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Thank you so much for your help in this matter, i have not had any input from social services mainly for the fear of them taking his side. the police who have visited me on many occasions, the last time when he threatened to me and my partner at that time said that there was nothing they could do unless i paid for a molestation/court order, which i didnt have the finances to do. when he came shouting and being abusive on there advice as i was to ring the police straight away and when they came they just asked him to 'move on' which he then rang me afterwards and laughed. Unfortunately he is very much like Jekyll and hyde, he plays the game very well to authorities and obviously his solicitor as being the victim in all of this. how would i get the messages off the answer machine? in case that happens with the phone. unfortunely he is very bitter that ive moved on, i am in the process of finding another home, after which i am more than happy for him to take the carpets etc but if he were to take them now it would then make his daughters home inhabitable, whould i mention this in the letter? as he stated privately to me he doesn't actually want them its just through spite.

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We lived together nov 2011 to feb 2012 as we had to do up the house and as i was heavily pregnant it took much longer till we actually moved in. We received the goods as soon as we were able to move in. The british legion paid for it all as my ex was ex army and explained to them that we had got a property and that i was pregnant and they offered to contribute as we had nothing. all the white goods were brand new and we were just asked what we needed and they delivered them, so i dont know how much they were. the carpets we had to get a quote and send them it which they then paid. my ex paid nothing towards these items. the white goods are now 3 years old, the bed and wardrobes that they also paid for have broke and been replaced by myself. unfortunately the reason we broke up was due to his violent and aggressive behavior so contact at the beginning was strained. he has persisted to be this way for the whole of the last 3 years, with threats to myself and my new partner, i have contacted the police and sought advice for 'my sister's place' as the police were not helpful at all. When contact was given, he was abusive to me when he came to collect her and regularly threatened not to bring her back causing unnecessary stress. i have all the answer machine messages and social media correspondence to prove his attitude towards me if this did go to court. As he was behaving like this in front of our daughter, i stated that he could no longer come to the house and that he was to have contact though a third party. thankfully his mother agreed to pick our daughter up from me and bring her back, i also started to allow overnight stays but he recently informed me that they were having another baby so this has to stop. i have never once tried to stop the contact between him and his daughter, even though i was very nervous when he did have her but i did say he could only have contact through third party as it was distressing our daughter when he was shouting at me in her presence. he has paid CSA finally after months and months of chasing. in the solicitor letter that ive just received he has stated that he is not happy with not being able to collect her himself and that i have constantly not allowed contact and that he has made a referral to mediation, i am under the impression that if i go i can do it separately and not be in the same room as him, as i am in the early stages of pregnancy and dont think i could handle the stress. i have no idea why he is still behaving this way after 3 years and causing me so much stress, when he has nothing more to gain.

need some legal advice on current situation. me and my partner spilt 3 years ago, we have a 3 year child together. we moved into a rented council house while i was pregnant and as he used to be in the army the british legion paid something towards the white goods, washer, oven and fridge and towards the carpets. after we separated he left the home and was very happy for me to keep the goods as they were necessary for his daughter. now after 3 years.. (he is now engaged and living with his new partner in fully furnished home with his 2 other children) he has had his solicitor contact me stating that he wants the goods back and to arrange when he can come to collect. this then would leave me and his daughter with no carpets, fridge or cooking appliances. Can he legally do this?? i am on benefits so i would not be able to replace these things. i have to reply to this letter myself as i do not qualify for legal aid anymore so any advice would be grateful.