Not really i have a sound record except the one blemish on it otherwise ok.

Except that I am on final warning notice when in early this year was involved on incident. Since then all good. But final warning stays in record for 12 mths. I get along n look up to him but he looks down on me I suspect bcz I do not fit the image he prefers. Yes he can interview but surely he knows better the problems it will create as other officers not fond of him as well. I feel all my work count to nothing sometimes. Obviously very much affecting my health, stress levels high. Some time just feel quitting. Depression ssets in, not good. I am privately seeking counselling not take it from there. If diagnosed with illness or depression will take action against employer.

Position has become available again, boss has shown no interest in his body language or attempted to inform me about it. Question is should I apply for the 4th time. Had a brief chat with him but he has not send me right signals. Furthermore he interviewed previous as assist security mgr who caused lot of grievance to me. He has been dismissed twice from his last two jobs since leaving us for suspicious reasons. Even then he gets interviewed. Honestly and I been working honestly and hard for nearly 9 years.

Yes I think previous assistant mgr imposed himself on me, and both may have created negative environment around me. I feel I was played while they were grooming the junior guy for the position. I was never under considered. Guy who got the job is 16 yrs younger and over year and a half junior to me in dept. If it wasn't for my mortgage I would have left the job. In future I will make sure I will not suffer in silence, keep good records and trust no one. I don't think new asst mgr will give me problems as we relieved each other on shift and he never liked previous asst mgr as well. Is it still alright to mention in my grievance letter negatively about previous asst mgr shoes conduct towards me was big factor not getting the job. In letter I like to mention my feelings, concerns, not getting job and previous asst mgr with a word or two how I feel let down by the manager as well. Would this be ok. Should I also demand HR to institute the procedure as I doubt anything can be done or should it be just letter expressing my concerns without requesting any follow up.

How can lay me off for being off sick.

Yes I have spoken with ACAS and they provided me some advice, thats all. Don't think how they can really help me. My levels of physical and mental stress levels have increased that's why i had to make appointment with my GP who has offered me to forward me for counselling, but i wait for GP reply after completing a form GP gave me. My concern is if i write greviance letter then will that go against me in future, should i just shut up and get on with it, time is a great healer. Having said that this will be hard for me, my conscious may not allow it. How can employment lawyer help me as i have one of their number.

What are my options and my actions should be. Obviously i am very hurt and stressed about me not getting the position after applying three times.

The thing is I avoid arguments but the ex asst was always confrontational towards me. They supported him all the way. But they can't support me. Whenever sometime I reported his conduct towards me, boss mostly was not interested. I say it again AM was played against me since boss knew he had some beef against me and agenda to get rid of me. And he tried exercising his power on me and another team member who left after 1 year bcz of him with some compensation. He was not good but protected. But boss by playing this game stabbed me in the back. Now even if continue things will not be same, and lot of ny trust on him is gone. Everybody in the past said negative words about my boss to me even the R word. But I always corrected those people anything negative against him, those saying negative against boss include ex AM, he told me he is Facist. So you know how let down I feel.

BTW when I had a similar application turned down 2 years ago, I put it through this forum, but couldn't find s link to it. In that case also boss never considered it seriously.

Obviously I am feel ill treated, as I have worked over 5 years sincerely and hard, expressed my interest in the assistant manager position 3 times. I had a real chance and be and boss made a mockery of it. So what r my options, don't wanna leave company. Can I apply for a appeal? Should I write a formal complain leter, approach employment agency how I have been treated, ACAS maybe. How would u guys approach it.

I now strongly believe they did not wanted me to move one up. They had been creating things up in the last year or so or creating conditions for me to argue. the ex-assistant security manager was particularly nasty to me and i think he was used to put far more pressure on me than the other officers. He would always blame me, his attitude was aggressive towards me one or two times phsically as well and he just did not like me, some kind of prejiduce. But he has left the company for a better position. In my five years this position has come along every two years. The boss knows that and i think when the time was coming near he with the ex assistant manager looked at marginalising me by putting added pressure, stress on me and creating conditions for me to rebel or become argumentative. The sad thing is becasue i did not take much action that time because i didn't want to upset the dept and team i accepted some harrasment and bullying. Had i took some action reported to HR maybe i would have been in good position. As it is Boss used this argument against me in interview. The sad thing is its not even getting the assistant manager job but how i feel cheated stressed and victimised. Beofre the interview Boss never gave me impression he would turn nasty in interview although in past few weeks he conveyed message to me he will not take me on as his assistant. I was always reluctant to apply but with my exp in dept, good track record, most senior in team of officers with two left now out of four I should have been the natural automatic choice. Instead what was dished out to me was last six months you were argumantative, not team member, attitude with other epople in yout team and others, etc, etc,etc. So what do i do now, boss has given me three ultimatums, improve, leave or wait for two to three years for next time position comes available. If i write formal grievience letters then boss may turn more against me but i feel my own good record has been ruined by what was said in the interview with HR office taking notes. Is it no-win situation for me. I guess i can go back to work but boss may use my silence to make the conditions and work level tougher for me. Another thing that really upset me and he made me a scapegoat for three members of the team leaving was that in future he warned me if you negative impose yourself on the two new officers that will be recruited and new assistant manager than i will be in serious trouble, how can he think like that. I have trained other starters with utmost sincerity and offered them full support, he is sowing the seeds for future situation that he may create. I think he also wants me out of the job and thinks after five years my sell by date has expired. When he told me to leave i told him why should i when i have invested five years here. Look forward to your replies,

