ive had both sides of them , the update of details and the accusations , 1 for working when they followed my wife for 2 weeks all over in the car ,when her sister needed dropping off at work , and the too much money one ,savings of over £6000 ,which i don't have but my own family started that as a rumor when things went belly up when my mum died . rip im a natural born panicker and did worry every time . none of them turned out to be anything . the one where they were following our car around was the funniest when we mentioned the wreckless driving of the 4x4 . woman got up and left instantly no papers signed nothing .

sure it was hollow /hollowman .but i only use 1 email address the one i have had for over 10 years and the system doesnt recognize it . i did contact admin on front page but no response

hi . I was already a member on here with previous posts but my email pass isnt recognised . im currently on esa without an assesment , i have been on it some time before it was even esa (forgot what it was) my doctor advised me to try to claim pip due to the multiple illnesses and problems i have with mobility and the other one (care bit ) excuse me i have a terrible memory her words were under no circumstances do you go out alone or bath alone and for gods sake keep away from the kitchen (lovely doc but has emmigrated to warmer climate now) i have had 3 major heart attacks in 2 years (44 years old now) , have heart disease , familial hypercholesterolemia, epilepsy (tonic clonic and complex partial ) unstable angina , and severe asthma . all within just over 2 years , plus ongoing sciatica due to herniated disks in lower back (had injections but wont operate due to heart problems) also have limited mobility in right leg from a 100ft fall some years ago that left me with 7 breaks in 1 leg and about an inch movement in my right ankle at most . ive tried to read some of the reports about the underhand tactics they use to down play your health and what you are capable of doing . im on 19 different medications a day ,that total 1200 tablets a month . over 500 of these are for pain alone . as one of my main pain relievers had to be stopped due to no1 side effect being heart failure . im not expecting the world but had little proof to supply as my last esa assement was in late due to been in hospital so my wife posted all the original letters which they have not sent back even though requested. (saying that i read they dont even consider these) they dont consider pain relief either (but 2 of my pain relievers are 30mg codiene 8x day and 8 diazepam a day .) i have loads of mini seizures a day most of which i dont even know ive had ,observed by other people . cannot walk far always have to use a crutch and can be out of breath by the time i get to the loo .2x5 stairs with landing in between , i have unstable angina and can have an attack just laid watching tv , my last heart attack was as they said brought on by a grand mal seizure ,in which i literally was absolutely terrified incase i have another linked event. im under 3 heart specialists and 2 neurologists all at 3 different hospitals . meds dont work for the seizures and i have no prior warning of one large one or the many clusters i have a day . can anyone suggest how i approach this home visit . plus i know esa and pip are unrelated but surely they collaberate findings . so if you get a low pip score i guess you will soon get a new esa assesment through the post . im not that worried ,its more the injustice they do and i hear they treat you like your dumb whilst all the time are plotting there little outcome against you . thanks for listening and any advice welcome meeting is friday morn , but sometimes i have severe insomnia 48 awake + then other times i can sleep 18+ hours and nothing can wake me , no idea wether its the meds or the head thats gone tbh.

Well its been over 2 months since mum passed away . The family members have not spoken to me at all except for in one heated argument .when my sister accused me of stealing mums bank book on the day she died i was fuming and threatened her with police and legal intervention from a solicitor. I then received a nasty text from my brother which i phoned and had it out with him .only for him to tell me he had taken the bank book and my sister already knew this. He had also changed the door locks on the house incase I had a key for the property. The house thing I believe has backfired on them as if any repairs where needed the council had my name and number for contact . I received an unexpected visit from a tenancy officer asking me what was happening to the house and why hadn't the keys been handed in So I told him the truth about it all . He wasnt very pleased and asked me for my sister's number which I willing gave him. He replied with i guarantee that they won't get it . I think that might be true as my nephew (another one who won't speak) lived next door to mum and he is now moving and iI believe my sister is moving just a few doors away from where she is living now. As for the bank account I have no idea Wether or not my sister and brother have emptied it or not..I have the few possessions that Iwanted which consists of a few trinkets and a few old family pictures. We have not spoken a word to the family since the 9th Feb which was mums birthday when I was "allowed" to take some flowers upto the house , I am sore about the whole thing I've been told nothing at all. I don't even know when mums ashes are been put in the plot . its the things like that ,that are eating away at my mind .Not mums money as anything i might or most llikely won't receive was going to be given to my children. As me and mum where the closest in the family and that is what she wanted she said it numerous times .me and my with were the ones who were with her through 5 years of cancer and ill health .The other family members only seemed to pop out of the woodwork it the last 6 months .

