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  1. Thank you Silverfox. I greatly appreciate that I haven't been criticised for my misdeed though I know I deserve it. And whatever my reasons be I know that what I have done is wrong and there can be no excuse for it. the fact is I have gone and done it. I have been on anti-depressants and sleeping pills for a long time now. I also dont need what I stole. It's just that I had this roaring in my head to take it. Not tying to justify but that is the fact. Being caught was scary but in a way good for me. Nothing will ever make me repeat it. The problem is my husband does not believe in people being depressed or having mental issues. He thinks you accept what is and get on with life. Unfortunately, with one misfortune topping the other (son's MD was the last straw) I am unable to be normal and medication doesn't seem to be helping. after another night of fitful sleep, I have been waiting with my eyes and ears tuned to the door for the policeman to turn up. I haven't received any call from him yet. And I haven't paid the donation so they can still come after me. The policeman had mentioned some paper work which needs to be done too. Couldn't go to the GP today as husband is at home; can't risk the policeman turning up while I am at the surgery! There is after all the earlier incident too that Tesco know of. They might be looking at the CCTV footage and give to the policeman. And then there will be the DWF. If they send so many letters and my husband comes to know.. ....I dread to go there. Life couldn't be messier. I am responsible for this I know.
  2. Thank you HB. I will call my surgery tomorrow. Very scared about the police and associated criminal record.
  3. He did say that may be paperwork to do and he took my mobile number to call me. And Tesco already have a copy of my driving licence.
  4. Do fine and unconditional discharge end in a criminal record? I suppose anything that reaches a court would be a criminal record? Trying to imagine and failing. What is the worst that can happen. There's my son to think of if I am not around. How mad and irresponsible I have been. Do you think if I don't hear from the Police for a week, I won't hear from them. I haven't been out of my house in the last two days. The donation has obviously not been paid. The policeman will find out that I haven't pai will he turn at my house?
  5. Thank you. I hope the police don't turn up to take this incident further or charge me for the earlier shoplifting I've done. Then there would be no point in getting counselling anyway. I know I've been evil and it serves me right. And I am one of the chosen people who misfortune visits quite frequently. I am beyond scared, begging to be let off. I just couldn't live with being convicted.
  6. Thank you BazzaS or your kindness and compassion. Berating myself as I can't imagine I have turned into this person. But I will try to go and see my GP tomorrow and request him to refer me for counselling. Can't imagine how I will come clean about this event but have to try. I just hope I am able to wake up from this nightmare.
  7. I must be, as I cannot think why would I do it if I were sane. I've been a long term user of anti depressants and sleeping pills. Can't remember the last time I have slept without a pill. And now, I am going through sheer hell. The nights are worse. Last night I have been waking up all sweaty with a thudding heart . Very scared, hope I don't end up in a loony bin. My child's illhealth has completely shattered me. Still can't understand why I went shoplifting? It's killing me. Sorry for burdening you guys with my sob story especially as I have done something very wrong. But dn't I get a chance to redeem myself?
  8. Thank you. That's some relief if Tesco are done with me. I hope the police are done too and my nightmare comes to pass. I was not told anything about any Civil Recovery Scheme. It's only when I came on this forum and read several threads did I know that they have such things as RLP and DWF. I told the security woman and policeman about my troubles. The policeman asked about medications and I told him. however I did not say that I was mentally ill or anything. I don't know if I am.
  9. Thank you immensely for your reply. I do hope this ends here. The DWP will be another nightmare. Right now, I so hope this police/security scare ends. I have been very very stupid and never again. Can't thank you people enough.
  10. Sorry, I didn't know that. I thought that security at Tesco was staff. Will keep my head down and keep away from them. Just hope the nightmare ends soon.
  11. Thank you. I am getting all worked up because the Tesco security woman said that they know I have stolen from them before. I keep thinking, they might want to catch me for the earlier incident. I read on this forum somewhere that there is no Time limit regarding criminal conviction. Will they hound me for my past misdemeanour? if Tesco called the police and said that they have proof I have shoplifted before will they come after me. I am so scared. In a way I have called this upon myself and haven't stopped beating myself over this. But I've done it and know remorse is not enough.
  12. The policeman said, there may be paperwork but could be done later as he had my home address. I begged him not to come home upon which he took my mobile number and said he call call if he needs to contact me. I asked him if I had to wait for any paper from Tesco about the ban and he said it is verbal. I have already given the Tesco security and the policeman my driving licence. Tesco have probably made a copy to noted down my details (can't remember if she took it out of the room). The policeman didn't say I have to provide him with any document just that there might be paperwork. I was in quite a state so I couldn't seek any clarity. Now the scare that they will turn up at my place is overwhelming. I don't know what happens in this situation. Can I be nabbed again when I go to make the donation?
  13. it would have been simpler if I had to put the donation in a box or something rather than hand it to a Tesco staff at the till. Do you think police will turn up at my home about the earlier shoplifting or to get papers signed for this one. Is this what normally happens?
  14. Could be but can't say for sure. I don't know enough about the two to make out from the uniform. Please can you tell me what is wrong as you say 'something doesn't sit right here'. Is there more horror in store for me? Could be but can't say for sure. I don't know enough about the two to make out from the uniform. Please can you tell me what is wrong as you say 'something doesn't sit right here'. Is there more horror in store for me?
