Thanks fir all the replies. I got a verbal warning for poor attendance. The three other sickness periods were mentioned but no detail was gone into. One was when I had a problem with my leg, this was common knowledge I was on crutches for weeks. One was for stomach bug over Xmas, everyone at work caught it including my manager, the doctor signed me off in the publics interest as I work with food and the last one was last week I was heavily dehydrated after starting a new diet regime. I actually came into work but was very ill and my manager said I wasn't fit for work and sent me home. If he knew he would mention the miscarriage I don't understand why he didn't pre warn me. I am not ashamed of it happening or embarrassed, It is something that I have come to terms with but it is a very upsetting thing to happen to a couple. I am a private person and even our families did not know that we have lost a child so I don't feel that my manager had any right to tell 2 fellow colleagues. He could of just said personal matter or even of said there is one here would you like to see it, rather then read it out loud. I feel a huge sense of sadness and I feel let down. I work for one of the big 3 supermarkets, you would think that a company if that size would train the managers to be more sympathetic? I really am not bothered by the verbal warning, at the end of the day I serve 100s if customers every day and I am bound to catch things from them. I can't help getting ill and I always make sure I have medical evidence from doctor to cover myself so they don't think I'm swinging the lead. I just feel now like I don't have a private life and I really don't have faith in my personal details remaining private.

Thanks for the reply. I knew they would discuss the reasons and had it of been any other reason I wouldn't of minded. He said " this time you had a miscarriage so due to the seriousness of that we shall disregard that asence" Why did he need to say that? Surely he has no right to say that?

Hi there, I work for a large supermarket. I have had 4 periods of sickness in 12 months and yesterday I was asked to attend a discerplinery to discuss this. I took along a colleague as my witness. During this meeting my manager proceeded to tell us all in the room the reasons for my periods of absence. One time I was off work for less then a week after having a miscarriage. And that was my personal business that I didn't want anyone to know. He blurted it all out in the meeting and now 2 other people know my private business. I felt sick and shocked he had laid my life bare for others to see it was a massive violation. I then had to finish a 8 hour shift feeling devastated and humiliated. I did not sleep at all last night and my partner is very upset by what my manager done. Today my manager didn't speak to me and he obviously knew I was annoyed. Where do I go now? All the managers and team leaders are one big click and so talking to HR won't help me, and if I did complain they would find any reason to get me out! I really don't know what to do now. Thanks in advance.