Caught shoplifting boots -

[BankFodder]

First of all, welcome to the forum. We won't judge you. We've had quite a few people here who have been caught shoplifting and don't know what to do and they come to us.

They all very nervous and of course everybody is very ashamed – but we won't judge you.

You posted in a very solid block of text and with very little punctuation. I have tried to restructure your story but I don't know if I've got it all right.

If you make any further posts, please will you include lots of spacing and also punctuation so that it makes it easy for people to read – especially on a small screen.

What shop was it? You can tell us so don't worry about it.

I don't expect they will do anything – but you don't say if they took your name and address

 

Hang on, I see that they have sent your letter so obviously they did take your name address.

The first thing is that the police won't be called. You will probably find that they have taken all the action that they intend to – but they have banned you from the shop and you probably should respect that ban and not go back.

You've obviously had a very bad shock – and it can't be very comfortable. If you've got any friends to talk to about this then that would be a very good idea.

However, it sounds to me as if you need to talk to somebody professionally and I would suggest very strongly that you go to see your doctor and explain everything that has happened and everything that you are going through.

I expect that your doctor will be very sympathetic and very helpful about it. You say that you're already on some medication so your doctor will obviously be a bit familiar with your situation.

Although it's not what you came here for, you have also suggested that there are problems with your marriage.

We don't give advice on marriage problems here – but if you have discovered that your partner is behaving in the way that you say, then maybe you should raise that with your doctor as well and see about going to talk with a relationship counsellor.
There is no reason why you should have to accept this kind of thing.

I would suggest that you get talking to somebody – a professional – to start understanding better the effect that this is all having on you and what you should do about it.

You should certainly do something about it – not just suffer in silence

[BankFodder]

Don't worry.

I'm pleased for you that you are brave enough to go see the security guard – and I'm sure that you feel a lot better about that.

I do think that you should go to see your doctor and tell them all about it – and also the problems at home.

It seems to me that there are several things which need to be sorted out