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I was called in for an interview under caution, in august i had a nervous breakdown and although getting better still suffer anxiety/panic and depression which I take meds for. I phoned them up and explained this and they said to get a doctors paper but after reading on the enclosed form that you could be arrested for not going I took a tranquiliser and went. It was awful i completely went to pieces and couldn't think straight. turns out they had bank statements showing my partners wages being paid in to my account and even a joint loan application. I denied everything and left in a complete panic. I then decided to come clean as my partner had as good as moved back in with me in dec 2006, I'm totally ashamed of myself for not declaring it, we had money problems and my mental health was not good even back then, i buried my head in the sand. I rang them up and told them I had something to say, told them he moved back in in dec 06. Then they start firing questions at me about why I sold my house etc etc, the house sold in nov 04 and i claimed straight away as my partner moved out during the time the sale was going through. They said they had to find out if i sold the house just to claim benefits, how ridiculous i think, we sold it cos there was arrears, we had a second mortage and we just wern't managing to live, they've asked me to provide proof of the arrears and i have to send off for this and also bank statements from 2004 to now!! which i have ordered, the truth is i don't know if my partners wages were being paid into my account at that time until i see the statements, with the meds im on i can't remember last week let alone 4 years ago, my question is this, if they show his wages were being paid in, he was like a child and devastated by our split wouldn't do anything for himself. I know how bad this looks but is this actually illegal? I don't know whether to admit to the further 2 years and explain i didn't know it was against the rules, would this go in my favour? they said that owning up would go in my favour regarding 06-08. The problem is I could never go through a court case, I can;t function in my everyday life at the mo and so i would have to plead guilty anyway. This is killing me, I haven't sought legal advice as I'm to ashamed of myself to speak about it to anyone. would I likely get a penalty and repayment if i own up now? or would they still prosecute me? I am so worried about bringing shame on my family, my kids especially, I deserve what I get but they don't. please please can someone who knows advise me?

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Hi,

Im in a similar position. My on/off partner has used the joint account to put his wages in,he would leave a certain amount in the account and take out the rest for himself. Its only in the last 5 months that i go his name took off and he pays a standing order into my acount for the kids. Im also pregnant by him too and have 3 other children with him. I think it doesnt look good for me but i dont think its illegal?

I too am scared about going to court,bringing shame on my kids,in particular my eldest who starts his gcses next year. Not sure if there is a confidentiality clause if there are children in the family?

My claim is currently being investigated - at this stage ive not been invited to an interview under caution.

I think you should see someone at cab - be honest with them. ITs not their place to judge you - they are there to help. You have had mental health issues in the past and still do - im sure that has to be taken into consideration?

Hopefully someone will answer your post with alot more knowledge than myself.

Good luck.

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Thank you for your reply, I have read your case, I have done wrong and will acknowledge that, I don't know what came over me, I hate people like me, its madness. As far as my mental health issues go that started in august officially so I only have proof since then, I'm just thinking I've had probs coping with real life for a long time, my mind seems unable to cope with unpleasant thoughts. I actually signed off in september because after getting ill I tried to face up to all my stressers, then a month later i get called in, I assume the investigation was for a lot longer than that as they had so much stuff. they've asked me to provide bank statements, mortgage stuff etc, not sure if I am obliged to do this but I am trying to co-operate with them, I'm just not sure if I should admit to whats not strictly true because it looks so suspicious, I really need help from someone who knows.

 

can't anyone please help me?

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Hi there, I think you need to engage the help of the Citizen's Advice Bureau - the won't judge you, and they can be a marvellous help by speaking to the relevant people and negotiating for you. Also, if you explain to your doctor what has happened I'm sure he would be able to give you the necessary statement they require regarding your current (and previous) health issues.

 

You do need to get advice and help from the CAB, if you are struggling with mental illness you will find it difficult to deal with the complexity of this on your own and there are people who are trained to help in your situation.

 

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If you have trouble getting an appointment with the Citizens Advice Bureau, another place you could try is C.L.S. - Community Legal Services. They helped us with my husbands Disability Living Allowance appeal.

 

Do you have a time limit - i.e. have you been called in for another interview or are they waiting for you to receive your statements?

Please note: I have no qualifications in this area and any advice offered is given in good faith.

 

 

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You really need to have proper legal advice. CAB are good, CLS are also excellent. If you can't get either, see if you can get some legal advice from a local solicitor specialising in benefit fraud cases.

 

I don't know where you are but you need to build up your side of the case. You need to get your mental health evidence as mitigating circumstances, and know exactly what you have claimed in error. Is is Income Support or Child Tax Credit or both? Will there also be housing benefit and council tax benefit? You REALLY need someone to guide you through all of this, as the DWP will not help you in any way.

 

Everyone makes bad decisions in their lives- it doesn't make them bad people! But you mental health will make everything seem ten times worse and you will end up blaming yourself and this will only make your health worse. Get help now from legal services.

