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Hi again, sorry its been so long... I do quite often come on this sight and read some of the posts. Update.... Tribunal date is 3rd April, meeting at welfare rights first. Have well fare lady and a person from mental health care going with me. I have just started intensive CBT, a nice young girl comes to my house, it works wonders having someone to talk to even though I still can`t look at her or feel comfortable enough to open up. I`m hoping by the time the appeal comes round I will not feel quite so anxious. Sat here feeling as nervous as hell, don`t know what else to say....Bye for now.xx
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Hi all, back again. Got a phone call from welfare rights who are going to help me and go with me to my appeal. Just need to find someone to go with me which is the hardest part, don`t know if they would come to me... should have asked but as usual I got all flummoxed and any way it could be months before I have to go, so trying not to worry about it. Thankyou. xxx
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Hello again....Further update.....Papers for tribunal filled in and all necessary information forwarded to them. I was told I could be waiting a year or more as they are inundated with appeals. Thanks to all
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Hi everyone. Update:- Jobcentreplus decision maker has not changed their original decision so it now goes to the tribunal stage. Is this the way it usually goes?
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Thankyou Margaret. Yes she is going to get a statement from my counsellor to support my claim. I`m so very grateful for her help and yours too, and everyone else who helps out on this forum. I`ve to ring her as soon as I hear from jobcentre and she will help me with whatever comes next. This lady said she doesn`t go to the tribunals but can help me to find someone who can, if it gets that far. xxxxx
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Just thought I would give an update on my appeal progress so far. My counsellor arranged for someone to come to my flat, she works for NHS specialist therapy services. She went through all the medical report with me and we identified were I should have been given points. She is going to write it all on my behalf and send it in, I think for dwp to make a decision or whatever, I`m a bit lost with all the lingo and who does what etc. Very pleased to have someone who knows what they are doing. My esa will be reinstated at lower rate on Monday so I`m thankful for that. Housing benefit should follow as soon as I have proof of esa to send them. Have to play the waiting game now. Very hard to do as I feel like something will go wrong at any moment. I would love to have an update every day at least, but I know that's not going to happen. Its the reassurance thing, its awful not knowing what is happening. Thanks for all your support and guidance xx
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Spoke to a very understanding lady from housing benefit yesterday. Benefit is put on hold until they hear about my appeal, wish they would hurry up and make their decision, have rang every day and now its bank holiday weekend so can`t do anything for 3 days. My daughter did me some shopping on line and had it delivered to my house.......got my precious coffee again thank god and thank my daughter too, I was climbing the walls without my caffeine. Hate having to rely on her for things but I`m totally skint. Wish she lived closer. Waiting for Tuesday, *** the bank holiday.
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Hi cuchiandme. Do you feel better today? It must be nice living in the country. I have had several holidays in the country side, great for dog walking, wish I lived in the country, always wanted to. Got a phone call from a welfare lady that my counsellor got for me, she is coming to my flat next week to help me with the appeal, you know, to go over the atos medical report. She said she can write a letter for me too, supporting my case, about my condition. I must say it takes some of the pressure off. I hope someone can go with me too. All I want right now is to have my esa re-instated. Ran out of coffee today, now I`ll have caffeine withdrawals....I drink a lot of coffee. Don`t you have anyone to talk to, did you ever see a counsellor or such like, no family at all? Don`t mean to pry Do you listen to music, what do you like?
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isn't this good news? Certainly is
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Hi cuchiandme..... coincidence or what...I was listening to "bye bye baby" this afternoon. If I go out alone, which is not that often, I wear my earphones. It helps me to think that I wont be noticed, mostly that people will feel they cant talk to me cause I wont hear them. Little do they know that quite often I`m not listening to anything, except I was today, and it was bay city rollers as well as lots of other music from 60`s & 70`s. I liked their songs but I didn`t go all out with the tartan etc. Sometimes I think I might start smoking again, I think about it often, but deep down I know it wont really help, in fact it would be really stupid as I don't have any money.... and there`s always the health risk, not that that worries me. Sending you big hugs xx
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xx:-)
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Thanks for the support all of you...xx. Had to go to my counselling session, which as you can imagine did not go so well, I was in a right state when I got there, in fact I`m surprised and so was she that I made it. I don`t like it when she praises me and says how well I did to do this or that, it makes me feel like a school girl instead of a 50 odd year old grandma. I do get something from the sessions though and I am just getting comfortable talking to her, its a shame it will all end after another 2. Will have to continue with the phone calls etc tomorrow, a daunting prospect but necessary. My counsellor is getting someone to ring me to help with this appeal and all its mind boggling paper work. Hope its soon.
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This is truly a nightmare. Endless forms to fill out which mostly duplicate what you have already done. Endless phone calls to make just to tell them what you told them yesterday. Just spent 20 mins on hold with DWP only to be told that their computers are down and to ring back later. "how much later" I say, "oh in about an hour or so, you will just have to keep trying if its important or leave it till tomorrow" he says. It takes me long enough to have the courage just to dial the number. When I get a negative response it puts me off trying again. I need to know if they have received my sick note and the GL24. Housing benefit have been very quick off the mark to cancel all their benefit but have also sent me a form to fill in so I can tell them I don`t have any other income now... hopefully they will re-instate payments as soon as they see I haven`t had any money since 8th may.... Sorry for waffling on...Have to try and get things straight in my head.
