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MONX last won the day on May 30 2009

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  1. Oh dear, so sorry to hear this had many an online conversation with Babybear or Lynda. I do know that she had many health issues and was quite ill the last time i spoke to her. My thoughts and prayers to all her friends and family. RIP Lynda Monx x
  2. Hi Mr P Thats great, a real load off knowing how to proceed. I am in a really lucky position (in relation to the funding for Mum's care) in that as she was sectioned under the mental health act, she is in "continuing care" therefore she is funded by the LA and the NHS so her capital and assets are not going to be used to pay for her care. We do pay the difference of the cost of her care and what the NHS and LA will pay but that was a choice Dad made when choosing the place. He felt that eventhough the home was charging more than the going rate he was happy to pay it as the home gave Mum the care she needed and deserved so we are happy to continue with hiswishes .....despite the fact that personally I feel the home are captialising on the fact that for most people in our our area they are the only establishment that are within a reasonable travelling distance that provide the level of care that Mum would need...but that is another story. So I just need to arrange a few estate agents to give quotes and an evaluation of the property and send these to the court? I know that when I get the full deputyship I then could sell the house. This is something both my brother and I want to do as we feel the house is just deteriating with no one living in it and neither of us want the bother of renting it out so selling it and putting the proceeds in a high interest account would be better for Mum should she need it. Thank you for your reply Monx x
  3. Hi all its been a while since ive posted on here its been a difficult time. I am sure this is not the best place to post this request for advice but i couldnt really find any forum on the site that was even close to the topic i need help with. My wonderful father passed away in September last year, my mother unfortunately suffers from early onset Alzheimers and is in a home. My father was her Appointee regarding her benefits and finances and this has now passed to me since his death. I have an interim certificate of deputyship in order to document her finances in order that the court of protection can then assess her worth and then award my complete deputyship and charge me a bond in order to do so. Using the interim certificate I have managed to sort out all dad's pensions etc the only thing left to be assessed is the marital home. I have never bought/sold a house and I am not sure how to go about it. Is it as easy as contacting and getting a few quotes from some estate agents in your opinion or does it have to be more complicated as i dont own the house? Hopefully one or two of you will know or this thread can be moved somewhere more appropriate. Would appreciate any advice Thanks Monx x
  4. My father passed away on Tuesday last week and we are totally devastated as you can imagine. Mum is in care as she has althzhiemers. Dad left a will which said that he wished his half of the house to be divided between my brother and I and obviously the half my mother owned would go towards her care under the asset rules. (i believe anything over £14,000 is used to pay for her care) We have since learned that mum and dad owned the house under a joint tennancy which means that dads share of the house doesnt become part of dads estate and passes to my mums sole ownership. The house needs to be sold in order to fund mums care and as her daughter it falls to me to do that however in order to do it i have to apply for a "public guardianship" which means that I have to pay a bond to protect mums finances and this is something like £500 (annually i believe) so in effect the government are wanting me to pay for the right and privialige to sell my parents home and then give them the money! To be honest there was barely enough to pay for the funeral so my brother and i have had to use our savings to do that and at this moment I dont even have £500. So my questions are: 1. what would happen if i just refused to deal with the sale of the house, would someone be appointed by the government to deal with it? 2. If mum was in care due to being sectioned and currently funded under section 117 of the mental health act, does that mean that she will be continued to be funded by the government? I know that this is a sticky one but dont know where to turn, unable to get appt with cab for weeks and really at the end of my tether. Dealing with the grief and organising funeral is bad enough but having all this over my head at the moment is making me ill. i just hope someone on here can help. Thanks Monx
  5. Oh dear....wish I had read these before I ordered it....seems they have a reputation. Oh well let my bad fortune be a warning to anyone else. Monx x
  6. Yes its called one click vintage company and there seems to be a few different sites under the same company name, they do a pharmacy, pet store etc
  7. I ordered some wine and a bottle of rum as christmas presents from this company online about three weeks ago. Nothing came within the five days so we emailed them, they said that it was out of stock (despite showing stock when we ordered) but said they would refund our postage for compensation for the wait. They assured us that they would have new stock by this week and I would recieve email confirmation of the delivery date by Monday this week. Weve heard nothing and now we have stopped recieving reciept notices for our emails and the phone lines are constantly engaged or have messages playing saying they will get to us as soon as possible. It seems that I have lost the £30 I spent and I am really angry. My partner is unemployed and we are having a very frugal christmas out of necessity and I cannot afford to just lose £30. We now have to hope we can get the presents from elsewhere in time and pay again! Anyone else had any problems with this company? Monx
