hi, first of all, thank you for replying. We have no contact, at her request. She didn't want to know my partner until she was short of money and contacted the csa when the kids were 12 and 8. Previous to this, she denied my partner dna tests (there was always doubt) and then told him she had the kids tested with the other man she was cheating on my partner with, and (she said) the results came back as the kids were this other mans. It's a really long story. So my partner left the home and moved away, started a new life, met me and we've now got kids of our own. With that kind of history and the things she has been saying about how she gets money for nothing and blatently boasting about how she's fiddling the benefit system etc. You must understand that we know what she's like and she is a nasty peice of work. She's even admitted to us that she only had the kids to get money because at the time my partner was earning 'big bucks' (her words). She openly admitted to lying about being on the pill. The woman infuriates me with her attitude and lying. You can imagine my partners reaction after being told they weren't his, 8 years later, a letter pops through the door demanding money for them after all that time. Sorry for rambling, i just know she wont inform the csa of any changes if it involves her 'losing out' Thank you.

Hi, my partner currently pays for his kids to his ex. My question is this, How will the CSA know if the child is working or not living at home etc if the mother doesn't inform them? She's a nasty piece of work and it wouldn't cross her mind not to lie about such things. Thank you.