I did but don't know why, but here you go; I have been with this company for over 5 years. The story is this that a position came up in my dept to move up. I have applied for this position two times before. It took me time to apply, as my boss always had reservations about me or created one, made one up i thought. But i was very interested in the position, in doing well. When the interview came boss was accompanied by HR officer who was just taking notes. They both came about 15 minutes late. The thing that really annoyed me and why i think this was fixed and already decided is that from the very start the boss starting having a go at me, particalrly since last 6 months performance. He put me on back foot and defensive. I felt i was sitting in a disciplinary rather than interview. No questions were asked as to why i want this position, my drive, enthusiasm, knowledge questions, etc. In the last month there has been 3 other officers who have left the company to go for another job, I felt during the interview he made me a scapegoat for these leavers. He put lot of blame on me and sad thing was I just sat there and took it. I was caught stranded, not sure how to respond, shocked. After i came for interview, a fair trial to express my interest in the position in dept i have worked in over 5 years and where there is only me and another officer left in the team with three other having left. Boss kept saying what people thing about me, but there has always people mentioning my boss in a bad way but i never care. I have never been rude or unethical towards other in my team or other and staff members have never showed any dislike to me on my face. If they are backbitting on me to my boss well then i guess they are prejiduced. I am from a asian background. Although i got some support before the interview from some people but even they knew the writing in the wall. I sometimes get the feeling some people don't want me in this job but i do a honest, transparrent and good job. Now i want to continue working but lost some faith in the company. If i take some action then i loose job. So what are my options in getting this job in future which in my time on average comes every two years. I feel sometimes whatever i do my efforts are marginalised and in fact things are cooked behind my back to discourage me, opportunities to put blame on me and create a negative atmosphere around me. I liked my boss and always said good things about him to other people, but he has not been kind to me Another thing is the previous position holder was very nasty to me and always trying to catch me or report me, was very active in this, he bad mouthed me a lot to my boss during his time as his assistant. He did not do my any favours. during the interview he mentioned a lot to me about my relationship with him without taking my point of view to notice such as his negative attitude towards me.

I have been with this company for over 5 years. The story is this that a position came up in my dept to move up. I have applied for this position two times before. It took me time to apply, as my boss was never likely to give me this position i thought. But i was very interested in the position, in doing well. When the interview came boss was accompanied by HR officer who was just taking notes. They both came about 15 minutes late. The thing that really annoyed me and why i think this was fixed and already decided is that from the very start the boss starting having a go at me, particalrly since last 6 months performance. He put me on back foot and defensive. I felt i was sitting in a disciplinary rather than interview. No questions were asked as to why i want this position, my drive, enthusiasm, knowledge questions, etc. In the last month there has been 3 other officers who have left the company to go for another job, I felt during the interview he made me a scapegoat for these leavers. He put lot of blame on me and sad thing was I just sat there and took it. I was caught stranded, not sure how to respond, shocked. After i came for interview, a fair trial to express my interest in the position in dept i have worked in over 5 years and where there is only me and another officer left in the team with three other having left. Boss kept saying what people thing about me, but there has always people mentioning my boss in a bad way but i never care. I have never been rude or unethical towards other in my team or other and staff members have never showed any dislike to me on my face. If they are backbitting on me to my boss well then i guess they are prejiduced. I am from a asian background. Although i got some support before the interview from some people but even they knew the writing in the wall. I sometimes get the feeling some people don't want me in this job but i do a honest, transparrent and good job. Now i want to continue working but lost some faith in the company. If i take some action then i loose job. So what are my options in getting this job in future which in my time on average comes every two years. I feel sometimes whatever i do my efforts are marginalised and in fact things are cooked behind my back to discourage me, opportunities to put blame on me and create a negative atmosphere around me.

Thanks skonk and greendollar.

I have recently experienced lots of stress at work. Even during my 12 days holiday, i felt under stress and could not relax well. This is probably because my assistant manager is giveing me hard time at work. I have over 3.5 years service at my job. I feel victimised and feels harrassed now and then. I am very laid back and easy going person and have yet to file a complain to my manager who is also his manager cause we work in same dept. I am not the only officer who he has problems with, his attitude is not right and shouts a lot, is suspicious of our work we don't do enough or cannot be reasonable with us officers as other assistant security officers have been to us. What are my rights and what step should i take forward. I feel this guy is targeting me and would rather have me out of this job, he even threatened to take me to HR over a trivial issue. Somebody complain about me who is close to him and i wander if that was a set up to get him to file a complain about me that lacks any evidence anyway. I thought about making an appointment with my GP to discuss stress at work so that i can if i have to prove to my manager can prove stress and my health getting affected. Is this advisable. Any response much appreciated in how to takle this predicament and actions i can take to protect me from this man and my job.