  8. Such a shame, I loved this guy in the Green Mile as John Coffee. RIP Michael.
  9. Hi Guys I thought it was time to update this thread. I hope that the personal things I share will help others dealing with similar weight and health related problems. My first post on this subject was prompted by having just weighed myself and I was devastated to find that I weighed almost 30 stones. After the GP referred me for the operation I took it upon myself to get myself as fit for the operation as I could possibly get and after a great deal of reassurance and hand holding, I joined the local gym. Initially I could only do the weights as I was too heavy to use the machinery and due to my joint problems this even limited what I could use even more. I started to lose a little bit of weight, around a lb a week which was astoundingly slow weight loss as I really was trying hard and eating like a bird. Things got a bit easier and I managed to do more things physically despite the doubling of my pain medication (tramadol was my best friend) but I started to see a real difference. By February 2012 I had lost over two stones. The surgeon and PCT agreed to my operation and booked it for May 2012 but I had to lose another stone before I started my liver shrinking diet (this shrinks the liver so that the surgeon can get all your bits and pieces). I lost the stone easily and a bit more. By the time I was ready for my operation I weighed 25 stone 6lbs! I had lost over 4 stone before my operation. I know some of you would be thinking at this point, would I really need the operation if I could do this on my own. I did give it a lot of thought and discussed it with my family and the GP. My conclusion was that, yes initially I could carry on and lose a bit more and then one day in the future something would happen and I would start to eat emotionally once more and set the whole yo-yo gain and bit more cycle up again. I went ahead with the operation and all went smoothly, I was very lucky to have a brilliant surgeon and anesthatist who saved my life! It hasnt been easy, re-educating yourself to eat smaller portions, concentrating on protein first, veg and salad next and if you still have room (rarely do) you can then have carbs. I have no sugar in my diet as it makes me very ill as does anything with a high fat content. Emotionally its a very difficult adjustment as you are shrinking. I have a mild form of body dismorphia others see a difference in me but my brain only sees the enormous person I was previously and I still find myself making more room for my body than I have to. I didnt even recognise my reflection in a shop window the other day because it just didnt look like me! I have lost a further three and half stones since my operation in May and I am now 22 stone. I still have a long way to go as I want to get to 12 stone as this will give me a healthy BMI and I will look like someone who hasnt got a weight problem for the first time in my life. I now walk a mile and a half to work every day and go to the gym twice a week and do the equivalent of five miles on various machines. I am also going aqua sizing once a week. Although I still have the joint problems, the weight I have lost already seems to have lessened the impact on my joints and I no longer need a walking stick or pain medication. My Severe obstrobctive sleep apnoea is almost a thing of the past and I can actually cross my legs! It certainly isnt the easy/lazy way to lose weight that some might imagine, the adjustments you have to make both physically and mentally are life altering and do not come easily at all. I have had to fight obesity all my adult life and now I am on a level playing field and for once the odds are in my favour.
  10. Cheers for that Conniff I suppose it would be better to try to appeal but I am not feeling too good at the moment and all the fight has gone out of me! I will email and say that we dont feel it is warranted due to the markings on the road being covered with sleet and that the lane wasnt actually being used by buses a that time. Thanks Monx
  11. Hi guys, hope you can help. My partner has received a fine for driving in a bus lane on 4.4.12, it happened at 5.48am! Are bus lanes in use at that time or are they always in use. Also we aver that the weather was so bad and that the rain and sleet made it difficult to judge whether he was in a bus lane at the time, there was a heavy covering of sleet on the road so the markings were not discernable. Do you think it is worth appealing against the charge or just paying it to get rid of it? Thanks guys Monx
  12. Doilem Oxygen thief Waste of skin Mensa member (oh the irony) knuckle dragger Mince (as thick as)
  13. I guess it would be really difficult to narrow it down to just one but if I had to....... rudeness....it takes nothing to be civil.
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