Thank you all for your support and help , I just hope I be as helpful to another forum member at some time .

im posting this on behalf of my sister inlaw . she and i have both tried talking to hmrc what a nasty we dont care attitude they have . she recently (few weeks ago )saw a £24.80 per week drop in tax credits , phoned them and they said wait for a letter to arrive and then phone the number onit and they will explain . letter comes and low and behold ,same number idiots. any she rand them yesterday and they are calculating that by 05/04/2016 her earning will be £10700 £6.79 ph on a constant 30 hour week . her last wage slip dated 28/02/2016 states her total earnings to be £8002.54 to that date for the year . so out came the calculator and a rough estimate to the date they gave 05/04/2016 adds upto £9198.54 total earnings for the year . so how can they start taking an over payment for 05/04/2015 to 05/04/2016 of over £700 ? they said they base it on earning from previous years of 2013 to 2014 . the system sucks . so now she is £24.80 worse off a week. reducing her tax credits to £44.64 per week until 10/06/2016. she is a single parent who works ,pays full council rent ,gets no discount,full council tax -25% single person discount and has a 13year old child . some how i couldnt get it throiugh to the lady that how can you take an overpayment that hasn't actually occured yet ? based on the fact that in 2013-2014 she use to work 40 hrs per week . is there some way to appeal against this ? as she struggles as it is now . i see her point , whats the use in working if single parents etc are better off on benefits . go to work get punished . is there any help she can get either in tax credits ,appealing againt housing costs to offset an overpayment that has not happened yet .

well compliance officer called again with 2 allegations , 1 i was working at a garage again as the first complaint only a few months ago . no garage name no pics etc nothing . said she remembers calling years ago , the next allegation was a belter said she had reason to believe we had a vast amount of money on the property . i now know this is family related due to mum's death only last month . as i got accused of taking her building society book , i had ,had enough by monday phoned my sister and told her what i thought about it , my brother then sent me a really nasty text , so knowing i wasn't blocked i phoned him up argued with him and then out of the blue he says " i no you dont have the bank book as i took it the day mum died" i was fuming literally . today spoke to the woman said about the family fued ongoing she was at the time taking paperwork out of a folder , she quickly put the paperwork away and just said thats it nothing to do with us . never had to sign anything etc . my wife asked what happens next and she just said , just let us know if you get any inheritance over the 6k threshold . they could follow me to the end of the world and back daily and i still wouldnt be working in a garage so i know its all lies . just wondering is this the end or is there any more investigation ,maybe with the complantant? im so depressed over mum dying then been accused of theft then this

thank you for the above information i will contact the building society on monday ,i do not have proof of mums death ,not even seen the death certificate but the building society staff knew her personally . ii now need advice on the council house she lived in as now my sister wants to take possesion of it even though mum was sole tenant no one has lived with her in the house for at least 10 years , but my sister knows the local ex coucillor who seems to think she can get the house via 'request to assign tenancy' i think they are going to say my sister was mums carer even though it was very very obvious the only thing she cares about is herself . ive benn informed this through the ex councillors daughter ,who also quoted for financial gain its been done (in the fact my sister would sell the house ,she herself doesnt have the money to buy it ,but my brother owns a succesful buisness and does have the funds ) plus if the % per year is applied my mum lived in the house for 41 years so the house would be pennies . makes you realise that you know who you family and freinds really are when this type of thing happens . truth be told i have more freinds on this forum that i have in my own town. money is greed to them . think im getting bitter in my old age (43)