 

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I agree that everyone makes bad decisions and sometimes we let things go becasue its easier when we have other problems. You rally do need someone to actually talk to - I found National Debt line quite good. The most important thing is to get your paperwork in order and to know eaxctly what you are having to deal with. Getting things straight and all the letters and so on in order will help you to see things clearly and make you feel better. I found that when all my papers were in chaos my mind was in chaos too - although in my case the appeal tibunal has now asked for 13 years bank statements of every account I have ever had in that time - and even I now I am a bit organised cant do that one - so I am going to write and tell them that this is unreasonable. Remeber, you might have made a mistake but you are still a human being and as such any other human being whether they are in a government department or whatever must respect you. Good luck.

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You really do need some legal help, someone on your side to look after your interests. I don't know what area you are in, but if you PM me with a general area, I could see if I could find any phone numbers/services close to you.

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Those who have read my former posts will know my situation, please read if you haven't. I want to know if it would be possible to try to "negotiate" with them, I will willingly accept a caution and repayment to avoid court. My mental health is deteriorating, I'm having palpitations again and think I'm going to drop dead at any second, even tho I'm only guilty of 2 years which I have told them, I will accept whatever they say I have to repay plus penalties. Is this reasonable or would they laugh at me? I realise I would e making myself look guilty but compared to the hell I am living in it would be well worth it. who would I approach to ask this? I can't get hold of CAB, line is always engaged :(

 

It is a fact,that benefit fraud investigations can take many forms,and to be under caution,is something that can be a very distressing experience for even the strongest person.

It is very easy for those who do not have any need for benefits to pre-judge those who do.

They will not know the difficulties or hardships invariably facing claimants.

Unfortunately,there is little scope in the system to allow for mistakes,that have not realistically been made deliberately,or with any real intentions to defraud.

The rules are very complex,and also for some it can be very confusing.

 

However,in the majority of cases,the case for the DWP and benefits agency centers around failing to report on a change of circumstances

The investigation team will look to see how much of any overpayments they are likely to be able to get back,

It is not an automatic assumption,that Magistrates Court action will follow,this depends on a variety of things,including the amount involved,the ability to repay,the Claimants previous history of claiming,and last but more importantly,the level of co operation between those facing investigation.

The DWP and Benefits agency,although powerful,remains accountable to the taxpayer and the Government.

They are expected to comply within guidelines to treat customers fairly,and give opportunity,where it is required,for claimants to respond to any accusations of fraud.

There are lots of Welfare advice groups,and groups that will help those who find themselves at the centre of investigations.Some of these are funded by the Councils and Government.

Additionally,there are many firms of Solicitors who specialise in assisting people who have found themselves under investigation by the BA and DWP.

These firms usually also specialise in housing and crime matters.

 

It is difficult to form an opinion here as to the individual case.

As has been suggested,you need to find help from one of the organisations that are out there.

I have also sent you a pm-I have a list of organisations that are there to help,and can put you in touch.

 

Thank you for response I will pass on the details for you today.

Hopefully this will give you the help that you need.

 

Have also merged the 2 threads to avoid confusion.

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Martin, any chance you could post these for the rest of us to look at ? :p Pretty please :p

 

I have a list of organisations that are there to help,and can put you in touch.

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Its very exhaustive and not actually all together.

 

I have the information for our user here.

There is two possibilities.

 

The One 4 all centre on Station Road Telephone 01443 778959

 

Or there is more specialised help.

The contact name is Gillian Phillips,Gillian will normally only deal with cases that are reffered by a social worker or GP but I am going to contact her tomorrow and see if we can get her to help you,or else that she can offer assistance to point the way.

Try to enjoy your Sunday.

 

AA99 Maybe it would be a good idea to have a stickie in place in this forum,its something that maybe will be of use,since these issues are appearing more frequently.

 

While CAG does not encourage benefit fraud,or indeed any forms of unlawful or illegal activities,our function here is to give help and advice to those who are in need of it,in many of the cases users have come here having been unable to find answers elsewhere.

I will try to sort ourt a strickie.

As I said the list of help available is very lengthly,however if anyone wants any specific contact details feel free to pm me.I will be happy to help,on the understanding that it is reported openly to assist others.

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Thanks for that Martin. I absolutely agree with you regarding benefit fraud but it is actually very easy on the benefit system of actually defrauding without knowing it. They seem to have so many rules that come to light after something has been done! It is certainly a very complex system to live on under certain circumstances. I am talking from various bits of experiences with them and do now only put things in writing with them or record their calls because I have admitted mis-advice from them and denial of being notified of certain events, etc, by phone! Unfortunately our area has now opened one of those massive postal centres miles away from their offices and the post seems to be going in all directions. They have closed all their local offices for personal appointments so one is obliged to use the phone. Not good news.:(

 

Are there any DWP specialists on here btw?:)

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Joncris/The Godmother/Zamzara are some members who are quite well briefed.

