Hi, i'm a woman in a man's world. I let my childen live with my ex husband a year after we split up and he has hounded me re maintenance ever since. He earns approx £30,000 a year and I earn much much less and struggle to keep a roof over my head. Also he has alienated the children, so as well as paying £450 (some of this is arrears too) a month I don't even see the boys. In my experience the CSA hold all the cards. I have no answers for you. I have been advised to give up work etc, but I want to work and need to work to support myself. The CSA are totally unsympathetic to the parent living without their children and do not care one jot about their circumstances. I have no issue in paying maintenance, however, the 20% (plus arrears) makes it very difficult to support my general living expenses. Because you work, they can always claim directly from your earnings. The way I see it, it is a no-win situation. I'm just sorry I can't be more positive.

He says he won't touch the money and will leave it where it is until he hears something. He's done alot of research on the internet to try and find out where he stands in this, ie is there a time limit on the "owner" coming forward to claim the money....bit of a risky one I guess.. thanks anyway

Thanks for reply o_a, he has done this but because it is an internet based transaction they say they can't do anything about it until the person who made the transfer contacts them. Apparently they can't trace the transferror......more than a month has passed and it seems strange that someone isn't missing this money!

Hi, hope someone can help me here. A friend of mine has an e-savings account which he hasn't used for many years. He regularly uses his flex account on line but never bothers to look into his e-savings account because it has been empty for many years. However, yesterday, he clicked on the account in error and noticed a sum of £5000 had been deposited on 28 Feb 2010. He has no idea where this has come from. Obviously this raises the "moral" dilemma, but how could this have happened when e-savings are only accessed via internet. Any ideas would be great.