Thread: Help pleae....advice on x partner needed

Hi all

Not sure if this is in the right place...if not please move ...CHEERS

if so please correct me

Ok me looking advice to help a friend in need

My mate is in a wheelchair paralised from the neck down

he had a blind date with a girl who was a friend from his work.

they went out for a few drinks on several occations and seemed to get on well....

she called him late one night and told him that her lodger had walked in on her she was affraid....

he told her to relax and come over she could stay there

so she moved in...YES ODD

he owns his own home worth app 300K

one think got to another and they got engaged

child poped out....hes now a proud DADDY

turned out she was after his home and money the hole time

she works for a firm that does work with solicitors ...and got him to agree in writing to 50/50 on everything.....THE DAM FOOL AGREEDED

anyway she was playing around in the background and has now moved out..shacked up with a so called friend.

left him on his own

took his wee daughter that he is mad about

stopped him from seeing the child

he had to take her to court to see the child...it was granded for 2 days per week.

now she wants half the house 150K cash

he dont have the money to pay her.

he has offerd half that she told him where to go.

she took most of the house contents
she took the car
she took the child
she gets paid weekly for the child

the guy is at the edge what can we do to help him?

I have looked into her she binned her last hubby took him to the cleaners and all his money.

she is trying to do the same to the poor chap

there is got to be something we can do

PLEASE PLEASE HELP HIM

He is in court in a few weks to get the CHILD I hope he wins can we help him

thanks again all

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need a damn good solicitor, good luck.

prenuptial agreements won't stand up in the uk. He needs to divorce her stating infidelaty etc also is he 100% sure the kid is his? Get the police involved with the taking of the car if it was just in his name - cancel the insurance (for her) and she will be driving a stolen car without insurance - obviously warn her before doing this in writing recorded delivery so she can't argue about having received it. If she does end up with a criminal conviction for anything then trying to get custody will be easier for your friend.

many thanks for the reply

ok first they got engaged but never married.

second it was a disabled car he had between the two off them she took it and he had to pay her cash for his half so got it back...even tho she crash the rear end into a wall...

The child is def his and he is head over heals mad about his wee daughter as most fathers would be.
this is breaking his heart and also going to leave him homeless...there is got to some way around this.....we know there is another man involved

any more info needed I be happy topass it on to try help this man in need

you just never know what is next in life..........

OK, your friend needs to see a solicitor dealing in this kind of thing (there are lots around) as soon as possible.

Generally (having just been through this one) the courts would order 25% of all his future income to be paid as maintanence for his daughter, until she's 18 (you may want to check timescale though, because I'm not 100% sure what happens around leavin school, going to university etc....) This would be paid to the mother and unfortunatley she would control what happens to it.

As there is no such thing as a common law partner, which means (I'm assuming your friend didn't sign a trust deed) for herself she's not entitled to a share of anything.

Had they been married then assuming only a short marriage each party would be returned to the financial position when they entered the marriage by the courts.

Regarding her obtaining money for his car, then he should report this to the police as this is a criminal offence (but I suspect they'd return this to him as a civil matter)

I suspect, although he does need a solicitor to confirm this, that him signing away 50% of his assets will be pretty meaningless.

Hope this helps

Hugh

Given the circumstances and the apparent motive of this female, has your friend considered a DNA test to ascertain if he is the father of the child?

No need for a DNA TEST this poor chap is in a wheel chair and cant make babies like most of us

the little Daughter that he loves so much cost him 10K

so in other words he had to pay for his own daughter

also note payment came out of his bank account not hers nor joint HIS

he has the statments to prove it

She in other words sold her body as a machine to give him what he always wanted then tried to bleed him dry

they got alot work done on the house and remortgaged she said she wanted on the deeds of the house for her security...HE ALLOWED THIS


in my words to claim her half

he is going to go into this in depth with me later so I will keep you all posted

also a point to look at if it will help him?

I traced her X Hubby she split with him took 80% of the goods and his home...very bad experience with her...will not put in writing as says he has moved on..

is there anyway under the freedom of information act to get a report on the split up of the x marriage?

as this would show the court she is a con artist

all advice welcome

getting info on her as well would be very good I have her surname before she was married

thanks again

update update

please have alook


the girl that left him claims there is no man involved

I called by her new address and there is a car in the drive way turns out it is her Boss

neibour says its there most nights stays over

how can we prove to the court that he lives there as she seems to have all the bills in her name bar the elec that is in his name

she claims she is renting the house off him and is landlord not lover

as far as the split goes she sold het own home and put app 20k into the house with my mate she and him both got a remortgage together JOINT

she then said she like to be added to the deeds of the house for security
is there any loophole that can get her off the mortgage

he has kpt his side of the deal ie: he pays for the child every week
she has not paid a penny towards the mortgage since she left.....turns out she never even paid a penny towards the house for mortgage or upkeep even while she lived there

got to be a loop hole as she breaks the contract
how can she claim half the house when she not paying for it

any advice welcome

With a good solicitor he she be hopefully able to just pay back the 20k as he can prove thats all she put in and never paid any of the mortgage payments (maybe a bit more if the house has significantly changed in value).

Its no good keep coming back here you really do need to speak to a legal proffesional and start the ball rolling asap.

Hi,

Just to echo what LondonPam and Blacksheep have said your friend really needs to see a good solicitor. Stop watching his X as it won't be seen as a good thing.

Reading between the lines of your post it would appear that your friend and his x were together for some time (mortgage and re mortgage, multiple IVF cycles etc...) whilst I agree he has been royally stitched over this will make no difference to what the court orders him to pay in terms of the house. His X's behaviour before and after the split is not going to be here or there I'm afraid. The courts overridding concern will be, rightly, the wellfare of the child. How his disability will affect him in this I've no idea.

Just to say it again, especially considering his circumstances,he really needs some good legal advice.

Hugh