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Heidi Rees

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  1. I think you mistook my last comment. I do not think compensation is in order! I do feel an apology would be a way to go though - for the attitude of the shop staff! The discrimination I mentioned was refering to when the man has stated that the shop staff jokingly admitted to discriminating him due to his disability! The law is the law unfortunately and even when you do not agree you must comply so... if he was stopped purely for having his daughter with him then that is that, but at the same time shop staff are expected to behave in a certain manner!
  2. I hope so I didn't know how to take the last comment and I haven't tried to offend anyone just give my personnal opinion - which is don't sue, ask for an apology for the discrimination and that I don't feel it is an offence to shop with your children when purchasing anything (inc alcohol). I can't help the way I feel. I can give you an example of this happening - My mother and my 18 year old sister (who does look younger and didn't have ID with her) went to a shop my mother got a bottle of wine and was refused, she took my sister and dropped her off at home and returned to said shop where they still refused as they believed it was still for her and they thought she was 17 as she had only turned 18 a few weeks before! the shop manager basically told my mother she would not be served there again as it could be for my sister! We live in a small town and the nearest shop other than that is 15 miles away so my mother had to go back pick my sister up again (with her ID) to prove she was old enough for my mother to have a drink! Do you understand now when I say where will it end? If my sister had only been 17 my mother wouldn't have been served there for a year regardless of whether she was with her!
  3. Seriously? No I would not give a 5 year old alcohol (if I had 1) I was refering to the guy with the seventeen year old! And I feel I am well within rights to give my opinion on this matter - yes it may be different from others but that is because I am not a sheep and speak how I feel, which is probably the same as the guy who initialy started this conversation! I am not trying to argue with people but I think on this matter we will just have to agree to disagree as opinions can be very different, I realise that you have autism but there really is no need to be quite so personnal!
  4. The form I filled was for when he was diagnosed at 4 - and btw it was my welfare rights officer who advised worst day so if that is not the case I apologise - it makes no impact on my 7 year old anyway as he is a nightmare everyday! I resent your comment about me being a fraudster if you feel my son is undeserving of his DLA I would love for you to come and meet him as all the medical professionals have given their support when claiming for him!
  5. Your right and there probably will be a solution by the time the children are older but situations like this make me furious! What will this country be like in a few years it is no longer innocent until proven guilty everyone is just tarred with the same brush! By the time mine are in their teens I probably won't be allowed a car anyway 'just incase' one of them drives it underage and then I will be forced to internet shop - but of course not alcohol as I have minors living with me!
  6. My welfare rights officer suggested we apply for my middle child with no diagnosis (we think it's ADHD) but we got a flat refusal even though his needs were more signifigant than my eldest who has autism and has higher rate of care and low mobility! We didn't apply for my eldest until diagnosis came back and it sailed through no questions asked - I could have appealed the youngest but I have no idea when or if he will get a diagnosis so decided against until we have more backing! If they have said he will get a diagnosis I would defo appeal as they will then have to repay from original date. Try to get as much support as possible from health visitors, teachers etc. And you will know if you have put enough info in the form by how traumatised you feel after - remember its the worst day - all the bad behaviour and stress needs to be put into words on that form. Good luck!
  7. You would need to make any complaints to your old borough (as they are who you wish to complain about) you would need to write to the head of schools and inclusion and also send a copy to the chief exec (they like to be kept in the loop) If you have no joy then contact the Education Minister its Leighton Andrews that we contact in wales not sure about anywhere else!
  8. Yes he can! Contact your local DWP as you may be able to get a top up of income support aswell and the usual housing and council tax benefit
  9. If your going for a statement then good luck, if she's obtaning anything from low average up you may as well give in (I've been fighting for 1 for my son for over 3 years). They are trying to get rid of statementing altogether as they have brought in school action and school action plus (my son is on school action plus) which basically means they need the help but the school have to fund it! Approach your school and ask what stage your daughter is at and ask for them to get the educational psychologist in to do a review to see where she's at ability wise. If your going for the statement then its best to seek support from an outside agency - we have snap cymru in wales who will come to any meetings with you and help fill in paperwork etc (not sure where you live) but I'm sure you will have something similar where you are!
  10. I have found that every time I have put in a change of circumstances (change of address etc) they have always told me that they are all interconnected and will pass the info on! I being very cautious in nature have always informed them all anyway - better safe than sorry - and I'm glad I have now after seeing this. If you do it yourself the call is logged and there is no chance for human error!
  11. The legoland policy sounds awesome for families like mine with autistic children! Unfortunately I can't deem it fair if it favours 1 disability over another which it clearly does reading that statement! As for the complimentary wheelchair well, aren't these policies supposed to promote equality and independance? I can't see how giving someone a wheelchair and making them rely on someone to push them around promotes either! I can see the point where if you have a wheelchair bound disability it may not be an issue if you need to wait but no one should be forced into a wheelchair where the company claims to disability friendly!
  12. Well if that is the law then it is a joke I'm sorry!! I should not be made to do online shopping, I happen to enjoy going to my local supermarket - I have no childcare and see it as a way to socialise as I live in a small town and all the people I know also shop there - I don't feel I should face social isolation to get my 1 bottle of wine a week! As for leaving my children at home then yes maybe the younger 2 when they are at that age, but my AUTISTIC 7 year old may never be able to be left alone as he does not understand the concept of danger! I stated this in my original comment! If the law states that shop workers cannot sell alcohol to anyone with minors accompaying them then where will it stop? Will we not be able to buy tobacco and lotto tickets? Will we be stopped from getting medication from the doctor? They are trying to turn us into a 'what if' society, 'What if' they are buying alcohol for a minor, 'what if' they will give that prescripion medication to their minor. I am sorry but they may as well stop selling it altogether because the next step will be to prove you haven't got any children 'just incase' you give it to them when you get home!! I completely understand them stopping people with minors that are not theirs with them, but there comes a point when you have to trust the responsibility of the minors parent and look at perhaps fining them if caught instead!
  13. And I believe I am correct in saying that you are lawfully allowed an alcoholic drink when purchasing food in a pub etc from 16!
  14. Couldn't believe I was reading that, leave your child at home to buy alcohol what is the world coming to! @ Nystagmite we live in a society where the law states innocent until proven guilty!
  15. There was absolutely no proof that the alcohol was for the minor! I am not going to pay £5 delivery when the shop is just down the road and there isn't anyone who can get it for me as the only person who helps me is ME! And as far as leaving the children at home - well I am just astounded, did you even read my comment? My son has a disability and I have another 2 small children my partner works a 60 hour week and I have no other support, so are you telling me to leave my 7, 4 and 2 year old home alone? I think you will find the penalty for this is far worse than buying alcohol for a minor!! And btw when you have to deal with a child with autism all week I think an alcoholic beverage on the weekend is a necessity as its what keeps me sane!
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