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    • the Town and Country [advertisments ] Regulations 2007 are not easy to understand. Most Council planing officials don't so it's good that you found one who knows. Although he may not have been right if the rogues have not been "controlling" in the car park for that long. The time only starts when the ANPR signs go up, not how long the area has been used as a car park.   Sadly I have checked Highview out and they have been there since at least 2014 . I have looked at the BPA Code of Practice version 8 which covers 2023 and that states Re Consideration and Grace Periods 13.3 Where a parking location is one where a limited period of parking is permitted, or where drivers contract to park for a defined period and pay for that service in advance (Pay & Display), this would be considered as a parking event and a Grace Period of at least 10 minutes must be added to the end of a parking event before you issue a PCN. It then goes on to explain a bit more further down 13.5 You must tell us the specific consideration/grace period at a site if our compliance team or our agents ask what it is. 13.6 Neither a consideration period or a grace period are periods of free parking and there is no requirement for you to offer an additional allowance on top of a consideration or grace period. _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________So you have  now only overstayed 5 minutes maximum since BPA quote a minimum of 10 minutes. And it may be that the Riverside does have a longer period perhaps because of the size of the car park? So it becomes even more incumbent on you to remember where the extra 5 minutes could be.  Were you travelling as a family with children or a disabled person where getting them in and out of the car would take longer. Was there difficulty finding a space, or having to queue to get out of the car park . Or anything else that could account for another 5 minutes  without having to claim the difference between the ANPR times and the actual times.
    • Regarding a driver, that HAS paid for parking but input an incorrect Vehicle Registration Number.   This is an easy mistake to make, especially if a driver has access to more than one vehicle. First of all, upon receiving an NTK/PCN it is important to check that the Notice fully complies with PoFA 2012 Schedule 4 before deciding how to respond of course. The general advice is NOT to appeal to the Private Parking Company as, for example, you may identify yourself as driver and in certain circumstances that could harm your defence at a later stage. However, after following a recent thread on this subject, I have come to the conclusion that, in the case of inputting an incorrect Vehicle Registration Number, which is covered by “de minimis” it may actually HARM your defence at a later stage if you have not appealed to the PPC at the first appeal stage and explained that you DID pay for parking and CAN provide proof of parking, it was just that an incorrect VRN was input in error. Now, we all know that the BPA Code of Practice are guidelines from one bunch of charlatans for another bunch of charlatans to follow, but my thoughts are that there could be problems in court if a judge decides that a motorist has not followed these guidelines and has not made an appeal at the first appeal stage, therefore attempting to resolve the situation before it reaches court. From BPA Code of Practice: Section 17:  Keying Errors B) Major Keying Errors Examples of a major keying error could include: • Motorist entered their spouse’s car registration • Motorist entered something completely unrelated to their registration • Motorist made multiple keying errors (beyond one character being entered incorrectly) • Motorist has only entered a small part of their VRM, for example the first three digits In these instances we would expect that such errors are dealt with appropriately at the first appeal stage, especially if it can be proven that the motorist has paid for the parking event or that the motorist attempted to enter their VRM or were a legitimate user of the car park (eg a hospital patient or a patron of a restaurant). It is appreciated that in issuing a PCN in these instances, the operator will have incurred charges including but not limited to the DVLA fee and other processing costs therefore we believe that it is reasonable to seek to recover some of these costs by making a modest charge to the motorist of no more than £20 for a 14-day period from when the keying error was identified before reverting to the charge amount at the point of appeal. Now, we know that the "modest charge" is unenforceable in law, however, it would be up to the individual if they wanted to pay and make the problem go away or in fact if they wanted to contest the issue in court. If the motorist DOES appeal to the PPC explaining the error and the PPC rejects the appeal and the appeal fails, the motorist can use that in his favour at court.   Defence: "I entered the wrong VRN by mistake Judge, I explained this and I also submitted proof of payment for the relevant parking period in my appeal but the PPC wouldn't accept that"   If the motorist DOES NOT appeal to the PPC in the first instance the judge may well use that as a reason to dismiss the case in the claimant's favour because they may decide that they had the opportunity to resolve the matter at a much earlier stage in the proceedings. It is my humble opinion that a motorist, having paid and having proof of payment but entering the wrong VRN, should make an appeal at the first appeal stage in order to prevent problems at a later stage. In this instance, I think there is nothing to be gained by concealing the identity of the driver, especially if at a later stage, perhaps in court, it is said: “I (the driver) entered the wrong VRN.” Whether you agree or not, it is up to the individual to decide …. but worth thinking about. Any feedback, especially if you can prove to the contrary, gratefully received.
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hi it's me again. I posted about smoking but I just realized it is a bigger issue behind it.