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Will try and do everything that has been advised. Tried to get through to CAB today but line is always busy. I have another CBT session on wed so will ask her advice and hope she will give me some written support. Try CAB again tomorrow. Had enough now...my brain is mush....I need to calm myself or I wont sleep tonight....meds here I come. Bye for now:???:
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I`m envious of you all. My dog is a rescue whippet/terrier cross and I was so relieved when my previous neighbour said she would take him. I could not bear it if he had to go back to the shelter that would have meant I had failed him. I think that is why I am so jumpy now, having a dog makes you feel safer. I first claimed esa mid January so am only used to the lower rate. My medical was on 3rd april. the decision to stop it because of 0 points was made on the 8th of may which is when I received my finale payment. I am waiting to find out if I can appeal that decision with DWP. My atos person used the fact that I had recently moved to mean "I could cope with small unexpected changes" and the fact I spoke to her meant " I could deal with strangers". How are you supposed to deal with these people if you don`t talk. I cant remember saying much at all except for possibly nodding or shrugging to which she prompted me to into saying "yes"
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Hi again cuchiandme. I had a dog too but had to move because of the stupid bedroom tax rule. Because I had to move quite quickly before I got into debt, ( the landlord bumped his rent up) I had no option than to take this flat, unfortunately am not allowed a pet. I do still get to see him occasionally, but it breaks my heart when I have to leave him. He is very happy in his new home which is good. I too have a social anxiety, suffered mildly with it for most of my life but events of the last year have made it escalate. I am glad I found this forum cause its "good to talk" and I find it much easier than being face to face. Even talking on the phone causes me some anxiety. What`s this black triangle letter you mention, would it help me too? Don`t like it when there is no money coming in and get behind with bills etc, it just adds to the problem. I think I will have to ring DWP tomorrow to see if they have come to a decision. Did you get your benefit re-instated fairly quickly? It sounds like I have a long hard fight to prepare myself for... wish I could type faster I forget what I want to say half way through writing it.
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Thankyou for your support cuchiandme. Your reference to the atos "person" and the rigour mortis made me smile even through my tears. Just spent an hour on the phone being passed from pillar to post in order to sort out my housing benefit, finally decided on the call back option only to be called back by the wrong dept. I shall have to start all over again once I`ve composed myself.As for the atos report on my medical, I can`t believe how much they twisted everything I said so it came out in a positive light. Good luck to you and thanks again.
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Thank you, I shall battle on with the hope of finding some answers.( I sound so positive but that's not how I feel inside) I am grateful for everyones help and I`m sure I will need you again soon. xxx
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There`s hope for me yet then. I have 2 sessions of CBT left out of 8 but they are for depression. I am on a waiting list for the anxiety sessions which I think run on the same lines. You have to be really motivated for the CBT to work as most of it is homework and I`m afraid when my mind takes over and I`m left to my own devices the depression and anxiety often wins. I am told I am only allowed 6 sessions, and an extra 2 if I need it, as with the depression, I don`t think its enough and its so easy to fall back again. Thanks for sharing with me. Hugs and good luck to you too.
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Thanks for all the information, it gives me some relief to know that other people have had the same problems and it has worked out ok in the end. I can`t help but worry, its all I can think about and as you know you can never resolve it in your head. Will keep you posted, hopefully with good news.
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Yes I did ring housing and council benefits and they said someone would ring me back hopefully tomorrow. How long were you waiting for benefits to be re-instated? I`m very worried that I won`t manage without it.
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Thank you Margaret. I have already sent my sick note so I will write a letter to ask for esa to be paid and put it in with the GL24. Apparently housing benefit have been told that my esa has stopped so they have cancelled that too. I will be in serious trouble soon if I don`t have any money coming in and no one to rely on for help. Here`s hoping something goes in my favour for a change.
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Thanks for that information. I just rang DWP for the ESA85 and they are sending it to me, I will send the GL24 back as soon as I fill it in, I don`t want to wait any longer. Supporting evidence can be sent later I am told. DWP also told me my last payment was on 08/05 and I won`t receive any more until they have looked at my appeal, is that right? When I fill in the GL24 do I just put that I am appealing the decision of 0 points or do I have to name which sections I think I should have been given points on. God this is difficult...I feel like I don`t understand it properly and I`m scared in case I do something wrong and mess up my chances. I am not normally this thick.
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Thanks for the quick responses. I`m afraid I find this all very confusing. I saw my doctor yesterday and he gave me a sick note for 4 weeks and agreed with me that I should appeal. I have also rung DWP and they sent me a leaflet that has the GL24 at the back. I don`t have the ESA85, should I ring back and ask for this. I can`t see how I will get all this done and posted back to DWP before the dead line as my letter was dated 8/5 and I didn`t receive it until 14/5, that's 5 days gone before I even knew about it and its now 16th, time is running out. Should I ask DWP to look at the decision again first or go straight for the appeal. I don`t have anyone to help me with this. Will someone from CAB help even if its over the phone, I`m not very confident about going anywhere on my own. Sorry if I sound like a numbskull but I tend to read things over and over and still feel confused. Thanks xx I am now going to look at the above link which I probably should have done first.
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Hi I`m new to this forum and a novice with computers in general. My problem is I failed my atos medical and I am not sure what to do next. In January I had to cope with some difficult problems which left me very stressed and anxious and eventually feeling depressed. It took several visits to my doctor to get some help from counceling. I have had 4 cbt sessions so far and don`t know if this self help thing is working for me. I received 0 points for my medical, the whole experience was very stressful and on hind sight I felt like she put words in my mouth and prompted me to agree with what she was saying, hence the 0 points. When I got the result this morning I have not stopped crying, I can`t imagine having to go the job centre never mind actually working at the moment. I get very stressed and anxious just thinking about going to my cbt sessions. Should I appeal this decision and how do you go about it. I would appreciate any advice from anyone as I don`t have anyone I can talk to.
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