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Hi there Its been a while since I posted and I could do with some advice. My previous thread related to bullying/harrassment in and out of the work place by my husbands ex and her friend who both work in the same dept as me and him. They also involved my ex (who doesnt work there) whereby the 3 of them sent a 9 page email to all and sundry telling such lies that I had to call the police, who only dealt with him as he signed it.

 

In my opinion the organisation let me down badly. There are too many events to mention here, but I was off work ill for 5 months and was in fear of my life as my ex is a nutter and had made threats throughout our relationship if I were to find any one else etc. I also received hate mail at home (whilst I was off ill), which looked to have been written on behalf of my husbands ex. As far as I am aware I am unsure as to how far this was investigated, I made a complaint to my head of department in March 2011, I have yet to have any outcome letter in writing.

 

I went on maternity leave in February this year and honestly thought that with the passage of time I would be able to return to work without issue/fear. This is not the case, the thought of returning is making me ill, as bad as when this all started to happen. My husband is just about to change jobs, so I would not feel safe at all at work. These two women are the lowest of the low and as far as I can see, any sanction IF any was given has had no effect. When I returned to work last October, my husbands ex was constantly in my office on some pretext to talk to the men in there. I know exactly what she was doing and it was intimidating as I am a manager and she is not, therefore it would be me accused of bullying if I told her to leave the office and to call my colleagues rather than trotting in every 5 minutes. I did raise this with my manager at the time but was told nothing could be done and she could communicate in which way she pleased. I was frightened every time I had to go to the ladies, walk down a flight of stairs for fear of being pushed, the list goes on.

 

I have come to realise that there is no way on earth I can see myself surviving going back there. Because of the OMP I am contracted to go back for 13 weeks minimum. 6 of these weeks are taken by annual leave, my question is if my GP certifies me ill for the remaining 7 weeks, will this be enough for me not to have to repay OMP as it is a large amount, which I do not have. I seem to be in a no win situation. I am a member of a union but no one will answer the question for me. I am in no way trying to defraud this organisation and have been trying to get another job for the same organisation but elsewhere as this would solve the problem. I am tired of worrying about it, I cannot even face walking on site. I am fit for work, but not there. I'd be grateful for any answers. Many thanks

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Yes, if you need to 'return' for 13 weeks in order to avoid having to repay company maternity pay; 6 weeks of leave and 7 weeks of your GP certifying you as unfit (assuming that he/she agrees) will do the trick.

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Yes, if you need to 'return' for 13 weeks in order to avoid having to repay company maternity pay; 6 weeks of leave and 7 weeks of your GP certifying you as unfit (assuming that he/she agrees) will do the trick.

 

Thank you so much for responding. I've already been to see the GP, the same GP that's been treating me throughout. Hopefully, I'll find something else at a different location beforehand. Many thanks again.

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No problem.

I remember, with horror, your earlier threads about the treatment you've been subjected to and the persistent failure of your employer to deal with it.

I don't blame you for not wanting to return there.

 

What are the provisions for sick pay under your contract?

I ask because if you've already needed to use up most of your entitlement and you intend to resign; it might be best to resign after the 6 weeks leave so that you receive full pay (while off sick) thereafter.

Just in case you don't find another job in that timescale.

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No problem.

I remember, with horror, your earlier threads about the treatment you've been subjected to and the persistent failure of your employer to deal with it.

I don't blame you for not wanting to return there.

 

What are the provisions for sick pay under your contract?

I ask because if you've already needed to use up most of your entitlement and you intend to resign; it might be best to resign after the 6 weeks leave so that you receive full pay (while off sick) thereafter.

Just in case you don't find another job in that timescale.

 

It's 6 months full pay, six months half pay. I need to give a few months notice so I will be resigning whilst taking the accrued annual leave, (6 weeks) just before I visit the GP again. My husband says to take 6 months off sick but to me that's taking the wot sits and not my style. I just want out as painlessly as possible and finally close the chapter of the horrible tale. Whilst ever its hanging over me it's a festering wound. Hindsight is a wonderful thing and if I'd known before what I know now I'd just have taken SMP. Feels like I've wasted the last 10 years there, it's counted for nothing.

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It doesn't count for nothing at all.

After hanging in there for the last few horrendous years, you'll be leaving on your own terms.

10 years service with one employer is not to be sniffed at these days.

It's going to look good on your CV.

It's also fairly common for new mothers to look for a role that better suits their circumstances.

Wash your hands of this tiresome affair, it's onwards and upwards for you.

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Hello Vikki, nice to see you again and congratulations on the baby. :baby:

 

I hope you get this sorted and move on to better things.

 

My best, HB


Illegitimi non carborundum

 

 

 

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Hi there

 

Have they only paid you the statutory minimum pay? If so, I don't believe you have to return to work at all...

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