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Ah, Dotty, yes. I love lamb, she doesn't so I never bothered cooking it when she was home. I feel a nice bit of roast lamb for one coming on 8-)

 

When my eldest daughter went to uni I was very upset, cried all the way home, that evening she came back! We had to take her back again the next week! :roll:

 

:lol: that made me laugh!! Oh my lord!

 

PriorityOne - I'll be thinking of you this weekend. This forum has helped me so much, thank you all :-)

 

Today was my first day back at work and apart from one loud mouthed plank who didn't seem to get the hint that my eyes welling up and me walking away was a sign that I didn't want him to remind me (by aksing about it very loudly down the middle of a very big open plan office) that I now live in a house all by myself, it wasn't too bad. It can only get better, eh?

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PriorityOne - I'll be thinking of you this weekend. This forum has helped me so much, thank you all :-)

 

 

I'm a little better today.... and chatting to others going through the same does help, yes :-)

 

I am so glad you have found comfort from this curecaterpillar.

 

I wonder how long we can keep the thread going?

 

Perhaps getting to the point of comparing graduation days! :lol:

 

Haha.... that would be great!! We can keep each other going through the rough times and celebrate the good ones. Fresher's week is a bit of a worry... seeing as my daughter's uni. has a fortnight of it!!

 

:!:

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Well today was very trying.

 

Landlord wanted to evict students!

 

Major problem with one of the parents, yes that's right!

 

Hopefully now sorted, phew!

 

No halls of residence where my son is so he is in a rented house with other new students who never met until taking up occupancy, although they had talked on facebook and got to know a little.

 

I expected a few teething problems but never anything from one of parents :!::jaw:

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2 weeks for Freshers??!!! Oh my lord!! Talk about milking it! :jaw:

 

Crikey, Dotty, that sounds like a nightmare. The main thing I was concerned about was getting my daughter into halls and decent halls at that. Luckily with her being at Manchester Uni their was no shortage of decent accommodation. To have a landlord threaten eviction and because of a parent it unthinkable! I'm glad it's all sorted out but I hope the parent responsible doesn't make anymore trouble for the other residents of the house again.

 

I had the weirdest experience today. I went shopping, as usual, to Sainsburys and while I was walking around I just didn't know what to buy. I usually pick things up mainly because my daughter wanted them but now I had to shop for things I wanted/needed. I was completely flumoxed and ended up buying a couple of things for her as I know she'll want them when she does come home again and it gave me some comfort to do that. On the up side.....FIRST PHONE CALL TONIGHT :whoo:

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Well... the deed is done. We drove up there yesterday with 2 car loads of stuff!! I must admit to being very proud of her driving; there was roundabout after roundabout and when you're trying to follow a sat-nav (hate them! :mad2:), it can be a nightmare.

 

There was so much to sort out; picking up keys, getting a parking permit, student insurance, medical details, getting a Fresher's pass (which seemed to be the main priority! :lol:) and unloading. To make things worse, I've done my back in and spent the whole journey sitting on a pillow with a hot water bottle on one side... :|

 

Oh well.... she's settled and happy. The drive home was strange and the feeling at home is strange but the fact that she's where she wants to be is making me feel quite ok about it all.... and she's home in 2 weeks for my birthday anyway... :whoo:

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Well done you! I've been wondering how you got on. Sorry to hear you've hurt your back though and I hope it's all sorted out before your daughter is home in two weeks. Glad to hear she's happy and raring to go too :-D:hug:

 

The big thing I was worried about was how my daughter would integrate. Her being an only child she's more than happy with her own company and she's never been one for going out to the pubs and clubs, it's just not her scene. However, she was really excited about Freshers Fair and being able to join some societies and clubs. I text her on Thursday night to see if she'd got some mail that I'd forwarded up to her (bank cards and stuff) only for her to text back to say she was in the pub with some people from one of the societies and I was elated. She was also planning to make a curry for her and the girl in the room next to her last Friday night. I feel much more comforted now. Second phone call tonight :whoo:

 

I just need to sort myself out now. The house is just too quiet and empty and though it's not a big house it feels too big. I'm seriously thinking of selling up and moving to be nearer my bf. There's nothing keeping me down here anymore. Just need to be brave enough to do it.:fear:

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Well done you! I've been wondering how you got on. Sorry to hear you've hurt your back though and I hope it's all sorted out before your daughter is home in two weeks. Glad to hear she's happy and raring to go too :-D:hug:

 

The big thing I was worried about was how my daughter would integrate. Her being an only child she's more than happy with her own company and she's never been one for going out to the pubs and clubs, it's just not her scene. However, she was really excited about Freshers Fair and being able to join some societies and clubs. I text her on Thursday night to see if she'd got some mail that I'd forwarded up to her (bank cards and stuff) only for her to text back to say she was in the pub with some people from one of the societies and I was elated. She was also planning to make a curry for her and the girl in the room next to her last Friday night. I feel much more comforted now. Second phone call tonight :whoo:

 

I just need to sort myself out now. The house is just too quiet and empty and though it's not a big house it feels too big. I'm seriously thinking of selling up and moving to be nearer my bf. There's nothing keeping me down here anymore. Just need to be brave enough to do it.:fear:

 

I had a bit of a low after writing this but only because I spoke to my daughter and she told me that her eyes had welled up after we parted.... :sad: She sounded ok though and was just about to fix something to eat, so I hope things get better. She's my only child as well and our relationship has been very close because I have no family around me. She's been very sociable in recent years (party animal in fact... lol) but I did struggle to involve her with things as a child... so understand where you're coming from on that score Curecaterpillar. It sounds like your daughter is settling in very well though.... curry... yum!!! :-):wink:

 

I quite like the quiet but probably because I get none of it at work, so am thankful for the peace when I get in. If you think moving might be a good thing for you though Curecaterpillar, have a chat with your bf and go for it! I'm reluctant to make too many changes in my own life right now as it's quite cushy in some ways; 10 minute drive to work, etc.... I've sort of given up meeting someone nice to be honest although the way my back is at the moment, I might need the fire brigade to get me out of the bath one of these days!!

 

OMG... what a nightmare scenario that would be!!!! :jaw:

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Oh I don't know..........a load of hunky firemen coming to rescue you out of the foamy bubbles. Just got to make sure you bathe with full warpaint on :wink:

 

Update on the integrating thing....spoke to my girl last night and she'd just been to do her laundry only to realise afterwards that she'd washed her clothes and forgotten to put any detergent in the machine. Sweet mother of pearl! Also asked if she enjoyed the pub and how she got on with the new people she'd met. She told me she had a fantastic time drinking cocktails and having a laugh with her new friends and she got back to her room at 12:30............................................THE NEXT AFTERNOON!!!!!! :jaw:

 

She now started to ask when I'm going up the Manchester to see her (and buy her stuff) and that she wants me to come and pick her up when they finish for Christmas even though I said I'd buy her plane tickets to fly home. She's joined 3 societies and just seems to have settled in so well apart from complaining about some 'rowdy' students who appear to be using her kitchen instead of the one allocated to them :roll:

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lol, my daughter was at Manchester, where do you live if she has to fly home?

 

I live inbetween Portsmouth & Southampton so it would be so much quicker for her to fly home than a 5 hour drive there and then 5 hours back. Her father lives in Manchester but she's decided he's let her down once too often and won't have anything to do with him now. I think the fact that he didn't offer to help her get started in Uni and didn't send her a birthday card was the final straw :(

She's phoned me today cos I managed to stick my thumb nail in my eye and scratch my cornea on Saturday night so she now thinks I'm incapable of keeping safe without her being here:lol:

She is Saffy to my Eddie!!:embarassed:

 

P1 - sounds like your daughter is having a scream. Oops, wrong movie :wink:

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LOL are her flatmates all female P1? :eyebrows:

 

 

My oldest shared with both!

 

There are 2 blokes in there at least.... might be 3. She needed to adjust fairly quickly to not having a "naked" house any more and went to buy some decent pj's a few days before we drove up there...:lol:

 

I hope your eye is ok Curecaterpillar!! :|

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Bless you - just to say, as a mature (I'm in my 30's) student at Uni, I help out on Welcome Week with the Freshers and they all look a little bit wide-eyed and vulnerable BUT.... can I say, they are having a ball! They are raring to live the 'experience' of Uni life and know they have allocated Personal Tutors, Student Reps and fellow students to support them. I go to University of Northampton, so know I can't help specifically with your daughters, I would if I could :)

 

x:)x

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  • 1 month later...

OMG just found out my son was on the train just before that cement mixer went over the bridge in Guildford!

 

I knew he was on a train but thought he was going in the opposite direction, forgotten that he had to get to Euston first! PHEW!

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OMG just found out my son was on the train just before that cement mixer went over the bridge in Guildford!

 

I knew he was on a train but thought he was going in the opposite direction, forgotten that he had to get to Euston first! PHEW!

 

Oh Jeez!!!! Is he ok? Are you ok?

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Sorry P1 just re-read what I posted!

 

He wasn't on the actual train but the one that went before.

 

A case of being in the right place at the right time thank goodness.

 

He always has been a lucky lad fortunately!

 

Spooked him a bit...............and me!

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Sorry P1 just re-read what I posted!

 

He wasn't on the actual train but the one that went before.

 

A case of being in the right place at the right time thank goodness.

 

He always has been a lucky lad fortunately!

 

Spooked him a bit...............and me!

 

Thank God for that Dotty.... !!! Far too close for comfort though..... it would have freaked me out too !!!

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Fingers crossed that he can get back to Guildford ok tomorrow night!

 

Although, my OH taking other son back tomorrow to Kingston so not far away if he gets stuck!

 

Oh what fun!

 

How is your daughter getting on P1?

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She's doing fine thanks Dotty.... and is loving the life up there!!! Her sleep pattern has gone to pot though because some of the flatmates crawl in at all hours... not that she's bothered about that!

 

The course is going well and it's reassuring to know that she's not forgotten what she went to uni. for in the first place... because I did wonder during the 1st two weeks!!!

 

:|:lol:

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