  15. I am so thankful to you all for replying to my message. Since yesterday, I have been going through hell thinking of all the worst scenarios. I will go and see the GP next week, I know I have to but have been putting it off. After yesterday's horror I realise I have to get help. I wish I had the money on me to pay the donation right then. Now I am panicking at the prospect of going to the filling station and paying. I am sure this is not a regular thing and they will know what I am about.
  16. The policeman said that they would like me to make a £20 donation to Tesco. I offered to get this from the ATM but he told not to take the money out especially for this. He said I could make the donation at the Tesco filling station the next time I go there to fill my car. Don't have the policeman's number or his name. Getting this info didn't cross my mind. I trawled through the forum but couldn't find any incidence about making a donation. Very scared about walking up to the till at the filling station and saying here is my donation.
  17. Thank you. Will go see the GP soon. Want this limbo with the police situation to get sorted out. I am scared to enter any supermarket now. Worried that when I go to the Tesco fuel station to pay the donation, they will know who I am and what I have done. I am so embarrassed with what I have done. Will update about the police situation and beg advice here if there is anything from Tesco about past incident.
  18. Thank you for your kindness. I am all nerves thinking about the police as I have never had any skirmish with the law earlier. Will have to see what happens. Will see the G P too though very embarrased about confessing to him. Might Tesco come after me for the previous incident?
  19. Thank you so much for your reply. Worried as the policeman said there will be some paperwork to do and he will contact me. Don't know what the paperwork is. Dreading every time the phone rings. Don't want to turn up at my house or to get letters from the police. Panicking about the repercussions if my husband comes to know. Also read on this forum that Loss Prevention is going to hound me for money any way. Unable to deal with so much trauma. I know, shouldn't have done it. Will never do it again.
  20. Right now I am in a very traumatic situation, most of it down to my own doing. I was caught shoplifting at my local Tesco. This is not the first time I have shoplifted but the first time I have been caught. Dropped my child to school, went to Tesco, bought my groceries, picked some stuff and put them in my bag (value around £15) Paid for the stuff in my trolley and left. As I was about the exit the main door a woman and man in normal clothes came to me. The woman said I had stuff I hadn't paid for and asked me to come to them. I was taken to a back room where I was asked to take the stuff out and put them on the table. she proceeded to check my bag. I tried to tell her that it was my first time (which wasn't true). She said "no, it's not and you have taken stuff earlier" too.. asked me why I did it and why should they not call the police. the man accompanying her was the store manager and he will decide. took my driving licence and they left me in the room for about 15 minutes. came back and said they have decided to call the police. I begged her not to and that I couldn't go to jail as I have a sick child to take care of. My husband would kill me ( we already have a fragile relationship) a policeman came and they discussed something among themselves. the security woman came and I was still begging her to not get me arrested. the policeman came and asked if I have ever been caught before. He told me that the Tesco guys say I have stolen from them on earlier occasions. At this point I blurted out all about myself. I have been under a lot of stress the last few years since my child suffered injury during an accident, and later diagnosed with MD. I take anti depressants and a pill to sleep every night. I kept apologising, telling him I don't know why I did it. took my driving licence and wrote down my details in his notebook. said that I should never do it again and if I was caught next time I would be in very serious trouble with the law. said that the store is banning me from coming here. I asked him how long it was for at which point he went out, talked to the store guys, came back and told me, a year. He said there was some paper work to do but since he had my home address, he could come over. I begged him not to come home as I can't let my husband know of this. then took my mobile number and said he will call me to set up a different place. that the store had my car reg. number and will know if I tried to come to the store. they would like me to make some donation to the store. I offered to go to the ATM with him and get the money to donate but he said I need not get money out especially for this and that next time, I come to buy fuel at Tesco, I should just give it at the till saying this is a donation. The policeman spoke to me in a very kind manner. said I need to seek medical help. that I seem to be in a terrible mental state and this is perhaps my way of seeking attention, a 'cry for help'. I didn't get any paper from Tesco or asked to sign anything by Tesco or the policeman. Back home, I can't stop shaking since yesterday. Despite the sleeping pill I haven't had much sleep last night. I keep thinking theta the police will turn up wanting to arrest me for all the earlier shoplifting I have done. That I might go to jail and there will be no one to look after my child. The thing is if that were to happen and my husband came to know about this, my life will just not be worth it and I will have no option but to end it. You might wonder, why I do it. I do too. We are not rich but comfortable. I certainly don't need to steal. I anyway hardly even use the stuff I steal. I don't know if am doing it due to the never ending misfortunes in my life or simply because of the fact that I could do it and haven't got caught? The thing is, it's almost like a compulsion to take something. And now, I am in such a state, don't know what to do. Call me what you will but please help me with some answers. 1. Is the police coming after me for my earlier thievery for which I haven't been caught? the Tesco guys said they know I have stolen before (which is true) 2. When they say they have my car reg. number, might they stop my husband and tell him all about it if he were to go to Tesco in the car? I really cannot tell him about the ban, I will be finished. 3. Are they banning me from this store or every Tesco store. I don't want to turn up at another store and get arrested for entering. This incident has been an eye opener for me. I am never ever going to shoplift again. What happened perhaps was good in a way that it will finally put a stop to the crime I have been committing. However, unable to calm down, I am in a state of perpetual panic, feeling very depressed and scared that my life has come to an end like this but most of all feeling terrible for my child.
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