Divorce help required

[vincentfan]

I know I am posting in the wrong thread

But all my CAG friends are in the Debt Forum

Can some-one point me in the direction for legal stuff

 

My husband is sending me nasty e-mails and MSN messages

He also says that when we get divorced I have to give up ''his name''...Is this true?

 

Why should I change all my bank accounts etc?

Maybe cos he doesnt want me to apply for maintainence?

[rory32]

My husband is sending me nasty e-mails and MSN messages

Okay the first thing is to keep a record of this. This is harassment and is a criminal offence.

He also says that when we get divorced I have to give up ''his name''...Is this true?

Complete rubbish. One of my friends who got divorced over 20 years ago still has "his name" as her surname.

Why should I change all my bank accounts etc?

Maybe cos he doesnt want me to apply for maintainence?

Are the bank accounts in joint names? I think it would be useful to have a bit more information on this and why you have been told to change the bank accounts. Edited November 1, 2008 by rory32
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[MARTIN3030]

You dont have to change your name-I guess that you already know that.Divorce is a messy business all round-the only ones who benefit are solicitors .

 

You dont have to put up with nasty emails-you have probably had your fill of threats already-a marriage doesnt end overnight-theres always lots of bad stuff leading up to it.You are entitled to apply for maintenance regardless of names if they are his kids.

Will move your thread to legal as you asked.

I hope things work out-by this I mean that you can find peace and move on.

Edited November 1, 2008 by MARTIN3030

[vincentfan]

Thanks .. Just found my new thread... I may need it..Thanks Martin

In answer to Rory . I have kept all my e-mails and MSN nasty threats

He may think I am studido ... But I am not

 

He says as a condition of the divorce i have to surrender ''his name''

His solicitor told him this was legal and I have to do it

My thought is tell him to get a new solicitor....Am I correct?

 

My bank account is in my sole ''married'' name

He says I have to revert it back to my maiden name.. As advised by his solicitor....My thought is .. Not allowed to swear on CAG

 

The big problem is he has left me with so many debts, some of them were joint, but I got forced into signing them over to just my name

 

I keep getting letters addressed to him at my address

What do I do... Return them ... Or give them a call ... Giving his new address and phone number

[mrsc]

Hi Vincentfan,

 

Sorry to see you are going through the hell of Divorce me too,I have no contact with my stbx as he too would have tried to bully me, I changed my email address it makes it so much easier (for me anyway) not to get the harassment from him. He also doesn't know where I live now.

 

Not sure if you know about this website but has so much information and support

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Keep your chin up you will get through this.

[gizmo111]

He says as a condition of the divorce i have to surrender ''his name''

His solicitor told him this was legal and I have to do it

My thought is tell him to get a new solicitor....Am I correct?

 

 

If you agree to the conditions then yes you would have to change it, he can ask for anything he likes but you don't have to agree to them......

 

Have you got a solictor?

 

I would block him from your senders list so he goes straight into the junk file.

 

If you have any joint accounts then contact the creditors with his new contact details and explain the situation, it won't stop them contacting you as well, but at least he is getting the same notifications.

 

Any that come to your house in his name pop back in the letter box with 'return to sender, not longer at this address' Don't open them.

 

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