thankyou very much martin , for your advice and time to reply to me im very grateful! im not sure about welfare office though?could i ask them in confidence ? and also im not sure how to contact them ? many thanks again

thanks martin, i will let you know. im going to ask for a interview b4 the one they have given me cause thats not till later this month , and b4 i decided to come clean i was just going to put a fresh claim in with bf on it legit wise.but then thought about it all . because i told them i had change of circumstance in the week they have sent me fresh claim forms ,,but b4 i fill them in i think i should own up first . do you think i am doing the right thing by owning up b4 i fill in the fresh claim? i hope they dont stop my money i have 3 children.still worried:confused:

thanks for the replies , i am worried cause he has been living with me, but all they gotta do to see im telling the truth about him not working nor claiming is to look at his national insurance etc , my son has 24hr care and with the other 2 is very hard even wth both us looking after him. its the fact that i lied about not knowing who the dad was that worries me really . the reason i lied about him being the dad and living with me is i was told they would make him go to work ,and its very difficult to cope even with him here.like i said i didnt even claim cb or income support for my youngest for over a year ,and i didnt want to say i didnt know who the father was. but when i did claim, this is when i got the letter. is it better to just come clean about the whole lot ?i feel it would be . ive been worried for an age. they will know i didnt do it for money gain they can find that out by checking on him .still worried sick thow

hi, i have had a letter from the benifit office asking me to attend a customer compliance interview. ill try and explain in the best way i can. i have been living with my bf for about 5yrs , in that time he has not claimed any benifit nor i have claimed for him. he has never worked in the time he has been with me.i am on income support and i have 3 children.the youngest two are his. i have never told the benifits agency hes been living with me nor have i told them he dad of the younger two. i knew this was wrong but i did not do this to gain any money watsoever. i did this because my eldest child has a severe disability and when i became pregnant with my bfs child i could not cope . i wanted to be above board with everything,i telephoned the law society and asked if i had a boyfreind come and live with me could he become a joint carer for my eldest son, they said no, that the benifit agency would make him go to work.this is the reason ive been living a lie . no money gains at all. i just cannot cope on my own . when my last child was born i did not claim cb for him for over a year as was to scared they would start asking questions. if anything ive been strugling to keep all of us on my money. if i come clean what can they do to me?im really worried and just want it off my shoulders instead of trying to get out of it another way.please help