problems at work-

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Just a general note - please try and keep advice on-thread, rather than resorting to PMs. Not only can the advice given help someone else, but incorrect advice can be picked up on by others and corrected. Be very wary of accepting advice by PM, and if you're not sure, feel free to ask.

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No, no offence, Donswood - it's the standard warning people give out when 'PM sent' or the like appears in a thread

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Yes, you do have a case.

 

Firstly though, make sure that you have another member of staff to sit with you in this disciplinary meeting. This is your right; don't let them tell you otherwise. You and/or they are allowed to take notes, and to see any evidence that they intend to use against you.

 

To start the grievance process, all you need to do is to put your concerns, and the way you've been treated, into a letter, and hand it to your HR manager. If you wanted to write the letter and post it up on here for cleaning up, you're more than welcome.

 

The above is just general advice; we have a few very good resident experts on here who will no doubt come along and take a look

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Retail and pressure-selling jobs can be the worst. I myself was pressured out of my job a few years ago (a job I loved and had been there for years). New manager, thought he'd 'make his mark', made life hell for everyone, and there were resignations in droves. I'm clued up on employment law, and even I didn't submit a grievance - it was just too much being sick in the mornings before work and at lunchtimes, getting stomach pains, headaches, dizziness, tears, etc. - it's affected how I view the workplace, and even now I struggle to view working full stop as something positive. It took a long time for the misery to turn into full-blown righteous anger, and unfortunately it wasn't soon enough for me to continue in the job. Partially happy ending, though, he left the company soon after the area manager had a word in his ear about all the resignations.

 

I'm just trying to say that it's difficult to bear up under that sort of pressure, especially with all your medical problems on the side, rainbow, and nobody will look askance if you decide not to take it any further and look for a new job - but if you don't submit a grievance, in my experience you will deeply regret it in years to come, feeling that you let the bully 'get away with it'. I consider myself a no-nonsense, strong person, and the effect of the bullying really shook my confidence in myself as that strong person, and I still haven't completely recovered it. Perhaps if I had taken things further instead of resigning, I would be in a better place with my life right now.

 

Just my experience, hope it helps.

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Rainbow - how did it go today?