went to the cop shop again and they basicly said that cos i was willing to give this guy the money - nothing they can do. I said it was a loan and they said no contract was signed so it was not a loan. would be my word against his

sANDY12 Sorry to hear of this but some people are cruel, just a thought why dont you send him a new message saying you are worried the money you gave him may not be enough as you havent heard from him and was wondering if you needed more to sort this mess out, got to be worth a try id think, good luck.

Ok. I think you have a case to argue that you would not GIVE £4,000 away to someone you have known a short time. This guy is obviously the lowest of the low to accept this money and then cut off all contact. As I said earlier, you first need to press charges. If the police wont listen then you need to ask to make a complaint against the police.... that should jolly them into doing something about it. Go down to the station on Boxing Day and then post back and let me know.

Sandy, sorry to read about your problem.

 

Just a thought but, if you've been texting this person then you have his 'phone number I presume. It might be worth contacting the 'phone company just on the offchance it's a contract 'phone and not a 'pay-as-you-go' one bought for a few quid.

 

Either way, it's also an additional piece of evidence to give the old bill.

Do you have copies of any emails/texts from him saying "thanks for the loan of the money and I will pay you back soon as I can"? You also need to go back to the police and insist they take this further.

dont have any emails - as i regularly empty my box - i only have one text that says "thank you. i thought i would txt you to let you know; the money arrived in my account. Thank you so much for this"

is that what the other person agreed to?

I would think so if it is reported as a crime but am not sure if it is as the money was given freely it would appear. and as stansfield has said, was it a loan or a gift?

I intended it as a loan - i was under the impression i would get it back :-|

Yes, but surely she is entitled to know where her money went to?

what is the sort code and I will tell you the bank? not the branch of course to protect your identity

I myself am Bank Of Scotland.

Surely you must have the name of the account you paid into? Do not leave it at this. This is fraud and you need to let the police know that you want to press charges. This is obtaining money by deception! Go back to the police station, dont phone, call in person. Demand that they take action.

Anyway - i did go in the copshop and they said basicly that because i offered it to him, it could be seen as a gift.

But can the police actually track who he was? I mean - if he has closed his account......

Hi. Sorry to hear of what has happened. Can you give a little more detail ie where exactly did you meet this chap and when you say you "wired" the money to him, what County is he from. I just hope you havent been hit by the Nigerian [problem]! This is a big [problem] that happens all the time.

He is in the UK and that i do know

I wired the money (bank transfer) ie i went in to my bank and gave over his sort code and account number and the money was sent direct to him

I was wondering here - please, first off - dont tell me how stupid i was, i already know this.

Now - over the past few months, ive got to know (thought) this person extremly well. We have had some fun online, mainly on msn, and we have had some text convos. This person, seemed to be extremly nice. Then, they went quiet, so i asked what was going on - for a couple of days, he told me that he was ashamed to admit but he was in trouble finantually.

He said he was deep in debt and was scared and didnt know what to do.

I thought about this, and i did think, that i have got £5k sitting in the bank, that i did not need. So i asked how much it was, he didnt tell me, then the next day he told me it was £4k and that he had bailifs at his house and everything.

So long story short - he gave me his bank details (only sort code and account number) and i wired him £4k.

later on that day he texted to say how thankful he was. We kept in communications for a further 4 days and thats the last i heard from him.

He has failed to answer texts, phonecalls, emails, etc....

I dont even know his real name - as the name he gave me, im sure if phony.

What can i do?

Yes i know i am stupid, and yes i know i should not have done it - but what is done is done, and now i need some advice on what to do next.

I dont know his name - the bank, when i spoke with them, said something about his account not existing or that - so does that mean he has closed his account?

If he has closed his account, will the bank still have his detials on file?

The police didnt seem THAT intrested as i had willingly gave the money

Any ideas?