advice about disciplinary at work ?? i have been suspended from work pending investigation I work with ex girlfriend and we split on bad terms she knows how to wind me up, i bought her a gift and gave it to her she gave me it back on my desk i threw it into her office because i did not want it ahd had told her to bin it if she did not want it I got a filenote on record for that, and told never to speak to her again On friday i had house inspection and haver her cat , not allowed pets so gave her it back outside of work. I came back to work and got on with work Her friend came into office and told me they were taking cat to rescue centre, I asked for cat back because wanted him to have a good home Ex refused and i took cat off her, she pulled tshirt and punched me as I got cat off her in cage I left site shaken , took cat to sisters to live and told my boss i would not be back that afternoon Now i have been suspended for pushing members of staff and injuring one of them, which is potential gross misconduct also for leaving site with no explanation , even though was on my lunch break ? and i had informed my boss what had happened I have been having problems with custody of my daughter and family problems and still not really over my divorce, so am going to counselling to try get head together I just don't know what to do, i never assaulted ex or her friend just wanted cat to go to good home Ex provoked me by bringing cat to work after i was trying to keep everything proffessional and away from work Any advice or support would be appreciated, its just such a mess now