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Re: Seeking new employment whilst on sick

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misselle, how did you get on?

I am currently in exactly the same position as you were. I am a cival servant too.

 

My OH have been suppertive but unison have not been great - they keep wanting me to go to these 'capability' meetings although its not my capability that has got me signed off! It's my boss - she has been bullying me to the point where i feel completely useless.

 

I tried everything - I spoke to OH to begin with and they set up a management meeting - but they set the meeting up with my boss and me! How was that meant to help - it is my boss that is the problem!!!

 

I then told my second line manager and he wanted evidence - he made me feel like i was just making a fuss so i dropped it but told him i wanted it noted that i had spoken to him about it.

 

I then spoke to a councillor - that didn't help much.

 

I then went back to OH and they seemed to think i was taking things too personally!

 

I thought about this and realised that i wasn't so i spoke to my Union who were no help atall and in fact said she needs to see the situation through my managers eyes and said perhaps i should try harder!

 

I then got signed off (bout 7 weeks ago now) my doctor has referred me to a psychiatrist and another councillor. I have spoken to my union but they just say that they're sorry i feel this way and hope i feel better soon.

 

That's no good to me at the moment - I don't want to be off work and i hate feeling like this but every time i go near work or have to go in to see OH I shake and cry uncontrolably! I can't go back there at the moment. They won't move me departments either - which is all i need to get back to work. I never realised how impotant it is for me to be happy at work. I have always got on with colleagues and managers and never had this problem before! In fact my previous department (in the same company) have said that they would have me back like a shot if they had a position available!

 

Can i apply for other jobs while i'm off? I don't even know. Some friends have told me to go to an employment laywer - I'm going out of my mind - shat should i do????

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I agree unions are just a waste of time, space and money they are not interested in their member’s health they only want their money and give nothing back in return. :(

 

I think you need to take out a grievance before you can take it any further as ET will want to see that you have tried all other avenues such as taking out grievance at work to try are get it resolved.

 

 

Best of Luck..

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Hello there and welcome to CAG. This sounds awful for you. Firstly, you are by no means alone, several of us on the forum have experienced similar things and it can definitely make you ill.

 

I think you need your own thread, because you've posted on a thread that has gone dormant. You need advice that's specific to you. I'll ask the site team to start one for you.

 

How long is it before you see the psychiatrist? Myself, I would wait for that and concentrate on getting better for now. My psychiatrist was the turning point when I was ill and she supported me throughout. Once you have that kind of support [i would hope] and someone to back you, maybe a diagnosis too, it should make it easier for you to deal with work.

 

Stress and bullying do weird things to a person, don't they? You might agree with Allwood's suggestion about filing a grievance, but if you don't feel mentally strong enough, I would say wait to do that until you are [strong enough].

 

On your stronger days, you could start squirrelling away anything that could help your case if you decide to pursue it - letters, emails, notes of what happened, etc. You could also write down anything else that has happened to you, as a timeline, while you remember the details.

 

I would like to know what other caggers think about looking for work at this point. It seems all wrong to me that you should have to move on because of your boss, but other people have done it for a quiet life. But as you're already distanced from work by being off, I'd have said it's more important to get better. That's speaking as someone who has been through this and not an employment law person. You need to look after you at the moment, to be able to move on mentally once you have the right support.

 

The employment lawyer is up to you, or that could wait in my view. You should be able to have an initial interview free of charge, for about 30 minutes. You would need an employment specialist.

 

I'll contact the site team for you, they'll let you know where your post is moved to.

 

HB x

 

PS Allwood, we know you hate unions. Is there any chance we could have a bit of a break from it please? This person is really upset and I don't think discussing this is likely to help.

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Gables, there's a anti-bullying website [well, several actually], don't know if you've come across this one. Look for bullyonline.org. It tells you a lot about bullies, including how manipulative and how they can turn from bully into victim instantly, if challenged. Interesting reading I thought and you might recognise your boss!

 

HB


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Gables .... moved you to a thread of your own :)


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Hello Gables, how are you feeling? Please post again when you feel like talking.

 

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Hello Gables. We haven't heard from you since your agonised post a few days ago. Are you OK?

 

HB x


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