Have been reading some of the posts on here and am hoping some of you can give me some advice if you will please.
I, along with another colleague, lets call her "B", am currently suspended on full pay (since Thursday just gone) after being reported by one of my colleagues for a couple of comments on Facebook during a conversation I was having with "B" after a particularly difficult few weeks of work. Yes I hear the collective groans from you already, Ive seen that I'm not the only one to have suffered FB stupidity! I admit I made some comments, which on hindsight were silly and I accept a reasonable degree of punishment, however I do not feel that it is worth being dismissed for.
I made one comment which was referring to a manager (no names mentioned whatsoever) and another comment in which I happened to mention a couple of company names in abbreviated form that no one really would have known who I was referring to apart from "B".
Anyway, the comments aside, my issue is with the evidence that the investigatory meeting presented me with during the meeting. A statement has been issued from a colleague stating a brief overview of the comments made, and that myself and my "B" were being discussed on their lunch break and they were talking about "B"s moodiness in work and about her "relationship" with me both in work and on facebook in the evenings. The statement also says that the messages were brought up on someones phone to look at during their lunch and the phone was passed around several members of staff around the table for their opinions.
What I'm annoyed about is
a) why they were discussing me and B in that manner on their lunch break - there is no "relationship" and this has cause major problems with my fiance who is worried i'm having an affair
b) why it had to be passed around so much and discussed with people who don't even know me or know B.
From the statement they claim that comments about work have been going on for weeks and getting more in depth about work recently. This isn't true, yes we have sometimes said how rubbish our days have been, but there have only been the 2 comments mentioned earlier (about the manager and the company names) that have ever gone further than they should.
I accept my fate with regards to the comments on FB, I know how foolish it was and I will be grovelling on Thursday at my hearing and hoping that they see that I meant no malice, I'm not that kind of guy.
In my (partial) defence I have been having a tough time since I started this role (a secondment covering maternity leave). I have had poor training, Ive been pulled so many times for making mistakes that I don't even know I'm making because I don't know what the procedures are!? I've had minimal verbal training and then been asked to write the procedures myself! I have brought this up verbally with a manager but nothing has been done.
I have had complaints made about my work which have been made directly to my manager, instead of to me. These have been small issues that I could have rectified myself if I had been told, but instead the complainant decides to go straight to a manager.
In response, my manager has threatened to end my secondment because of this negative feedback I'm getting from others, but if no one shows me what I'm supposed to do then how can I ever improve my performance?
This manager who has threatened to end my secondment is in fact the recipient of that silly comment I made on FB. The colleagues who have been complaining to my manager about my mistakes are also the same who have been discussing my FB comments with their own team members. I feel like they've been nipping at me for weeks, and if I hadn't felt so belittled maybe I wouldn't have been stupid enough to make careless comments.
If I survive the hearing on Thursday with my job intact, there is no way I'd be able to go back onto that team, my reputation will be ruined by the fact that its all been made public to people who don't even know me. I worked so hard to get that secondment and I've worked hard whilst being there despite my lack of training.
My family life has been ruined because my fiance thinks I'm having a fling with B because of the evidence statement made, and the fact that I've had to work late some nights. I'm stressed, not sleeping, anxious, terrified of losing my family and my home.
I was considering putting in a written complaint about my treatment at work, but don't know whether to submit this to HR before the hearing as a separate issue or use it as a statement in my hearing.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated, needless to say my FB is now deactivated!
Regards and thanks in advance