thanks for the support , il let wednesday come and go , with the rough time ive had in the last month or so whatever their reason is i doubt it could be any worse with what ive been through lately . could be something could just be the fact our daughter is now 18 , even though we dont get anyhing for her except child benefit (£20) which ever one it is ,it may be to check that . it could be the funny sided fact that my sister takes her sister to work as her car was off the road for a few months and as explained we had been noticed that we were been followed . thing is there twins ,not identical but alot alike , maybe just miss identification . np there she lives across the road so she can just call over if its something like that . i now have family issues (siblings) so need to find the legal (financial) and housing sections . as there's something a miss and ive literally been kicked out of the family so to speak , as i believe in moral values where as they believe in £££ signs

Good point not sure . Should seem clearer on the day .

well its me again (had login problems and password couldnt be recovered so had to make a new sign up) on friday the 28th january i recieved yet another letter from the dwp stating : we are reviewing your benefit claim . is this another way of saying a compliance officer is visiting you ? asks for proof of id , post office, or bank account statements,most recent work slips (on esa support) isa statements etc. there calling out on the 10th feb. its already been a lousy start to the year and seems to be gradually getting worse . mum passed away on the 8th jan , family brothers,sister stopped talking to me completely (thats a mystery) . been pushed out of anything to do with funeral. had mild heart attack plus a grandmal fit in my mums home day she passed away . Now this , wife also got followed by a very obvious 4x4 range rover while taking her sister to work a few weeks back . what next can i complain ,its like a personal vendetta letter is basically saying that its important that we tell them of changes as we could have to pay money back . different story last time when they hadent paid us for our eldest daughter for 2 years ,but could only pay us back 1 years money . this letter to me is just a reworded compliance letter ,but why me/us again ? we keep our selves to ourselves dont go out socialising farest we go is the local tesco and thats too much for my mind to tackle at best . cant i complain about this ?

All i wish for is a nice headstone to be placed there as she is buried with her mother and father as she was an only child . God rest her soul she beat cancer as such , as pneumonia was the main cause of her death .

my sister and 2 brothers will benefit from it as there is no chance they will sign for probate ,that's there whole idea . They're not daft and will have covered all bases . I wish mum had left nothing at all . Maybe the family would actually speak to one another .

Thank you for the replies and help . Mum didn't own her own house it was council rented for over 40 years . The estate before funeral funds was approx 22k . Not a massive amount by no means at all . But when the subject came up about the savings account and the fact that the building society book was missing . My sister swiftly swept the whole matter under the carpet so to speak . Her words were something like there wasn't really anything in her account . Except on Xmas day when I think mum knew she didn't have much time left showed me the building society book and current balance . For me I wish she had wrote a Will and donated to a worth while charity . I know if I apply for probate then it will cause he'll on earth for me . The fact is no family members like me as they always said I reminded them of dad . Can someone who is not direct family apply for probate ?

Thank you for the reply . No will was ever made mum kept saying she was going to but never did . The executor would then I believe fall on her oldest child who is my sister . Funding for the funeral has come out of mums savings . This I discussed with the person at the building society . She did say it would go to probate but after reading it seems someone has to apply for this . So at the minute my sister seems to be holding all the cards . As she did when the funeral was arranged , everyone but me had Input into the matter except me . I wasn't told a thing and when I tried to call by landline my calls were ignored . No one wanted to know for the last 4 years when she was undergoing numerous treatment, scans etc for 4 different cancers. Mum was amazing but direct with people I can only imagine how discusted she would be at this time

