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Hi all


I'm new to this site, but in need of some advice.


In March 2009 I was signed off from work with severe depression. To cut a long story short my mum became seriously ill, my dad attempted suicide and my baby son nearly died with kidney problems. Late last year my son was taken ill again and was given the last rights. Thankfully he pulled through but I am still suffering with depression and stress as I watch my mum slowly deteriorate and wonder what will happen to my dad once my mum passes away.


After discussions with my employers I agreed to return to work in July. Unfortunately this never happened because my mum was taken into intensive care and my dad was hospitalised with acute stress. Prior to this my employers advised that they had raised my case with an insurance company to pay part of my salary. The insurance company dragged their heels and after requesting more and more info from my doctors they ultimately rejected my claim. I made an appeal but thanks to an unsympathetic OH practitioner was unsuccessful.


My benefit has also been stopped based on the dreaded points system and OH feel that I am capable of returning to work.

My GP does not agree and wants me to take more time off, but when I visited him last week I explained I needed to return to work otherwise I would be sacked.


Which brings me to the crux of the matter. I have been requested to attend an ill heath capability review on Monday. My line manager is fully aware of my situation and has concerns that I won't be able to perform my job because of my ongoing situation. I have agreed a phased return but at the moment I have 2 ill parents (one terminal) and a son who I almost lost and the stress and depression are constantly eating away at me.


I want to be honest in the meeting, but I assume that if I say I not not feel ready to return then I will be ultimately dismissed. I want to return to work as I have financial problems but need a little more time. Unfortunately because of OH recommentdation that I am capable of working, I feel that this is going to fall on deaf ears with my employer.


Many thanks in advance

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Hello and welcome to the forum. I can see this is tough for you.


If your GP thinks you are incapable of working, will he write to the company and/or OH on your behalf? If you haven't seen the Community Mental Health team locally, I would ask to be referred to them. Mine were very supportive and the psychiatrist who assessed me wrote to the DWP and sickness insurer on my behalf telling them in no uncertain terms that I wasn't fit to return to work, no matter how much it would have suited them.


Just a thought.


HB x

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