legal aid help and rights with childrens falther help

[Brownguy53]

Hi guys and fellow girls x x x

I joined as my boyfriend told me about the site and it's meant to be very good. My current situation is that a few years ago i broke up with my kids dad because he use to hit me and cheated on me. The guy i'm with now, my current bf is amazing and treats the kids like his own and my kids love him.

They still their real dad, but he's (1) never given me child maintaince despite working and I can't do anything with CSA because he is fiddling it and i know it. I did report him for this but heard nothing..(2) he's currently been disputing with me about allowing our children to be put into the school I want. He's gone so much out of his way about this that for no valid reason he's saying he doesn't want them there.

(3)he told me him and his partner 2 months ago were moving to lancashire so the arrangement would be that he would pick them up even though we live a hour and a half away...

(4) He's been collecting the kids..but before moving would expect me to pick them up because 'everyone is' drunk at his house inc himself. Which left the liability on me. Whenever i question why he has to drink on the only days he has the kids it turns into an argument. So much so I just said he won't see the kids, so he took me to a solicitor. I also got a solicitor who wrote back, but was helping me get legal aid too. As i had problems getting legal aid I didn't get it in time for the cut off..but his solicitor told me in mediation there was o more issues anyway..I thought the matter was thus sorted. But I asked my solicitor for legal aid anyway, he told me at the time as mediation and the matter is sorted theres no grounds for legal aid so I couldn't claim...the issue now arises that as he's moved to manchester he's still claiming he doesnt want the children in the school I want (despite telling me to my face it's fine) and more importantly..he's now asking me to meet him halfway..and yesterday told me his car had broke down so i needed to do the 1 hour 30 min drive. The week before he had already asked if I would go up there and I told him i couldnt afford it as i'm supporting all 3 of the kids financially. I suggested he get a train or bus, the train was £60 for 3 of them. Strangely he fixed his car the next day when I refused to go. But now i am fed up of him and i wanted to know..is there any grounds for me to get legal aid or a solicitor??

 

 

^^^POSTED THIS ON BEHALF OF MY GF

[assisted blonde]

All I can say is that if your GF has custody of the children and day to day care then the choice of school is up to her, also she dosent have to drive to meet him its up to him to come and collect the children

[Guest]

I would just carry on regardless, put the children in the most suitable and convenient school for them and you from your home. it is up to him to collect them for contact and return them accordingly. if he wants to upset the applecart then it is up to him to take the legal steps, I doubt he will, he is likely just full of talk, I don't really see a court/judge being prepared to listen to rubbish anyway, they are only concerned with the welfare of the child/children. it doesn't seem the mediation has done much good, but if its him changing his mind on what was put in place then its his headache, don't let it be yours. concentrate on your children and yourself, if he isn't happy tell him to put it in writing via a solicitor, if what he wants is unreasonable then nobody will bother with it. am sure your a good mother, keep that as your priority, regular school attendance and welfare are all anybody looks at. sometimes splits can become bitter, and this is the kind of thing that happens, I wouldn't fuel it but just carry on regardless, in time things may settle.