 

have a read through this thread.

 

 

http://www.consumeractiongroup.co.uk/forum/benefits-tax-credits-minimum/161396-benefit-fraud-interview.html

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I don't condone it either, which may sound strange. If I just explain a little, my hubby and I broke up in September 2004, while our house sale was going through. We'd only owned it 2 years and were struggling with mortgage payments, we were both devastated that we had failed so quickly, this led in part to the break up along with other personal issues. He went to live with his mother, he worked away a lot so was only home usually 1-2 nights a week. Hubby never accepted the break up really and always referred to the house as "his" even at this point it was rented. He came to visit kids regularly while he was home but never stayed over in those early days. we kept everything in my bank account because he didn't have one plus it made his fantasy of us being together more of a reality I think, there were car payments, a joint loan which we may or may not have renewed while we were apart. I swear I didn't know this was against benefits rules, he paid for sky, not for me but for my kids, again I didn't know and still don't if this is against the rules. We became a "couple" again sometime I don't even remember exactly but he didn't move in, again I didn't know and still don't if this is against the rules. It was around dec 06 that he sorta moved in, I was so scared that something would happen and I would be left alone to cope again, I didn't inform them, I pushed the fact out of my mind and him being away all the time helped my denial. I've spoken to my therapist about this burying my head and she seems to this there was something going on for a long time before I actually got ill, sometimes I did and still do feel like I'm 2 people as strange as that may sound. In august this year I had a nervous breakdown, I signed off in sept this year because I got it into my head that guilt was making me ill, then I got called in for IUC in October, I wasn't fit for it, I rang and told them and they said get a docs paper but when I read you can be arrested I went, they musta seen me coming from a mile off. I'd had a tranq so I was so not with it, so full of panic I didn't know whether I was coming or going, I didn't reveal anything that time. Decided to come clean and phoned them again to tell them had another IUC, then they say they have to find out if i sold my house to claim benefits, this is so not true, I have to provide mortgage and secured loan statements and all my bank accounts for 4 years, i am in the process of doing this. I just want this situation over with, my dep and anx are getting worse and I know its my own fault but trust me if this was resolved even now I have fully learnt my lesson, nobody can punish me more than i punish myself. I'm not one of these people who think its my god given right to claim what im not entitled to, and I know ppl who do. I respect the system and know i deserve to be punished. I'm just so scared about what will happen to me, mainly I worry about my kids I've always brought them up, mostly alone, to be good honest people. Sorry this turned into such an essay.

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Its ok,at least you are facing up to it,what you have said throughout the thread is pretty clear that you are worried.

Your story is not uncommon,its probably that not all choose to go to a public forum,which you should be given credit for.Personal problems with relationships are often involved in cases such as yours,since instability and to lose things that are dear, can change lots of things.

 

As you say,worrying wont change things,those things that may be in the back of your mind can only be addressed IF and WHEN they happen.

There appears to be good mitigating circumstances in your case.The worst and most blatant offenders are taken to Court because the authorities want to get the message over to those who are doing it.

Your case,from what you say,is not typical of the real culprits who will inevitably face Court and media attention.

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I've given them all the info they requested, had a letter today asking for confirmation of partners employer from nov 04 until jan 2006, this i believe i have provided already in a written statement, i can't provide evidence as we have no paperwork now and the company is now shut down. they also asked for "confirmation that my property was undergoing repossesion proceedings if that was the case" now I'm pretty sure that I was asked if there was a repossesion order and i replied no but i was in such a state i don't trust what i remember, are they just being sloppy? why would they ask for evidence if i say no procedings? I did say i was worried that it would happen as there were arrears and we were struggling to put food on the table. I have found an email from my landlord who is a friend i met online, i guess i can see why they would be suspicious but id met him years before and we were good friends. They are saying that i sold the house to claim benefits which is complete nonesense, the email i found from him was him offering to buy my house after i have told him what a mess i'm in, i don't know whether to give it to them, it seems to support what i'm saying but in my present state of mind i don't trust my own judgement. I'm willing to post the email if anyone things they can help.

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The most important thing to keep me going through my problems is a sense of this is just a benefit overpayment appeal (mine, for possible council tax benefit overpayment in 1994!!!) has been going on for two years now. It no fun at all but its not my whole life because I dont let it be. As I said before keep every bit of paper and file it somewhere safe. Just by looking through my papers I found that the council had tried to actually recover more than they originally allowed in benefit! This did not go down well with the tribunal have adjourned for the council to provide evidence to explain this. The people on this site have either been through similar experiences or know about them and they will help you - as will various outside agencies. Please dont panic and please dont feel you are alone. You will come through this - it just feels awful at the moment.

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No one is ignoring you. I just think people will reply when you give us an update of what's happening. Lots of people have given you advice, and hopefully, you've taken heed of it and getting yourself sorted so you can defend yourself. Don't worry, everyone is probably subscribed to this thread and checking in anyway!

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