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It will be my birthday at the end of the month. I will be 38.

It always becomes a depressing time of the year as I have no partner and I live on my own.


I am planning to travel to Cornwall for a few days as I can't bear being on my own at home on my birthday.

I would just love someone (i.e. a single woman in her 20s or early 30s with no kids) to go with me.



The problem is that I have Asperger Syndrome, and anxiety and social phobias get in the way, and that is why I have had these problems.


I love musicals and the theatre, (I have booked a ticket for a theatre down in Cornwall, not Blackpool, and I will be going to it).

OK, I can go on my own, but it's nice to share things with someone you love. Couples married for years take it for granted.


It is so difficult writing about how I feel, and it has taken a couple of days just to decide what I want to say on here.


I would love to meet someone, and was wondering whether anyone knew anyone who would like to meet someone like myself?

I am in the Nottingham area.


I know that most of you can't help me here, and I doubt that this message will remain on here for too long,

but I do feel better for writing it.

A CAG member is who I am

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Hi George


While this is a consumer forum, i share your pain actually quite well.

Have you ever though about trying something like online dating? Just experimenting and seeing if it is something that would help?


We could do with some help from you.


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morning george


i'll freely admit i also have aspergers and while i feel uncomfortable in large groups of people the social side doesn't hit me that hard. However i have two daughters diagnosed with autism who do tend to struggle with any new situations.


my advice is probably stuff you already know but i'll list it anyway


Don't worry too much about your own behavior, i can lie awake for hours and wonder about "oh god what if they thought this/that/the other" - anyone who enjoys being with you overlooks that

Don't feel you have to spend too much time explaining what aspergers is, people will generally ask if they don't know

Pick somewhere slightly quieter to meet people, if your uncomfortable in large groups pick a quieter restaurant or cafe - larch farms & the hutt is just outside of nottingham and i know the hutt has great food

Quiet places are where you make them - try newstead abbey, the gardens are huge with several seated areas but other quiet areas are hidden around more than you think


I know it might be a odd place to look but try contacting highbury hospital they have a specialist aspergers unit there (try Jackie Dziewanowska as a point of contact shes excellent) and ask if they know of any dating service for those with aspergers, if its out they will know it

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