes26]

Ros1069

I don't particularly care what you think

I paid my ex for 4 1/2 years then recession kicked

Paid '£20k in maintenance payments

Then I couldn't afford to pay £400 as it was RECESSION

Offered £200 wasn't enough

CSA involved been in and out of work since owe £3k in arrears

Now back in work ....... Made a positive descision will never ever ever pay CSA again or my horrible abusive greedy ex wife

Paying my beautiful daughter weekly and will pay lump sum

Of £3k in her bank

Is this a jailable offence?

Am I in the wrong

U tell me ros?????

I'd live to know????

[Lillibelle]

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[jdes26]

True I must agree with you Lille

But who dragged in the csa

Me or the ex?

It's all about understanding

I have heart and soul

My ex has bitterness

Sometimes you gotta fight for what you believe in

I'm one of these people

Sorry if that offends you but I don't believe in being controlled!

[renegadeimp]

CSA doesnt really do "understanding" unfortunately. They simply go by numbers and paperwork. Thats why there are so many complaints about one sided cases, and people on low incomes having to pay 1/2 or even 2/3rds of their wage as maintenance.

[jdes26]

I want everybody to know on this consumer website that

1. I will never pay csa again

2. I will never pay my ex again

3. I will pay my daughter who's nearly 15 on a weekly basis

And I will post up all the results of my quest!

The csa has to go........... I am a free man

I really can't see a judge ailing me because I want to pay my daughter

Can anyone..... I mean seriously would it go tat far????

If it did I'm going to te bloody papers with a story to sell

[jdes26]

I mean can you imagine

Mr Dennis are you paying child maintenance?

Yes your honour direct to my daughter

sEND HIM TO JAIL

Bull

[honeybee13]

Hello jdes.

 

I understand you're upset, but can we try to keep it civil please?

 

My best, HB

[jdes26]

Hi honeybee

 

Not upset but not gona play te csa game anymore

Sorry

[drop47]

I don't know much about the csa but i am worried for you. The law is sadly an ass but it is still the law. You also need to remember that the money is to help support your daughter and that means housing her feeding her etc. To be blunt not many 15 year olds would use the money wisely. If she is sensible she will give it straight to her mother because that could be the only way to keep you out of trouble. You really need some professional advice and not a rant on a consumer forum. If you lose your livelihood who will suffer?

[jdes26]

Why do things have to b this way??

[renegadeimp]

Thats the way the government makes the laws unfortunately. Just remember, that even though people agree with you, the law doesnt. It could end well for you, but is much more likely to end badly.

 

Regardless, we're hoping things work out for you, but going by past history and cases, it doesnt bode well. Have you tried taking free legal advice from any of the family law solicitors that offer the first consultation free?

[Lillibelle]

As an 'exwife' I would find a way to stop you dragging an impressionable 15 year old into the warzone between you and her mother,,it's not her fault you can't get on and CSA won't let YOU decide what to do.....perhaps through mediation or a 3rd party you could find common ground and still pay the money that helps support your child to your ex wife without it affecting your daughter because ,,trust me,,you will reap what you sow and this will affect your daughter in the future.

[jdes26]

I paid the csa end of thread!

[drop47]

Probably the right decision. You have to pick your battles

[jdes26]

Battle- that was A massacre

[MARTIN3030]

I paid the csa end of thread!

 

Yes it would seem a good call to end things here.

Thread now closed-thanks for everyones input.