Shoplifted in H&M

[BankFodder]

My understanding is that you stole an item. You managed to get away without being caught and now you are having regrets and also feeling very stressed about it.

If that is right – then my first comment is – Good for you.

It wasn't a good thing to have done. It was a very high risk move for only £6 gain.

I would suggest that you go back to them. Tell them that you bought the handbag and the inside the handbag pocket you found the necklace and that you are returning it.

Not only will you get brownie points from the shop – but also you will feel really good about yourself and that will be great.

There won't be any problem at all. They will be so amazed anybody bringing something back like that that they will really congratulate you.

After that I do think you need to have reflection as to why you did it. It will be good idea to speak with somebody that you trust so that you share your experience and your anxiety. It will make you feel better and also give you the support that you need to help you not do it again in the future.

 

[BankFodder]

Firstly for £6 they really won't bother. You can't imagine the scale of the thefts they have and they won't put two and two together.
You really needn't worry about it.

The most important issue here is your own stress and guilt and also the possibility that you might want to do it again.

I suggest very strongly that you follow my advice about taking it back. Tell a little white lie about it being in the handbag. Nothing will happen but you will feel great about yourself. Then as already said, find somebody that you trust that you can tell about it. Your husband? Probably not your daughter – a friend? A GP?

I think it's very important to share this

[BankFodder]

I think you are likely to shake whatever happens and whenever it happens.

However I think it is important that you go in with the necklace very clearly displayed so nobody can later on say that you have been trying to steal it. I think that you should probably go to the security person on the door immediately and say to them that you found this in your handbag and that it needs to be given to somebody.

Make sure that it's given to a responsible person but I think that you should let somebody know as soon as you enter the shop so that everything is completely clear.

I'm sure it is absolutely fine but you will have to screw up a little bit of courage but you will feel fantastic afterwards.

Go and get a nice cup of coffee afterwards

[BankFodder]

I suggest that you go along with the bag and with the receipt for the bag. Have the  necklace in the side pocket. Go to the security guard. Say to them –

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"look, I just bought this bag yesterday and guess what I found in the side pocket. It clearly was placed there accidentally and I want to return it to the store and I want to give it to somebody please."

 

[BankFodder]

Make sure that you do have the receipt for the bag with you. There may be some initial disbelief that somebody so honest that they want to return a necklace that they found in the bag

[BankFodder]

Zero possibility. Don't worry about it.

They will simply accept it back and then get on with the rest of their business – and so should you.

Sorry to say but these doubts you have and this distress that you are suffering are the slap that you are taking for doing it in the first place. Return it as I suggested that you will feel really great and it will be sorted and you can forget it.