shoplifting get caught in John Lewis but let me go

[scarf]

Hi really appreciate to help me with this issue. 

 

I'm terribly sorry. I've had a couple of shoplifts in John Lewis in the past month, all of which were items I didn't need and worth more than ￡200  I assume. I knew my behavior was very very wrong and stupid.I have seen a psychologist and counsellor but it is a very complicated, as I cant help to do it.

 

Follow is what happened yesterday. LP caught me yesterday, and I was in the store, taking stuff out of the box and putting it in my pocket. She stopped me and I said I would pay for these things. But she said she could see my earlier theft on CCTV and they had to call the police. At this time, another male security guard also came to my side. They kept asking me for my name and address. I was very scared, but since I didn't bring any driver's license and identification with photo, they said I had to call the police. So I gave them my bank card to take a picture of them. I was so scared that I had a panic attack and couldn't breathe. They haven't taken me into the inquiry room yet, just in the mall lobby.

 

In the lobby, I stated that I had lost my job and that I was selling stolen goods to make ends meet. I'm so, so sorry. Also,I indicated that if I called the police there would be a chain of events that would force me to be sent back to my country, and then I would be persecuted.  My English  not very good, but she may understand what I said " they will hauted me after deported". Unfortunately, these are all true, and I'm under a lot of pressure. The woman who caught me looked sympathetic. So when I was about to lose my sight she decided not to call the police, but to ban me from John Lewis. And offered me water to drink. I am very sorry and regretful. I'm very grateful to this lady. The male security guard didn't complain, just said please stop doing it, it's a serious crime in UK. 

 

That's what happened to me. I was riddled with guilt, but at the same time I had a huge fear for the future as I really wanna change and dont wanna it with me for life.

 

1. I was afraid that when they went back over the last month, even two months CCTV and found out tme for several times, leading they change their mind and call the police.  I was scared if the police would find me,  because my line of work is very sensitive about this. All the informtaion is here: They own CCTV footage.They didn't ask me to take off my mask and take pictures or sign anything, or take me into a special room. I wear a mask most of the time, but when I had a panic attack I took my mask off briefly, for less than a minute. Also,  the card they took the photo with was not issued by a UK bank and could not be traced back to my address. But it has my name on it.  Even though I didn't register with the police when I moved to my new home. 

 

2.If they call the police and the police cannot identify me for the time being, will they recognize me when I do police registration "WHICH I have to" at the police station? I am very sorry to say that I have had this behavior in more than one store but it is of low value. Though I didnot get caught but I assume they has email my face with mask to the police station.

 

3.Will there has any other problem I may need pay attention in short or long term?

 

Afterall, I realize it is a serious behaviour problem and mental illness condition now, but I ignored it at the time.I'm already seeing a therapist, working on it step by step. I had a decent life, and though I had gone through a low point, I realized what was wrong and decided to grow up, change my life, get up and make amends. I hope my verbose confession doesn't bother you. Any advice would be appriciated!!

 

Best, 

 

 

 

 

[BankFodder]

They are unlikely to do anything more about it and so for the moment you should simply try to calm down but keep on seeking the medical support that you have started.

If you are contacted then be extremely honest about what you have done. Don't try to hide anything.

[dx100uk]

and if you ever get any silly letters from rlp or dwf simply ignore them totally.

 

dx

[scarf]

Thank you very much. I'm already in therapy and I will continue

 

How long will they contact me, If they don't contact me in a week or a month does that mean they won't. And whether it's a phone call or the police showing up at my door.

 

Also, Can I continue to shop with right behaviour in the places I used burgled but didnot caught yet? Or I d better stop drop by until a month or a half year?

 

Best, 

[BankFodder]

I have no idea at what point you can be confident that they won't contact you so best thing to do is to stay honest all the time.

I'm sure that you can continue shopping – but stay honest all the time. It's really not worth it is it?

Discuss it with your doctor

[dx100uk]

The police were not and cannot now, nor would not ever get involved anyway, they are not interested in people like you, only organised gangs.

 

shop where you like but keep out of that store for a few months.

 

as i said if you get any weird letters trumping on about civil redress, simply ignore the powerless scammers .

 

read a few threads here, you'll get the idea.

 

forget about and go and get well

 

 

[BazzaS]

You can't undo what has already happened, but you need to look at what you can do moving forward.

 

It seems that (work as a concern, immigration status as a concern) that you really can't risk getting caught, and prosecuted.

 

So, you need to focus on not putting yourself in the situation where you might shoplift, until you have been treated for / dealt with the problem that is making you do it.

Would you consider only going shopping when with a friend, would that help you short-term until the issue gets resolved?.

 

Do you think you'd be able to stay out of shops where you might again be tempted, and end up risking all?

 

As for "Even though I didn't register with the police when I moved to my new home." : are you saying you haven't given the police your new address

Aren't you obliged to (as a condition of your 'leave to remain')?

https://www.gov.uk/register-with-the-police/change-replace says you must update any changed details, and https://www.gov.uk/register-with-the-police/how-to-register

says that your address is one of the details the police require, and record. Again, why risk it?.

[scarf]

Yes you are right, I will actually, following therapiest instruction.   The reason I didinot report is I dont have my home I live in friends sofa for a while. and I m so afriad to go to the police station at this point.  

Edited March 13 by dx100uk
unnecessary previous post quote removed

[dx100uk]

you came here in a distressed state and we helped you.

it would be really nice for others reading threads in the same initial state of panic in the future as you were, if you bothered to post a conclusion.

 

very few people bother to help others.

 

dx

[scarf]

On 27/05/2022 at 01:20, dx100uk said:

you came here in a distressed state and we helped you.

it would be really nice for others reading threads in the same initial state of panic in the future as you were, if you bothered to post a conclusion.

 

very few people bother to help others.

 

dx

Yes Thanks a lot. So far no agency or police has contacted me. I have also been shopping honestly with the help of a psychologist. Thank you all for your advice and comfort in this post, which helped me get through the darkest times.

 

[dx100uk]

No police or any lawful org will ever be.

 

And the silly fake fleecing letters you might get simply need shredding.

 

Dx