First of all apologies if this is the wrong forum, I'm sure someone will irect me to the correct one if it is. Myself and my wife worked for a Homeless charity, I took voluntary redundancy in 2013 after a few run ins with the managers which were successfuly challenged with help from caggers. Recently I have hit a very lowpoint in my life. I lost my dog in April which left me devastated, I also suffer from Osteoradionecrosis to my jaw which has caused me immense pain (had surgery a week ago and is now much better) I also suffer from Cluster Headaches. On top of all this my wife left me for someone else last month. My problem is, I phone a close friend (who works for the same homeless charity) for some support at a particular low point only to be told that he had been threatened by said charity that any contact with me could lead to his dismissal. I contacted another friend who works for the same charity to be given the same answer. It transpires that the chap my wife has gone off with was a service user of the charity. I had suspicions but nothing concrete. No one from the charity has ever contacted me re said chap. My suspicions were only confirmed by the "ban" on my friends from contacting me. HAve they been discussing my private life in staff meetings? My wife left suddenly last month and was given "Gardeners leave" and has since starte a new job in the care industry. Should I have been contacted re the "Ban". If I knew there was some sort of investigation I would not have contacted any staff from there as I know their bullying style of management. Can they do this? I really nee the support of my friends at present and am feeling totally alienated, I worked there for nearly 10 years. Many Thanks