I was trained by Philologists and they used this as their bible, at first I was the doubting Thomas! and couldn't see how if would help. Even though is is geared around offenders, there are chapters around managing a staff team and changing the behaviour of the unwilling client that can be transferred onto staff as well. I had tremendous results and changed my management styles to work in this manner. Good luck x

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I had exactly the same problem when I started a new role 6 months ago. I spent time with the team, listening, empathetic, while also engaging in them in my ideas of a way forward. They kicked and scream, had paddies - I remained firm but fair - I know have a fantastic team who are supportive, co-operative and defiantly will go the extra mile. I used techniques from a book called 'Transforming Behaviour', which is geared towards offenders but some useful cross over information which can be used with unwilling staff. Good luck :}

Sorry to hear that you have been suspended, from experience I know it is a very traumatic experience. I cant give a lot of advice, but can tell you I was recently suspended for events that had apparanelty happened up to 2 months previous. When I challenged this they said they can investigate at any time!!. However, I would have thought this would have been mentioned earlier. Do you have legal cover on your house insurance? this can be very helpful if you do. I wish you all the best and hope it resolves itself for you. Peggyann

Hi I have just had a meeting with my solicitor around the same. The fee's to go to ET are approx 1,600 and have been informed could cost up to 20k and a year!. If you win your fee's are covered. Luckily I have it covered on my house insurance. Hope that helps

Yes, I now have copies of all statements. The staff there was myself - who totally denies i did the actions. Two others were senior staff, the one who made the complaint ( 1 month after the incident) states i did it, the other said she has not knoweledge and cannot recall me doing such a thing. I just thinks its odd that both allegations happened 1 and 2 months before the allegations were made. Thanks Peggyann

Hi Emmzzi Sorry it should have read 3 staff in a very small area - so actions could not be missed. Both count of the disciplinary I am disputing as they did not happen. Thanks Peggyann

Hi I have received statements - going for instant Dimissal, anyone answer the following please? 1. The statement relating to a phone call i had with a manger = phone conversation 6/5 reported 8/7 2. Incident I was reprted for doing 3 saff in very small (so couldnt miss anything = 1 staff say i did it, myself and other staff saying I didnt Is there anything I can fight with? Thanks Peggyann

Many thanks for your reply, can you tell me why it would take so long please. Thanks Peggann

Hi More advice please. Had my investigatory meeting a week ago, where I challanged their allegations, Still havent heard anything - is this usual. Thanks Peggyann

Hi Sabresheep Its a really long story and am so confused because I feel what I did was not wrong, just trying to ensure paperwork correct. No falisfication etc and why did it take 4 weeks to become a problem. They spoke to me on te Monday but didnt suspend me until Thursday after a very important meeting with outside proffesionals on teh wednesday and would have looked odd if not there. I still havent heard about the invistigation meeting held Thursday. Unfortunatley there us no one I can take to disciplinary, so really worried. Thanks Peggyann

Hi Now been suspended for over a week! Feel so poorly hair falling out and not sleeping. I know the job was getting disfficult and to keep on top of things was working 50 hours a week. Have on the whole had agood relationship with director until complained about another manager and down hill it went - 1 very proffesional member of staff came and spoke to me and she is concerned there is a witch hunt on me!!!, she right it doesnt stop. Have forgot how to relax, switch off, sleep and laugh. It is now effecting my health. Went to investigatry meeting yesterday and gave them my version of events and dont feel I did anything than try and keep the company complientant to regulations. At the end of the meeting I asked them to negatiiate my resignation with references that show my exeptional work and commintment. Would any decent boss do this? rather than GMC. Thanks Peggyann

Hi Please can anyone help! 2 managers and HR turned up this morning and suspended me while doing investigations. They have issed me with a letter stating 3 reasons why, I have already admitted 2, but dont see that they were serious, the other I cannot for the life of me recall, but what they are saying I do not think I would ever do. I asked why I had been suspended and they say that it was difficult for me to be around when there are lots of people to talk to. In March I went of with severve work related stress on Diazepam, propanolol and citrilipam just to get through a working day. I took the time as annual leave. I was also called. After I had annoyed another manager about complaining about his performance 'it was reported that he had started a witch hunt' from one of my staff and was called into to discuss this, no further action was taken. Is there anyone who can advice (PM would be good) Thanks peggyann

Hi Many thanks

Many thanks - I certainly hope so. However the job/stress and hours are killing me. Have got stress and now alephcia! thankyou