Thank you for your kind words.

I posted a request for help. One person in particular has been really kind and helpful. Thank you. Other posts have not helped at all. I am so stressed over this issue that today I am contacting the ET to tell them I don't want to go ahead. Just going back through all my old records has made me genuinely feel very ill. Think it is time to move on.

Thank you for this. I must admit that I feel like walking away from the whole case at the moment, as just going back through my paperwork has made me feel really ill.

Basically I am bringing a case for constructive dismissal having been bullied and undermined. I'm hesitant to post the 10 questions publicly, but they basically want me to give times dates, witnesses and nature of my complaint. All these points were covered at grievance meetings which incidentally I never got minutes of until after I resigned which was approx 9 months later!

I submitted my ET forms and have now received a letter from my employer's Legal and Democratic Services Dept requesting additional information. The last paragraph states "please provide this information by Friday 20th March 2009 in default of which I will apply to the Tribunal for an Order directing you to do so" Is this normal and do I respond back to this letter or should I purely be dealing with the Tribunal itself? The letter itself is of really poor quality with one of the questions saying "Please say your raising the concern was responded to". I must admit I was furious as the wrong initial was typed in the address (which happens to be the same as my other half) and they opened this letter thinking it was for them. Thank god it wasn't one of my children who opened it instead. Thank you in advance.

No I won't go back. As I've always been the type who can sort out my legal affairs without help, never bothered with taking out legal help option on my insurances. Regret this now! Even took Tescos to small clailms court and they settled out of court! Luckily as I can access my work pc remotely, on my first day of sickness I printed off as many relevant e-mails as possible. Unfortunately my boss was the type of person who would be a pig to my face but say thank you in e-mails. I have used CAB in the past but have ended up knowing more than them. The last time I saw them they actually asked if they take copies of my correspondence to use in their folder as they said they were better than their own! I know I could go along for a fixed fee appointment with my solicitor but it would be impossible to cover everything in 30 minutes and my money is running out fast! Do have a business idea for self-employment which I'm running with at the moment so am doing as much research as possible reference this.

Well I think I only got as far as Stage 2. Had first meeting with my manager's line manager, personnel and union rep who only briefed himself fully about my problems en-route to meeting. Had a second meeting whereby they tried to persuade me to invite my manager (was frightened of my manager so hoped by involving her manager he could deal with matter accordingly) and then final meeting when my manager was also present. He invited another manager along as back up so I felt it was like a kangaroo court with two managers who happened to be best friends and their manager one side and me the other! Was told there would be another meeting but this never materialised despite my e-mails asking when it would happen. Instead my manager and his manager tried to have private meetings with me to discuss my role at work. Never had any notes from the first three meetings and cannot tell you what the conclusion of the grievance was because it wasn't concluded. Wish I could afford legal advise but can't. I think if they offered me a million pounds to go into work I wouldn't, not all the while I'd have to work for the same supervisors who are as corrupt as anything. Also think that if I did go back, they would be lying in wait hoping I'd make a mistake and then try to get me out on a discipline charge. Let's hope I get a lottery win tonight. If I was single and didn't have a wife and kids to consider I wouldn't mind as much. Really do appreciate all the help this site offers.

I just can't afford to be on half pay which will only last another four weeks. I did assume that Unison would give me access to legal help, but this seems to be like getting blood out of a stone. I couldn't survive on benefits so feel I'm in a catch 22 situation. Would the fact that I never had a written conclusion to my grievance in itself be a breach of contract?

Well still signed off with work related stress. Drove past my work place the other day and ended up having to pull into Morrisson's car park with a panic attack - not good at all. I was signed off for a further 6 weeks on the 26th August and just know I can't go back working for a boss who is making me feel so ill. I would like advice on how to word my resignation letter. I did start a grievance procedure at the beginning of the year and I have still not had any written notes of the meetings held. I feel I have a case for constructive decision and keep asking Unison for help but have now given up with them. Any help in what is the best wording to use would be appreciated. Bearing in mind I have unused holiday entitlement, do I give my notice in four weeks before the sick note ends? By the way, I think I now go down to half pay, so cannot financially afford to be signed off any longer. If need be I'd have to get a job stacking shelves in my nearby supermarket in order to support my family. Many thanks

Well have just got off the phone yet again to my union office. This time started to really rant which I regretted as it wasn't the person's fault in the office that no one ever gets back to me. She said constructive dismissal cases are very difficult to prove so they don't normally take them on then. What on earth is the point of a union? To me this is outrageous - although I have witnesses to my manager's behaviour as she has also put me down/ridiculed me in staff meetings, these staff are not going to put their jobs on the line by going to a tribunal and to be honest I wouldn't blame them. This seems to mean that unless there is written evidence to prove it, employers can get away with whatever they want and the union won't offer support either.

Just want to say thanks guys for all your help and support. I used to love my job but know that for the sake of my health and that of my wife and family that I cannot return to work for someone who has constantly undermined me, held me back career wise and more to the point lied alongside his own line manager. Did contact the union when I first when sick to see if I have a case of unfair dismissal but despite constant phone calls to them whereby I'm promised a call back, am still waiting. I was told by someone at the Unison Head Office that I should complain, but feel too worn down to do so. Again thanks and I'll keep you updated.

Hi everyone, just discovered this excellent site. I have been off sick for 8 weeks with work related stress (yes I've gone through grievance process which was waste of time). Have been continously undermined by my manager for sometime and cannot put up with much more. Have just received a letter requesting I meet with him to discuss my sickness so that occupational health forms can be sent off. Bearing in mind he is the cause of my stress, the thought of meeting with him has made me go to pieces. I have no problem with meeting with occupational health, but do I have to meet with my boss first? Do I also have to give OH permission to access my full medical records as I obviously have personal stuff which I which to remain private? Many thanks