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My wife and I would be very grateful for advice. Our daughter who is 22 and lives at home, training to be a teacher, has had a boyfriend for a couple of years. The boyfriend comes from New Zealand, seems a nice lad and often comes to our house at weekends to be with my daughter. He has his own flat about 50 miles away near where he works. As he has come from New Zealand he has moved around a bit and has used our address a number of time to get post sent to him.

Recently the boyfriend bought a car and we noticed that a letter had come from the finance company to our address for him. It is obvious that he gave our address as his when applying for the finance for the car. Today I accidentily opened an envelope from the Passport Office, again to our address but his name, and found that he was applying for a passport renewal (he has dual nationality) and in the application he has put our address, not the flat where he lives. We also recieved his electoral registration card this week - he is using our address for his voter card.


I feel extremely uneasy about this and although we know the boyfriend well I feel angry that he is using our address without even asking. I'm now thinking what might happen if he defaults on the finance or indeed has used our address for other things such as a bank account, credit cards etc.


Am I being paranoid? I can understand it is convienient for my daughter to take him his post and he has moved address a few times so it makes things difficult for him.


I would greatly appreciate advice on any risk we may be facing and what we should do, if anything. My daughter will extremely upset if I confront the boyfriend without due reason.

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If it was me I would insist that he uses his own address for all his correspondence, as what is the reason for not using his own????? if they split up who is going to get the flack at whos address, common sense must be adhered to here and straight talking, Using your address maybe for credit as not long in his own address for purposes of credit application and maybe stated been there (Yours) for years>>??? sorry would sort that one out having been caught myself at cost to me.



Daughter would need to understand, and if he took it out on her = would speak for itself = their relationship. just a thought!

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What a horrible situation. You're not really at any risk, but should there be financial problems, it could make it a bit difficult for you if you wanted to do something that required a credit check.


Obviously you don't want to upset your daughter, but maybe you should ask her first about why he is using your address, she might have suggested it not thinking it could/would be a problem.

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