As far as I know, your employer does not have to agree to a compromise, however, if they want to save the hassle of going to a tribunal etc, then it would probably be in their interests. Hope it works out. BD

It looks like you feel your employer has decided you are going to be sacked before the meeting even takes place. In this case you could approach your employer and ask them if they will consider a Compromise Agreement, whereby you resign for a package, eg a few months salary plus a clean reference? This would save your employer having to go through disciplinary hearing, appeal hearing and probably tribunal, thereby saving everyone time, money and hassle. If they accept this, you can approach a solicitor who will deal with this agreement on your behalf, and the best thing here is that the employer is usually responsible for paying the fee to your solicitor. Check Yell.com for a solicitor who will offer an free initial consultation. Hope this helps BD