disaplinary hearing monday 2nd june at 10am

[Saffronflowers]

I am very sorry that you had such a dreadful day. I think looking from the outside that it is very logical that they made a "show" of you to discourage any other staff from thinking that you "got away with it". That does not take away from the humiliation that you felt.

 

Today is the first day of the rest of your life, now is time to lick your wounds and pick yourself up. As regards your loan and your present finances, pop over to Money Saving Expert: Consumer Revenge - Credit Cards, Shopping, Bank Charges, Cheap Flights and more to the debt free wannabe forum and you will get loads and loads of advice on budgeting, meal planning and info on how to handle your finances at this point. You wont have to tell them any details unless you want to.

 

Big hug and hope that you can feel more positive soon

 

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[Saffronflowers]

Magic - this might sound harsh but it is not meant to be nasty.

 

You stole not once but twice - you have lost your job. That is it. What is done is done.

 

Now is the time to get on with what you are going to do next. You cannot afford to be out of work if you have monies and dependants. As others have suggested why not get some agency work or in a fast food outlet to rebuild your work history. The only person that can fix this is you, forget how others have been treated.

 

Be strong forgive yourself and rebuild your life

 

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Bigmac - I thnk your idea reagarding the reference is extremely good. I thought long and hard about this last night (hence why I rarely go on CAG these days) and I think that is very important that firstly you forgive yourself.

 

Every single one of us has done something stupid in our lives, more often and not for most there are mitigating cirucmstances that cause these aborrations.

 

One of my greatest concerns is that I suspect rightly or wrongly that yours was due to financial pressure and this really needs to be addressed hence my advice to pop over to MSE to get advice regarding your finances as they are now. I am happy to look at your SOA if you want to PM it to me and I will go through it to see if there are bits that I can suggest. I do however think that it would be better on a forum where you can get loads of advice.

 

Regarding Tesco, I personally dont think that you can hide 15 years of employment, but I do think that if you concentrtate your job seeking efforts to employers that are unlikely to seek a referance then you will be successful. Use your feelings regarding your treatment to fuel your job search and prove to them that they cannot destroy you. I am pretty sure that if you use these emotions correctly you will prove this to be a postiive life changing event. I know it sounds a bit tree hugger but you are in control of your future, not your Tesco Referance.

 

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