Well for the ones wo don't inflict more pain with their opiniated views, my now ex partner is in hospital as he was stabbed on Monday by my younger daughter. I presume this is my doing Milky!!!!!! She is now in care!!!!!!! She also attacked my elder daughter and tried to throw her in the road,again I suppose this is my fault... I am now in homeless hostle as I do believe I am firmly in the clutches of a mental break down...But hey it's all about me, me, me... I am requesting for this thread to be closed and the poeple who ahve made negative comments, you carry on playing with your own egos and feel comfortable in destroying what little dignity people may be holding onto...I feel sorry for all the other people you inflict your jumped up opinins on!!!! Shut this thread please!!!!!!

I have ALWAYS been focused, are you trying to play mind games with me? I am a highly articulate lady, who CLEARLY understands what I FEEL and WHY. I'm not sure what you or Gizmo were trying to achieve by asking the question "what do I want as an outcome" as I think it is VERY CLEAR purely by other people's posts in that they are identifying with me there is an issue with SS failing vunerable people/children/families. SS should for once take responsibility and do the job the tax payer pays them to do. :rolleyes:

some of the stuff relates to me but my situation is a lot more in depth than that, I lost EVERYTHING too, my children, almost my life due to a vicious attack, no assets, still paying £12,000 to solicitor etc.. I think you must have it in your mind it is all about money my friend, it is not what I wish as an outcome, just because the SS is over stretched doesn't mean I don't have a point or should not have them become accountable does it, after all it is supposed to be thier job to protect children. It was not I who said a bloke should just get on with it, I think it's a sad stance to take!!! I am still on the receiving end of it, are you telling me that you are still going through domestic violence and that this is acceptable?? Personally I refuse to suffer anymore, is that so wrong? Or am I just supposed to get on with it? Are you stating that I am being over dramatic because I don't want to be physically and verbally abused anymore? Am I missing something, is this what you mean or consider to be a responsible parent? What are you implying by stating I don't mention the children, this whole post is about trying to do the best for my children and the fact SS along with other services are not...I fully understand what responsibility is, putting up with what I have done is responsible, not charging my children is responsible, brining my children up without any support from thier father is responsible, asking for help when you cannot do anymore is responsible. Why have you made these comments? :confused:

I shall elaborate Milky!!!!! I have tried to protect my children and keep them safe all thier sorrowful little lives, I am unable to maintain a relationship when it is based on violence, hence requesting the support of a service who are supposed to help families in crisis. My priority is to try and stop my daughter from taking her life, stop her being abused by peadophiles, and for someone to help sort her eating disorder out. Over and above that, mine and my partner's safety has been compromised for over two years now of course I am placing the failings on an already stretched SS system. What I require as an outcome is to be able to charge these men, stop being battered, and for someone who is supposed to be trained/qualified take responsibility along with me... How on earth can I be anymore responsible? My children have my full attention so much so I lost my job to sort this out! Have you ever been on the receving end of domestic violence? Have you tried to tell someone you need help and they ignore you? Do you think you are qualified to deal with everything in life? Me thinks not!!

Hey Dobby, how awful for your family, you have my deepest sympathy and my heart goes out to you, I think your courage to give the forum such painful details about your expereince is admirable...Hold onto this strength when fighting for justice!!!! We are more part of a multi nation today, and it is so varied we are not just talking about british people here, it is about a multi-cultural society EDIT! I hope you and your family have the strength to get through this painful period of life together!!! tasty :cry:

Your confusion is probably because you have skipped the full info on the posts, the reason I mention 21 is because these are the ages of the men who are sleeping with my daughter, it may be wise to pay a little more attention to the actual information I have placed on the thread. Sorry Gizmo, no malice intended here!!!

It's this Wednesday 10am, they are able to look at SS and dad, but I have to find another sol's for the issues I'm having at school.... The the lack of communication I'm experiencing is actually affecting my daughter's ability to see her support worker!!! Today she has had her £70 jacket stolen and all they say is "she should show more responsibility"...Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr I'm sorry to hear all about your problems too, it's a bloody tuff world/life for some of us ain it Midge my friend :o :o

To true Jen, thing is, I don't think society has the inclination to pull together, in our society individuality is promoted more than anything else now! The traits of loving thy neighbour, leaving keys in the door etc etc is long gone... Each time our country meets a new problem, e.g asylum seekers (not the genuine cases) this brings with it another way of surviving, as we are a continually evolving nation ways on how to survive change, thus so do surving tactics.. As I say give me third world any day, I would be more than happy in a mud hut! Survival in these terms is purely about quality of life not quantity, wouldn't you agree Jen

Hey Milky, I've been firmly in the real world all my life, I am under no illusion about resources, red tape etc etc and it doesn't matter how much people rant about things, democracy is a law unto itself, I hate politics they are about greed, power, false pretence I could go on but I just get myself angry!!! I live in hope, I will emigrate one day lol..

My eldest daughter turned up at my house on Friday because dad kicked her out and told her not to come back, even though he promised to help and let her stay with him for 4 weeks!!!! She is having suicidal thoughts because he is making her feel worthless, univited and rejected!! Over the wknd he refused to speak to her and just dumped her clothes outside the house. He didn't even knock on my door, he sent my younger daughter a txt saying three bags were outside and that's it he has just walked away leaving me YET AGAIN to suffer the consequences! I ahve an appointment with a solictor to see if I can revoke his parental responsibility and to tackle SS's neglect...My daugher has not been in school today and for me I am right back at square one waiting for the next altercation to happen!!! This is a serious matter which should be taken up with parliment, too many lives are in danger of ending sooner than they should because SS can't do their job. Yet some how parents are the ones who are to blame?

It would appear we have a service which ultimatley doesn't work!!!! So the question I ask is: why are social services able to continuosly able to neglect their duty to invesitagte? After all this is a legal duty not just a duty!!!!

Well I have to say I was surprised to learn First Direct have provided the data from the S.A.R. and informed my partner they are not charging him for this request. Considering he got absolutley no joy when contesting his charges as and when they arose this does seem out of the ordinary!!! But we aren't grumbling... Charges amount to £247, I am now submitting reclaim letter under financial hardship criteria!!! I shall post progress!

I think it is a shame money makes the world go round, as 3rd world countries to me have a deeper experience of life other than money, soz going a bit to deep now aint I. Shut up I think I've been tango'd

hey louis, I'm not saying sod it because it is an important point of surviving, I'm merely saying that managing money doesn't just depend on knowledge. Experience, circumstances, social or economic class, support, peer pressure, health, status, etc etc etc are all factors linked to how you manage money, do you know where I'm coming from on this? Common sense is the biggest winner when managing finance, and as we all develop at a different level all I'm saying is to home in on just this part of life is a little tunnel visioned... Personal Finance is subject to change in everyones life at some point, so I'm not sure how much you could teach in terms of this subject.