So a person "acts" like a very needy and ill person inside their own home, but is the life and soul of the party outside?

 

Is it me, but something seems very odd about it?

She didn't act like that outside the house when her and I were together, as I had to push her wheelchair, now she's single however!!!

Trust me, I was there

"nothing else has worked (prescribed pain killers)" I assume was the "Other Stuff"

When someone controls you , your money, the fact you cant have friends, speak to relatives , leave the house, other than to work , then its pretty clear to me that they are very manipulative, I was with her when she got the patches from her GP, the conversation was short and sweet

"Im in loads of pain, depressed by it, cant move, nothing else has worked (prescribed pain killers) what can I have stronger"

The GP then put her on morphine patches and that has stayed the same in all that time.

I understand it looks like I am an accomplice, but when I wasnt permitted access to my own bank account, either my debit card, or online account, I was regally beaten if I even dare asked for more than my £5 allowance (She has been changed for assault ) then there has to be mitigating circumstances in all this

how about pictures brick laying or riding rollercoasters?

Maybe DWP would want those?

it was in reply to someone who asked if the people had seen her care plan

It's pretty pro DLA here and for those who are genuine, I agree, but if actions like this stop it getting to the genuine, then surly , it needs stopping

she doest have a care plan, she has morphine patches and a supporting letter from her GP, no care plan, ever.

talking to her isnt an option, she just hurls abuse, I got out because for years she was physically, emotionally and financially abusing me tbh.

She isnt the type of person you can have a chat to , everything is ultra defensive mode.

The sad fact is, the videos are all one month apart ,showing that it's not just a day, like I say, she's never walked un aided before, be it sticks or a wheelchair

I know that genuine disabled people are being taken off DLA unfairly

but this runs much deeper, I know it does.

without sending them proof, wont it just seem like another "Bitter and twisted" ex though ?

I have the videos, so its not really stirring TBH

It's clear that I have been taken for a ride , They have not reported her because they wanted it to be my choice, so that I didnt blame them.

When someone claims to be unable to get out of bed daily, for 4 years, then the next thing is they are in a supermarket , bending, stretching, then carrying lots of bags in their arms, then walking totally unaided etc etc, the proof is there really.

Long story short, my ex has been claiming High rate mobility and medium rate care for 4 years, shes never had an assessment, it was granted to her for chronic fatigue syndrome and the only evidence was a GP letter.

I had no reason to disbelieve her, she always walked with 2 sticks and on outing made me push her in a wheelchair, during the night I'd need to help her use the toilet and before work, i'd help her out of bed and to get dressed.

My friends all told me that I was being taken for a mug and there was actually nothing wrong with her and they knew it, I of course , back my ex , as at the time, I had no reason at all to disbelieve her.

However, since we have split, family and friends have provided me with 4 videos of her walking, some distance, without her sticks, at a brisk pace and clearly not suffering any pain (She used to visually show it)

Is there an email address I can pass these onto the DWP on ? I know there's an online form, but these video's cant be added to an online form.

I might sound bitter, but im not, benefit fraud is something I am simply against 100%, she might have recovered since we split and thats fine, but shes still driving the same motability issued car and using her blue badge.

Thanks, it seems crazy, I always thought failing to notify a change equals benefits fraud tbh, but I thank you for your time

I submitted tax credits at the same time as child benefit, do ill chase them today

Is there anything I can do about it tho?

Sorry, to confirm, I now have child Benifit

However it's only bring paid as of January

Not oct-dec

The months that were the most expensive, owing to having to buy my child a whole new wardrobe and toys etc

I don't think it's fair that my ex has had 12 weeks x £20 for a child that wasn'tlliving with her and it seems that she's ok to keep that money and not give it bback?

Many thanks

Hope it's ok to bump this?

Thanks

4 Months ago, my wife and I split.

I had been subject to years and financial, emotional and physical abuse, so my head wasn't in the best place, I wasnt aware of what benifits etc were being claimed , I had a budget given to me of £5 per week and that was it as far I knew anything about money, I worked and earned good money but never saw it, my ex didnt work and controlled everything.

One of our children elected to come and live with me at the time of the split.

My ex wife , then started throwing loads of disgusting ( and proven , false) allegations around , further adding to the pressure I was under.

When we left, we were not permitted to take anything with us, we had to start all over again.

In Nov, 3 weeks after the split, once I had started to get us both back on our feet, I submitted a claim for Child Benefit and child tax.

Last week I received a letter saying that my ex had not informed HMRC of a change and had still been claiming for Child Benifit from Oct until dec 24th, for the child that was no longer living with her.

I asked if there was a way I can claim this money back, as I had to buy a whole new wardrobe for our child (no goods have been returned to date and probs would no longer fit anyway) and I had been feeding etc our child since Oct but HMRC didn't seem too bothered about this and said because my ex didnt tell them , it was tough, isnt this benefit fraud ? not declaring a change ?

I have police/solicitors/cafcass reports all detailing that we both left in Oct, is there anyway I can claim the Child Benefit for the child that lived me since Oct or does my ex get to keep it all because she didnt tell them ?

I assume Child Tax will be the same but I have not yet heard from them,

Thanks Ppl.