my mum recently passed away this month with cancer , but a few months before this a family fued began and really really honestly i have no idea why . at the time of the fued i was away on holiday with my wife and children . when we returned home all our numbers where barred by family ,plus any social media sites . my children ignored by my brother ,sister and nephew etc . as to the point my mother passed away on the 8th of january , not long before this she had christmas dinner at my house ,with me and my family (wife kids) and told me she didnt have long left . she also at this point tried to offer me all her savings , i flately and completely refused any of it , my thoughts were if there was anything i would prefer her grandchildren to benefit from it .(i know how much there was as she showed me her savings account book) on recieving the bad news about my mum i immediately called to her house , only around a hundred yards away . i was devastated , to the point of a mild heart attack and a gran mal fit . my sister immediately took over everything (she was next of kin ,but upto this point work was her priority not mum ) a very good freind of my mums asked if his bank book was around (mum saved it for him) that was found but what was also found is that mums handbag had been emptied completley of everything . i was furious ,upset ,angry ,suicidal . i could not beleive how low my family had become in an instant . i phoned her building society and ordered a stop on the account as i beleived someone was going to access the money , luckily there policy is once accessed by a 3rd party it cannot be accessed again for 30 days by a 3rd party. since mum died , no one has contacted me family wise to update me on anything and i have heard all arrangements via 3rd parties . i even found out funeral times and date via facebook believe it or not i do not want to rock the boat so to speak but i know in my heart this is not what my mother would want . i do know someone tried to access my account , an old halifax one i let my mum use to pay her cable bill . i dont have the card it dissapeared along with the other things from mums handbag , so i have cancelled the card . from a legal point of view , what access does my sister have to this account its a saving account ,i know the funeral has been paid from it ,there is no outstanding bills at all only credits for gas ,electric ,water etc, i really dont care if i get a penny of it ,mum was a single parent and would have starved herself to feed us when we were younger , it just feels like i am been pushed out for there benefit , every other sibling (3) has a key to the house ,but not me . and non speak to me or my children . would i be a bad person to try to take action to stop anything been taken from the estate without been notified first please help its driving me insane .

well jonathan (complaince officers name ) came out to see me wasn't here very long at all , said they had received a malicious phone call that i was working ,he then asked if i knew anyone who would report such an allegation . i said yes there is a couple of neighbours who some time ago a freind of mine upset (which he did ) . asked if we had any bank accounts etc i said only isa which you know about . and that we are withdrawing the money to buy a car as our old one is buggered . he replied with "its always the neighbours" then jotted a few things down and asked me to sign it stating that if they get any more phone calls within 6 months they have to disreard them ,unless of course they have photographic evidence . he then took my isa statements for update and off he went . i did mention that my brother owns a garage which he does own a big independant audi garage . that seems to click with them as in that was the reason for the report.

thanks for all the replies , they support both sides of the dwp ideas of compliance interviews , only up until 4pm to wait tommorow then at least we will know why the visit . ive read alot of views on this some good but more negatives than positives across the board . gonna take a few extra tablets to help me sleep some as last night i was still awake at over 4 am .

me and my wife have been sat all day me racking our brains to why they would be visiting us , ive had to take extra meds to try and keep myself calm, just impossible to do. i have no idea at all what its about and yes i am panicking ,the post above is correct as they send a letter out and you seem to have to fill in the blanks . there also very nosey ,not that i have anything to hide ,but seem very judgemental if you have a nice clean house etc . i suppose its like them saying well as your on benefits you should be living like a tramp . we have no savings left as we had to buy a new car (used) as the old one was costing more in repairs than was economically sound. and the only thing we can think of is our daughter turning 18 and losing benefit for her . which if so i will be furious about ,as they didnt notice a 2 year glitch to the fact they hadn't paid us anything for her ,then paid us 1 years back money ,which we were grateful about only to stop it in august this year 4 weeks later. ive had at least 15 seizures today think over this, as they seem to be brought on by concentration . I feel so degraded by it . it does want to make you feel like telling them to shove it were the sun isnt shining . although unless we have a nice lottery win we cant .

