Worried about my Ex and Children

[pego]

Hi im new on here and just need some advice basically my ex-partner has been accused of benefit fraud had the initial interview where the interviewer asked some really inopropriate questions was rather itimidating the accused her of having me living with her and the kids she told them I didnt then they said they had watched the house and seen me there a certain week this was correct as I had stayed over to help out with my children as my partner has a mobility problem, they then said well he didnt live at such address as they had watched the house my partner then told them thats because that was my grandmothers address and in fact my address is at my mothers house in the next street where he is registered the interviewer was taken aback by this.My ex did two days of volunteer work for a family friend at a card shop a week ago which is near the local council shes doesnt get paid for this the original interviewer said he needed to speak to her so she said came to the shop asked her to change her story and sign a statement my ex refused and basically the guy said she was a liar and slammed the shop door almost breaking the glass. The interviewer went straight to the jobcenter and reported my ex for working and claiming. Her family friend was rang and questioned by the interviwer and had been asked to sign a form, now my ex has recieved a letter saying her benefits have been stopped as she has been working and claiming and then asking for my income details and address the CAB say they cant help and now shes waiting for a solicitor I love my ex and my children too bits and its having a effect on both of them and I just want to do what I can to help I contribute to Virgin TV Phone internet so my children can have a half decent life and I pay the house contents insurance as they live in a bad area I used to transfer monies direct to my partners account but I stopped this with her claiming I need help please

[kk3852]

I've read this a few times now and I'm still a bit confused....are you saying that an interviewer from the council went to the shop? (at this stage I need to point out that working voluntarily for a family friend is unlikely to be acceptable as working unpaid is not the same as voluntary work)

 

If the council investigator was speaking to your ex about working what makes you think that they 'went straight to the jobcentre' The local authority are just as capable as investigating this on their own.

 

Do you work? what address do your employers have for you/are you recorded at for the payment of council tax/use for benefits....there must be a reason that they thought that you lived at your grandmothers. Or are you one of those fathers who 'flit' about at various addresses so that you are not responsible for anything. If thats the case it will be harder for you or your 'partner' to prove that you have another verifiable address.

 

 

Why did you stop payment money to your (and I notice that you say partner here - not ex) was it just so that the benefits office wouldn't deduct anything for maintenance?

[pego]

I do work yes Im on the electoral roll for my mothers address all my bills are for my mothers address my employers details are all for the same address for some unknown reason they came up with my Grandmothers address I dont claim any benefits myself she is defintaly my Ex partner im only repeating what I was told about about the jobcentre so if thats wrong thats my mistake the children are not mine I took them on as my own and me and my ex decided than rather than me pay "maintenance" I take the children out and see them like that im sorry if you think thats out of order

[kk3852]

No I dont think its out of order, your first message was a bit confused.

 

If the DWP have been investigating your ex for you possible living with her dont be surprised if they ask you in for an interview to get your point of view.

At the end of the day they are their to protect the public purse by finding out the truth of the matter - there job is to find out what is going on, they are not there to make decisions on claims.

[pego]

Sorry the intial posting was confusing I was just so riled up when I posted it

[bazak1]

First of all dont worry.

It is only natural to try and get as much down while you think about it, particularly if one is angry, annoyed or upset. A lot of us members on here have come across hundreds of opening threads such as yours but please remember that the clearer you explain the problem, the easier it is for us to try and help.

 

I'm not too sure as to why they think you live at your grandmothers house unless they have followed you on several occasions, and each time you have gone there, and therefore they have put two and two together and come out with eight.

 

I agree that working unpaid is not classed as voluntary working ( the definition is different ).

 

Would you really be expected to pay maintenance for the children if they are not actually yours. Surely the "real" Father should be responsible for that.

 

You could try making an appointment for you BOTH to see someone at your local benefit office, taking with you any all proof of living arrangements, payments etc, and try to get them to look at the case again. They must come across this type of problem pretty regularly, but that doesnt mean they can class everyone the same.

 

If you hear anything else let us know.

[pego]

Hi thankyou for being so helpfull, since the last time I wrote anything my ex's money has been stopped re-instated stopped again and reinstated again the council have acknowledged that my ex was not being paid to help out at the shop but are still continuing the investigation regarding me, the main person however is on holiday for four weeks and apparently no one else knows whats going on (typical) but my ex has been told when he is back he will be paying a visit to my mum's house to see my living arrangements which I am completly fine with. I am also looking to purchase a property closer to my ex's house so I can see the children more.