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    Is it practical for the children to split their time 50/50 with schools etc? I'm not sure I understand the bit about CM, sorry.

    I've had dealings with a few manipulative people in my time and something that cruzhughes said made me think. Your new partner does seem very interested in money, or spending it at least and I had a Machiavellian thought. I don't see why your ex should have a claim on the house if he's signed an agreement to give it up, but I do hope your partner isn't thinking that you could sign the house over to him in order to avoid claims from your ex.

    If I'm being paranoid, I'm sure people will be quick to tell me.


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    I am not sure that 50/50 care is right for my children, but if I go to Mediationicon with that as a starting point, I might be on a highway to getting somewhere near what I want, which is three weekends to him and one with me. Its so difficult arranging shared care, because I want my children myself, the thing is that I know I don't have the mental energy for two teenagers, and coping on my own is difficult. My ex husband has a duty to his children. I'm not his child minder. selfishly, I am entitled to a life, and if I am happy my children will benefit from that. at the moment, I feel very stressed as I rarely have any time to breathe


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    Quote Originally Posted by cruzhughes View Post
    Something doesn’t ring true to me.

    More alarm bells are ringing to motives of new partner.

    He seems a wrong un and he’s already put you under a massive financial burden. When you were managing the mortgageicon and bills on your own before he came along.

    Now you have double the debt and outgoings per month and have handed him half your house and cash on a plate. And he’s not contributing or did he to warrant what he’s now got in the short time you’ve been together.

    Whereas you have lost out big time

    I have lost out big time - I know this. I'm trying to make the best of a situation that I have created myself. its quite depressing at times!


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    Get any money / asset for the children put into a trust that the new partner has no claim on nor power over. Then see how interested the new partner remains in it.

    I don't know how to get a lump sum from my ex. He will say that he is entitled to the money from the house as it equates to his share of the equity. he agreed to sign me the house in return for the £25k.


    This money will be paid to him in the next couple of months. How can I justify to him that I am entited to any of that for his children?


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    Any further conversation woud be appreciated - opinion counts for a lot


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    on what grounds would I have that would stand up in court, would I have any claim over any of the money that I am about to pay my ex husband for is share of the equity from the ex marital home?


    I'm concerned that the mnute I land any claim over that money he will flip his lid and I will end up with more issues than I already have


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    Which is why I think that you desperately need to talk to a solicitor, most will give you an initial consultation for free and will tell you if they believe that you have a case.

    If you do, whatever your solicitor costs you will be worth every penny.

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    I have my first Mediationicon meeting tomorrow - the person I am seeing is also a solicitor so I will discuss it with her - Mediationicon should help me sort out the finances as well. I'm fed up of having to pay the lionshare of everything. Just because I am divorced from my childrens father doesn't mean that he can pay the minimum. if we were living together he would behave in a normal way and wouldn't question the money spent on his children. why does divorceicon caused people to question money spent on their children? I know this doesn't happen in all cases, but probably happens too often. I just feel that my ex husband is trying to squirm out of so much - am I not entitled to my life too?


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    Are you seeing a solicitor who can advise you?
    Or a mediator (who may also be a solicitor) but if acting as a mediator CANNOT advise you while remaining a neutral mediator.

    A mediator can suggest options to explore that one or. Oth of the parties hadnít considered, though. Just donít expect advice, since that compromises their neutrality.



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