Help at my wits end

[jackieandwayne]

Take the special leave. Whilst you are not working with the man, you cannot be accused of anything.

 

At least they are looking at NOSP, and that's a good thing.

 

You know that this man is not the full shilling, now let other people see how he operates. Just go about your business, take no notice, don't retaliate if you are confronted just tell him you cannot speak to him. The man is lying about you and he will trip himself up.

 

I know its ever so difficult, especially if you are already low, but try to enjoy to leave and really have a good rest. Then you'll be better prepared to deal with things. Just go out and do things that you enjoy doing and let them all get on with it.

 

I think the HA will come down on your side.

[wally0163]

Just had another phonecall, my boss again wants to see me tomorrow, with another boss, looks like suspension doesnt it?

[diamondgirl]

Just had another phonecall, my boss again wants to see me tomorrow, with another boss, looks like suspension doesnt it?

 

It may not be. Look on the positive side I know its very difficult and I cant begin to imagine the heartache its causing you. Remember he is in the minority as was previously posted he's not a full shilling. If they are offering you special leave take it, ignore him, get plenty of rest we are all here to help you. It is possible the other boss may just understand your side of things and hopefully intervene on your behalf and back you. It is their duty to look after their staff and give you the backing you deserve.

 

Good luck for tomorrow and ignore the half shilling.

 

DG

[jackieandwayne]

No, it doesn't mean suspension necessarily. On the face of it what exactly have you done wrong here? Fingers crossed again, as I say take the special leave, go to the meeting.

 

Let us know how it goes. You really do need to be in a Union, it makesit so much less daunting to have someone trustworthy with you at these things.

 

And Wally, do remember also that at the meeting you have a captive audience, so which ever way this goes, you have the opportunity to have your say too.

[wally0163]

I have just had my meeting, and have been told to continue on special leave, however they have taken my keys away and told me not to talk to any residents.

Today they have highlighted some issues regarding collection and receipt of guest room monies, and have took my receipt books.

They specifically wanted to talk about a previous job I had four years ago re why I left ect

Since I have been here I have had accusation after accusation, all of which have been unfounded, I have had abuse, assault my working environment has been terrrifying at times to work and it has almost destroyed me.

I feel I want to go for constructive dismissal please can someone advise

[diamondgirl]

Oh Wally I am so sorry that it didn't turn out better at the meeting. I'm afraid I don't know much about employment law. I did once sign on when I walked out of a job because of the way some people were given pay rises secretly and when I signed on they classed that as constructive dismissal but I really don't know what the next step would be for you. One thing I am sure of is that someone will be along later who knows something about it and will be able to advise you. If they are telling you to continue on special leave them I would especially as they should still pay you.

 

In the meantime I'll have a look around and see what I can find that might be of help to you. It may be worth a look around the web for some employment law specialists where you might be able to find more information. If I come across any I will post them up for you.

 

Good Luck and please do try not to get to depressed over the situation as I say someone with the knowledge will be along and help you more.

 

DG

[wally0163]

Please can someone help me, I am losing everything, i just want this to end.....................

[jackieandwayne]

Ok, lets get it into perspective - is there any reason for you to be worried about any monies you have collected during the course of your duties? I don't want to upset you by asking, but the question is already being silently asked by your employers taking things such as keys and receipt books. If you can say no, then you have nothing to worry about on that front and this is probably all part of the malicious complaints being made about you. Let them investigate.

 

I'm not so sure they have the right to ask you about your former employment - I have alerted the site team to this thread again because we need some professional employment advice here, on this point. If you didn't put that employer down for a reference, and the subject never came up, then I can't see why it should matter now. I say this because for your job you will have had an enhanced CRB done. So they interviewed you, employed you, took up references they were happy with, and then CRB'd you - I fail to see how a job some time ago has any bearing on any of this.

 

How did this man find out about your former employment? Snooping I suppose and getting information from other people - sounds very much to me like the basis for starting a harassment complaint to the police. How about trying to contact one of the coppers who dealt with the assault case and taking some advice from them in confidence?

 

Are you able to tell us about the previous job and what happened?

 

You need to join Unison now, I believe you can do this online on their website. I would also have a look at the ACAS website and perhaps give them a call. There is always the CAB as well, but there is likely to be a long wait to be seen.

 

I know constructive dismissal is a bugger to prove, but on the face of it, you have been assaulted and nothing has been done to protect you, therefore I would say any reasonable person would find it necessary to remove themselves from danger of that level. In addition to this you are now being publicly humiliated and this is making you ill.

 

I hope you will go and let your GP know what is going on - this needs to be on record somewhere.

 

It is horrible when an investigation has to take place, but try to look at it this way - a complaint has been made and your employer has to look into it. They are not going to find any evidence of wrong doing, and you are feeling this way because your confidence is being sapped by the whole thing, this makes us look at things in a very paranoid way sometimes. Ten times worse when you feel alone and isolated.

 

This whole investigation could go full circle and come out 100% in your favour, but unless the investigation goes ahead, and you are cleared, there will always be a shadow over you, fair or not.

 

Keep us updated, I'll look in daily.

[Ell-enn]

Hi there, I'm sorry to hear of the difficulties you are having - It must be incredibly stressful for you.

 

Given that they have taken your keys and receipt books without explanation, I think you should consult an employment solicitor for advice - there are lots of law firms who offer a free initial consultation (look in your local paper or yellow pages). They will be able to tell you what your best course of action is.

 

It would also be a good idea to join Unison - I'm not sure if they will take on a case which is already underway but there's no harm in asking.

 

Have you actually got anything in writing regarding why they are conducting this investigation?

 

Ell

[wally0163]

Hi Ell-en

I have had no explanation of this

[wally0163]

Hi Jackie and Wayne

re previous employment, my husband unfortuanately gained access to my computer and sent an email about me to the whole of my company, it was a detrimental email only to me.

Because I never knew better my company came along and gave me twelve hours to move to a property they found for me, I left nine years of memories, a garage full of family photos ect, a pond full of coy carp.

When they sacked me on breach of IT policy they then served eviction on new house, this house was a complete empty shell, no carpets absolutely horrific, but I trusted them to come right for me in the end, however I consulted legal advice and we went dowm the route of unfair dismissal, this resulted in them finally reaching an out of court settlement, which enabled us to try to move on.

I never knew about consumer forums then

I guess that is why I am so paranoid now

[jackieandwayne]

Ok, if that is all that happened, then you have nothing to worry about. You don;t have to tell them anything. Even if they did find out, its clear that you were a victim here. Anyway they ended up having to pay you off - this is what might worry your current employer - however, whatever happened in the previous job, bears no relation to what is going on now. That was a result of what seems to have been a personal vendetta against you, clearly not the case here.

 

All I can advise is that you get in touch with Unison asap.

 

Always remember you have done nothing wrong here, so however hard they look, they will not find anything and this should completely vindicate you and you should get an apology at the very least.

 

Keep posting, people will help you and I am sure this will turn out ok.