I have a compliance officer visiting on thursday .no idea why and as far as i know no reason for one . basic standard letter ,no mention of circumstances etc . my wife has known for a few weeks and hidden the letter ,she only showed me it today ,i understand why as i am a natural born panicker . im already scared to my wits end and ive only known about the letter around 2 hours max, i dont know what ive supposedly done wrong ? but its like your already guilty before they even speak to you . my wife hasen't told me for the simple reason i suffer from epilepsy and already had a heart attack this year and i panic over anything . im so nervous im shaking like a leaf . how can i try to avoid this anxiety . they recently paid us £3,500 approx as they had forgot to pay us for our oldest daughter for 2 years, this was only pointed out when my wife phoned for a completely different reason. they only paid us 1 year back and paid us until 28/08/15 as this is when our oldest daughter goes onto her 3rd year at college so benefit stops for her . im just a bag of nerves .

no dla pip or anything , just the normal ,what i would call child benefits . the one that gets paid in with esa benefit etc .not the seperate child benefit of £20 for first child then around £13 for any others.

wife had to phone inland revenue today as they cancelled our oldest childs, child benefit thinking that she would be finishing college this term. my wife sorted that out as she is on her 3rd year this coming term , then the woman said ,that we havent been claiming child tax for her for 2 years ,i thought something was wrong around two years ago but then my health got alot worse and it was forgotton about. the woman said that she has passed it on and we should get it back dated 12 months . are we better off phoning ourselves ,no idea who we phone tbh . and confirming this . would be nice to get it backdated the full 2 years but i very much doubt that will happen . also any ideas as to how much it is per child a week . we are on benefit and i get esa .

my wife helps all the time ,has quit her part time job to help more . i cant and dont go out alone anywhere ,the siezures happen with no warning and at anytime . neurologist says could be tia's and he is trying to get further than the cardiologists are doing with treament . i have lots of evidence , appointment letters ,copies of letters sent between hospitals ,departments and doctors, i get a copy sent of everything sent . most if not all is relevant most have wrote in there description as me as a young disabled gentleman. i feel sorry for people with worse conditions than i have as most times i feel at deaths door so there are some brave souls out there who are worse off than me .

is there anyone to help or anywhere i can get help to complete a pip application. ive been on long term sick /esa over a period of over 10 years , the last 2 years have got even worse . i had a ftf esa assesment around christmas and have still not heard back even though esa is still been paid . in the last 2 years i have gone through been partly diagnosed with epilepsy even though im still having my meds changed frequently and have just been invited for a 5day stay in hospital for more tests (i have a phobia with hospital stays) suffered a massive heart attack last april that took 3+ hours of mis diagnosis causing 44% muscle loss in my heart. then only 1 year 5 days later suffered yet another heart attack @43 years old ,with the hospital refusing to stent ,stating i would be fine for a few months even though i have now another 20% reduction in heart strength . iv spent the last few weeks wondering would i qualify , i also have a back /leg problem that led me onto sickness benefit to start with after a fall years ago that nearly killed me . everyone says yes but my head these days is so bad i cant even work out the forms there so confusing . is it possible for a company /person to do this . im on 16 different meds a day for the rest of my natural and basically im waiting for the next heart attack to happen . its making me so depressed as even though i was physically disabled before to an extent , im now getting mentally disabled as well and struggling to cope with accepting that this could be my future fitness . even the cardiologist couldnt work out that why i was sufferering breathleness and suvere temporal pain 3 weeks prior to my second heart attack . so how would a pip assessor work out whats what . i dont know how to put down each individual thing out on paper. and my wife bless her isnt intelligent enough to actually write this down comprehnsivly enough .

my sister in law worked for nearly 2 years at a local convenience store ,most of the time as manageress . 2 weeks ago the owner came in and said he had sold the lease to someone else and gave everyone 2 weeks notice . except my sis in law , he offered her a job at one of the other shops they own, today she did her last shift at the current shop . he has offered her 2 shifts (16 hrs) a week at another local shop and maybe more shifts at one further afield . But he has told her he has to finish her like the rest of the staff ,or they could take him to a tribunal and she would have to work for 2 weeks cash in hand @£40 per 8 hour shift . Then he can re-employ her but she would have to then work a week in hand . she doesn't want to loose her job she was working 40+ hours a week some times 16 hours a day with no break. which i thought was disguting @6.80 ph for a manageress . with manual labour involved carring stock up stairs (cases of beer etc) i think there's something fishy about the whole thing , the new shop keepers offered a job but only for 2 month while she trained up their family workers . is this even legal what he is asking ?