Hi,
Try not to feel overwhelmed by the situation, Lloyds definately try to play hard and scare you into not carrying on with a claim.
I think you literally have to push them to the courts door before they will give your money back. This as it happens is a fairly lengthy process; I'm currently 2-3 months into my claim now I think.
As everyone has said make sure you read all of the FAQs and try to read other peoples threads.
You can always use this/your own thread to ask questions and get support. If your really not sure, always ask on here before you send anything off regarding your claim.
Anyways, Ill go now, Im making a habit of nattering on a bit

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Best of luck!