Okay to cut a long story short.
I have been working in my current company for 8 years and have been in my current role for 3 years.
Over the last 5 months my manager has become very dismissive of the things i do,
Im very good at my job and im highly thought of by alot of the staff,
I do have a tendancy to always speak my mind and it does not always go down well
any way the releationship between my self and my manager has been going down hill for a while now.
This morning i had crossed words with another member of staff, they aproached me with a problem and when i sorted it they just wanted to argue about it , saying it was not a resonable solution.
Any way i decided to see my manager and explain the situation to them, he told me that he heard me and that i "should stop having ago at staff"
Well i asked him to explain him self and give me an example? the reply was well "you did it just then"
his tone was very agressive and the body language said it all, in the end we ended up arguing over it as i said he should not take sides and should get the facts first before acusing me.
I left his office to cool down and he followed me in to the main office and contined to argue in front of all the staff, in the end i walked off.
Later in the afternoon i had to see him about work again, he said to me that we need to talk " formaly or informaly it was my desition"
i told him i dont really care i was just sick of him being on my case and harassing me.
To that he kicked off again, i told him i was not arguing again and walked out.
He followed me back to my desk and started demanding "i am you manager get back in there now" i asked him 6 times to leave me alone as i did not want to argue and wanted to calm down, he refused and we argued again.
just before i left i was informed he was raising an offical disaplinary against me for conduct.
Now is it possible for a manager who is part of a dispute to raise a disaplinary?
To me this is an abuse of power and the fact he consantly refused to leave me alone and harrased me when i tried to walk away.
I feel that being the one blamed when he is clearly just as much to blame if not more so is highly unfair.
thanks for reading such a long thread .