 

In the last 3 weeks my 20 year old son has become homeless. I got majorly stressed about that. In addition to the intenseness of quitting smoking, this made me a bit depressed and worried as to how to help my son.

 

What was further alarming was that my husband/partner didn't seem to care at all and didn't once ask me how I was feeling or why was I so down. The day came when my son called to let me know he was okay and staying at a friend's place that night and wanted to come by and get different clothes as we let him store some of his gear in our garage.

 

When he came I wanted to feed him after hearing he hadn't eaten in a few days and had no money.

 

My husband became very ignorant and left in the middle of the visit. So of course we argued when he returned later and we haven't been on good terms since. But the thing is, he won't let me open the door to my son.

 

His opinion of him is that he's lazy and deserves what he gets. The fact is he's young and he admits that he put himself in his predicament but I cannot believe that it's not okay to give the guy a meal; and let him take a shower once a week and get clean clothes?

 

So, my partner's relentless reminders that this is his house and not mine have made me very depressed at this point and I can't help wondering how he would react in the future if something else catastrophic happens like with my daughter or granddaughter. I cannot stop thinking that even though I love this man I just can't seem to go further.

 

 

So, I have come to the conclusion to end our relationship and move out. I am probably not thinking clearly, but i can't come to any other end.

 

At 46, I am forced to start over with nothing yet again, not because it isn't going my way, but rather because it doesn't seem to be the right way. I can't believe his compassion is gone. I am not the kind of person to open my door to strangers but always to my children in need. But this week I was forced to tell my son no at a time of great need.

 

This apparently is deal breaker for me.

 

I really need a wave of advice and opinion on this one if anyone wants to share any. Thank you so much. Because maybe I am the one who is wrong here and can't see it.

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This is a difficult one but you do say that you love your husband still so i would just ask do you think you could be slightly depressed? going through the change etc and maybe everything is just getting a bit much. Have you asked your husband how he feels about you?

Dont just walk away if there is still arelationship there, but if you do go you will need to see a solicitor about what rights you may have regarding the marital home etc.

No one can really advise on relationship problems without hearing from both parties.

Why did your son become homeless, is he working? has your husband got a point about him being lazy? can you not meet your son away from the house for now?

Is your husbands behaviour out of character? has he got work financial problems?

There are so many questions that seem to need answers, but dont just walk prehapes a few days away might help you, have you seen yor doctor about the depression, and if trying to give up smoking is making it all worse stop trying to give up at the moment

Dont beat yourself up about things look at the positive things as well as the negative.

finally a mum will always worry and want to help her children its natural but if your husband isnt the childrens father he may find it harder to see how you feel.

Sit back take a deep breath and make a list of all the good things as well as the bad things in your life and see what you come up with, your son is an adult prehaps he does need to stand on his own feet for a bit, but i am sure if it was serious your husband wouldnt refuse hom help if he has been ok with him in the past.

Good luck

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Hey we all have down times and things can so easily get out of hand if you want to just sound off do it here at least we can listen, may not be able to advise sometimes but all I am really saying is dont rush into anything while you are feeling so down, try and find someone to talk to, if you dont know anyone personally call the samaritans they listen, dont advise or judge and they are always there foer anyone who needs to talk.

Glad some of what I said helped a bit, hope it all works out.

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I would put my son first no matter what. I know people will not agree with me and say he is an adult but in times of need if you havent got your parents' support then where do you go?

 

My sons will never go without as long as I am alive and from what you say , in your heart you feel the same. I have turned to my parents for help in my 30s, and they have always been there. I would do the same for my teenage sons. I would definitelty move out and satrt again if I was you and never turn my son away, no man is worth losing your own kids over. ever.

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Never feel guilty for helping your son. Having one is not a contract that ends when the guy/girls turns 18 and like magic our love and responsibility for them has to end. I am a mother and 37 years old and just right now would not be here if it wasn't for my mum's help and support. And she's far far away...assistedblonde is right: the hardest things in life are relationships so probably your husband doesn't know exactly how you feel? follow her advice to try and be objective, but never fail to your instinct.

 

Good luck and I hope your son gets better soon

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