Advice required please

[honeybee13]

Fair enough, sorry for trying to help. I'll give up too.

 

HB

[Tams]

No reason to apologise HB. Genuine help is appreciated.

 

Best wishes

[SarEl]

I feel that I have to respond to this. At no time was I aggressive and I made it clear that what I was saying was taking an objective view of what the employer would argue about your case. I did not suggest dropping anything - I pointed out the legal difficulties persuant to your claims and told you what would be argued against your position so that you could prepare for that. You are the one putting words in my mouth that I did not say. I did not say that you were paranoid - I said that a certain type of approach may appear that way, and since you could not evidence that other staff refused to support you because they feared for their jobs could be viewed that way if you made such allegations without any evidence. I did not recommend that you drop the potected disclosure claim - I corrected your mistaken statement that it was case law and therefore set precedent on the matter of bullying because you had not at that time said that it involved anything but bullying. I read what you had to say very carefully indeed and responded to it as it was presented by you and based on the facts that you chose to divulge.

 

You certainly do not need to worry about not liking my advice because you will not be getting any more of it, but that does not make anything that I said to you less correct because you didn't like it. Is this the way you react to anyone that says things you don't like, or is it purely reserved for me? Because you seem to be keen to tell everyone who tries to help you that they don't understand your difficulty. Perhaps if we don't understand your diffuclty you should take your case to a lawyer and not to a public forum?

[honeybee13]

No reason to apologise HB. Genuine help is appreciated.

 

Best wishes

 

That was irony actually [the apology, not genuinely trying to help]. As I clearly don't understand according to you, in the words of Dragons' Den, I'm out.

 

HB

[jonnycooper]

Tams, with respect you will see a lot of common sense in SarEl's posts and countless people, including me have found them to be very helpful and insightful.

 

The same can equally be said for HB's posts..

[MARTIN3030]

Tams,your last post unapproved since it isnt appropriate.

I will confirm SarEl is well meaning and speaks true.

Having read through this thread,you do appear to have been missing on some points that have been made to help.

Its your choice as to whether to take the advice,but since you did come and ask,the least you should do is respect those people who have taken time to respond.

The suggestions in your last post are totally unacceptable.

Please continue your questions in the spirit of CAG and without more of the same.

[Ell-enn]

Any advice you receive from SarEl is without doubt some of the best employment law advice you will get without paying for it, and we are extremely lucky to have her on this forum. Please don't confuse blunt truth with aggression as that is not how it's meant.

 

Having witnessed several ET's I can assure you that SarEl and Honeybee are correct in that you would be subjected to extremely forceful questioning and you need to be completely prepared (and realistic) about your chances of success before embarking on the ET trail.

 

This is a self help site and many, many people give up their time to advise and support others, but if you are unsure of any information or facts given you should always seek professional help, which in most cases will attract a fee.

[Tams]

I disagree. I believe her communications were deliberately aggressive, and continued to be so after I politely pointed it out to her.

 

Honeybee's irony was not appreciated either, nor the mobbing that has followed.

 

I would be grateful if you would please remove my account from your forum.

 

I suggest you review the manner in which you correspond with members of the public.

[Sidewinder]

Your comments are noted, but for what it is worth, I would politely suggest that if you are seeking free advice on a public forum in future that you firstly enquire of the site whether the advice delivered will be to your liking, and secondly, whether it will be made in a way which meets your approval.

 

Sorry that you should feel the way that you do, and you are of course entitled to delete your account, however the thread will remain as it may give useful advice to those with similar cases in the future. I see nothing in the posts above which were in any way aggressive towards you. On the other hand, there was a good deal of disrespect to those who offered advice in the way that you responded.

[MARTIN3030]

Am closing the thread.

Tams the "mobbing " as you refer to it was not intended to appear as such,when posts are reported for site team to look at,it can sometimes lead to more than one team response as they are not immediately aware others are dealing.It appears that posts crossed.

Its unfortunate that you are deciding to leave,but thats up to you.

The thread whilst will remain closed,will still remain viewable unless there are exceptional reasons to remove it.

At this stage there does not appear to be good reasons to remove it.