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Hi All, I am a young prof female and have been living in a flat with 3 others for 2 months (2 girls, 1 boy). The boy (about 32yrs) for the first few weeks ignored me and then for the last 4 weeks everytime I saw him i.e. when in kitchen or him banging on my door, he has been very nasty, calling me names and just arguing for arguing sake. I have tried to reason with him but his behaviour is very threatening.

 

After this weekend (due to some serious antisocial behaviour on his part) he has finally been asked/told to leave by us 3 girls and finally (after landlord intervention) has agreed to go. He has threatened to make sure that I will "pay the price" for his leaving. I have felt so initimdated by him and his behaviour that I started recording my activities in the house just in case he did anything. So I have his threats on record and he has also said it infront of another flatmate. He doesn't know I have these recordings.

 

The problem is that I now have a month of him living in the flat before he has to move out and I just don't want to go home just in case something does happen. What can I do?

 

Thanks in advance for your advice

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Have you thought about contacting the police?


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Hi Clemma,

Thanks for your resposne.

I have thought about contacting the police but at the moment it's just verbal abuse - will they really take me seriously or will they think I am just wasting their time?

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Regardless of the type of Abuse, it is still Abuse. As you have the threats recorded, let the police hear them.

 

Dont let him get away with it.

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Hi All, I am a young prof female and have been living in a flat with 3 others for 2 months (2 girls, 1 boy). The boy (about 32yrs) for the first few weeks ignored me and then for the last 4 weeks everytime I saw him i.e. when in kitchen or him banging on my door, he has been very nasty, calling me names and just arguing for arguing sake. I have tried to reason with him but his behaviour is very threatening.

 

After this weekend (due to some serious antisocial behaviour on his part) he has finally been asked/told to leave by us 3 girls and finally (after landlord intervention) has agreed to go. He has threatened to make sure that I will "pay the price" for his leaving. I have felt so initimdated by him and his behaviour that I started recording my activities in the house just in case he did anything. So I have his threats on record and he has also said it infront of another flatmate. He doesn't know I have these recordings.

 

The problem is that I now have a month of him living in the flat before he has to move out and I just don't want to go home just in case something does happen. What can I do?

 

Thanks in advance for your advice

 

The simplest solution is to stop doing whatever it was that annoyed him.

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The simplest solution is to stop doing whatever it was that annoyed him.

 

Please can you only post constructive advice - the OP does not need this.


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The simplest solution is to stop doing whatever it was that annoyed him.

 

What a stupid response. This man is obviously a bully and needs dealing with.


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Hi Clemma,

Thanks for your resposne.

I have thought about contacting the police but at the moment it's just verbal abuse - will they really take me seriously or will they think I am just wasting their time?

 

I think the only way you can deal with this is to face up to him and tell him that unless he changes his attitude and stops abusing you, you will contact the police and tell them that he has threatened you.

 

He will probably be angry, but being a bully, I suspect it might make him think twice about continuing with this behaviour.

 

Best of luck.


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Hi Clemma,

Thanks for your resposne.

I have thought about contacting the police but at the moment it's just verbal abuse - will they really take me seriously or will they think I am just wasting their time?

 

It's unlikely the police would take you seriously, not with your record for making unfounded allegations.

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Oh, it's beginning to make sense who BenThom is.......


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Hi Guys,

Thanks so much for the support.

I have (very cowardly) been avoiding going home but now have a practised statement to say to him following your advice i.e. stop it or I shall be forced to go to the police.

Thanks again!

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Hi Guys,

Thanks so much for the support.

I have (very cowardly) been avoiding going home but now have a practised statement to say to him following your advice i.e. stop it or I shall be forced to go to the police.

Thanks again!

 

 

You really do need to contact and get the police involved in this issue. If you have recorded this idiots threatining behaviour The police will be more than interested in having a few words with him.

 

You should not be in the possition of tollerating this idiots abuse, if only verbal. If the police become involved then You will have a good case for taking out a harrasment and non molestation order against him which will accelarate his depature from the property in a matter of days, and if you are on a low income you should be entitled to legal aid.

 

Good luck

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Never mind a statement to this w***** - go straight to the police and tell them. You may well have grounds for a harassment case later, if he is told to stop this and continues. But you won't if you don't have a trail of official evidence, so off to the cop shop.

 

Next time he bangs your door, recorder on, and let him say what he needs, and then simply tell him politely to "go away he is harassing you" and then shut the door on him. Let the police listen to this.

 

You do know I am sure that all bullies are cowards, men who treat women like this are pondlife as well, and when he can no longer get a rise out of you he should give up and go on to the next person. Or get very angry and frustrated and do something that gets him in very hot water. However hard it is do try and show this cretin that you are not afraid of him, because if you can manage that he has no power over you.

 

Start counting down the four weeks, it'll soon pass, and have a nice big flag to hang over the front door on his last day.

 

Good luck

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