My son is 27. He has worked for a local shop since leaving school, rising from assistant to assistant manager in the 10 yrs. 5 months ago he was asked to work at different location for a few weeks due to them having no management in place. He covered this absence a number of times. On his last cover, he decided to take the team out for a goodbye drink the night before his last day. During that night he stupidly made a play for a colleague and asked her back to his hotel. There had been flirty texting and calls between them since he had been there. she said no and he went on somewhere else. He then slept through his alarm and was over an hour late for work. He arrived and was hungover. This is not something he would normally do at all, in fact he has been commended for his timekeeping and punctuality in previous reviews. On his return to his normal shop, he was suspended. The girl made an allegation, saying he made it uncomfortable for her to work, that she was refused a day off because she hadn't slept with him and that he had been drinking whilst working. They held an investigation and found that he hadn't been drinking (other workers statements) and that the girl had lied about the day off however he admitted to asking her back to hotel. He left out the fact they had been flirting in his statement. During his hearing, they didn't give him minutes, of the process or company grievance policy. After 6 weeks of suspension they have now dismissed him for gross misconduct for being late (he was only key holder so shop was shut ie loss of business), being hungover and abusing his position of trust by asking her back. He has been given no notice of what he will receive (lieu of notice, holiday pay etc) but what concerns us more is 1. The reference 2. Accrued flexi time of over 300 hours His contract mentions flexi time is given in place of overtime but nothing else is mentioned about what happens when the employment ends. Surely they can't expect him to have worked almost 9 weeks overtime for no.pay? He had an exemplary work record before this. As a side..he was asked to take this other shop permanently but refused due to it being so far away. Now I have rollicked him for his stupidity, but I really need to help him too. He has two young children with his ex partner, who he pays maintenance to. We know he won't get JSA, but he has applied for lots of.jobs. He hasn't got to the stage of needed the refenrce yet, but are they likely to say why he was dismissed? I'm hoping someone can give us some advice

Good Afternoon all, I have landed myself in a very bad situation, 3 weeks ago i was asked by a Line Manager if i would like to make a few quid for Xmas by taking something from our premises in my company van, he assured me that it was low risk and he would make sure the CCTV cameras were off, unfortunately we were so nieve as the MD has a seperate server to his house, safe to say we are both now under suspension on suspiction of Theft, I had my investigation meeting on Tues just gone and i am now waiting for a letter regarding my Disciplinary meeting, since the investigation meeting my partner and my 2 x kids have now moved out and moved in with her parents some 300 miles away, i am at the end of my tether and have never done anything like this before, my partner has said that she cannot risk being kicked out of our house when i getted sacked and we cannot pay the bills, therefore i must pack up my house and move down to be with her and my kids to try and rebuild her trust in me, therefore i will need to leave my employment anyway, so should i write a letter explaining my situation and also my utter remorse for my actions, and ask that they judge me on my employment history and work ethic up to this moment of madness and to give me a reference that will assist me in rebuilding my career, i have not had any disciplinary issues in the 4 years i have worked for the company and i was in a position where i had access to company credit cards and fuel cards, but i NEVER abused that trust. The bottom line is that i have been an idiot and greed has caused me to break up my family, I must move to be with them as my youngest is 10 months old and this is his first Xmas, Any advise on this will be appreciated. Thanks

Hi all Bit confusing this but hopefully it will all make sense.... I work for a warehousing company and had an accident on an item of MHE on Friday 14th September. I work nights and the incident happened towards the end of my shift Friday morning. I returned to work on the Sunday (work Sun-Thurs) and completed the paperwork. I was told by my supervisor that he had discussed it with the Ops manager and the Ops manager said no further action to be taken. Subsequently, the Contract Manager told another supervisor on another shift that no action was to be taken, before relaying the same message to my Supervisor and I continued to work as normal. On Tuesday 2nd October, I was told at the start of my shift that I was to be suspended for this incident. I received a letter this morning inviting me to attend an investigatory meeting this afternoon which I did. I now believe I may be dismissed for this incident. My questions to anyone that can help me are: 1) Can a company wait over 2 weeks to suspend me (bearing in mind the Ops manager was actually on site for the Sunday after the incident, and indeed for the rest of that week, did not know of the incident, and told me personally that there was no reason to suspend me or take further action as it was a genuine accident) 2) I was due to be suspended on the 1st October but was on annual leave. I have been made aware that the news of my suspension was discussed by numerous colleagues on the Monday and Tuesday before I found out myself Tuesday evening. I believe most, if not all, of the employees in the warehouse knew I was to be suspended before I did. Can I do anything about this? 3) I am under a final written warning for another accident (5 months to go), which I wholly believe was incorrectly given and my appeal was unsuccessful - my grounds were dismissed without being discussed and the meeting descended into a surreal discussion about parked cars!. However, there are numerous legal grounds for believing the warning should not have been upheld. Is there any grounds to have the original warning discarded from this investigation? 4) The company I work for is involved in 3rd Party Logistics and the customer has high volumes of work at month-ends and low volumes at the start of a month. Could I suggest/infer that the suspension has been timed to allow for me to work during the high-volume period (I am held in high-regard amongst the supervisors as someone who works hard and does numerous hours of overtime) 5) There is talk on site that my investigation is only being held now due to another accident on site last week and the HSE being involved due to the seriousness of it. Whilst almost impossible to prove, the timing seems coincidental at best Any help would be most appreciated